Tarnished

You should tell him, and you should go see the Bishop and begin to work towards repentance. Speak to your bishop about your fears that your husband might hurt you. Carrying that sin without confessing it is not something you want to be doing. It may seem like the easier thing right now, but it is not. It eats you up inside. The best thing to do is to confess and work towards repentance. You could start by telling your bishop first, he will tell you to tell your husband. However, if you tell your bishop first you can also tell him your fears of harm, then if something does happen you have someone who knows and can help you. Also he can probably give you advice based on what the spirit tells him.

My parents had a dog that died while they were on a walk, they were too far from home to and could not carry her as she weighed over 100 lbs. My dad gave her a blessing and she came back to life and walked the rest of the way home. She lived for a few more days before they put her to sleep. She had stopped eating and they could tell she was dying. My dad has said that he wished he hadn't given her the blessing, not because he feels it was inappropriate but rather because he prolonged her life when he feels like he should have let her pass away. I personally see no problem with blessing animals. We are told to pray over everything, and the way I often see a blessing is a way to open ourselves up to counsel and blessings. For many people their animals are a big part of their lives, why wouldn't they want to pray for them and bless then when needed?

1. I tend to pocket dial people every so often, this usually happens when I have my bluetooth in my pocket and it actually dials people. 2. I tend to get a lot of pocket dial calls from my husband, he likes to carry his bluetooth in his pocket and his phone really likes me. There have been some days where I will find that I had three calls from him that I missed and I will find that all three were pocket dials. Sometimes I catch them and then call him back asking if he just called. Usually all that I hear is a lot of rustling, sometimes the radio, and very often the book on tape that he is listening to as he drives to work. 3. Never had a really interesting one, however I have had some instances where I was on a call with someone and when it came time to hang up I never did and just listened to see if they were going to hang up. Those have lead to interesting things to overhear.

I would say that more likely than not the actual act of the affair does come down to straight lust. However, that being said, what leads up to it is often not based on lust. Often it is based on an unmet need. The problem comes when the person makes the choice to go to someone else to have those needs met.

I have had recurring dreams, but very often I have dreams that happen in the same place. From these dreams I have discovered that I often dream in a dream world of sorts. I will have different dreams but they will happen in the same place as another dream. Or I will explore one part of a city in one dream and explore another part of the same city in another dream. These dreams are often some of my most vivid dreams. I find that I often feel as if my dreams have meaning but I don’t really know what they are trying to tell me.

We actually have a "Mother's Room" in my building, and you can schedule to use it through our Outlook system.

I had to go through this as well. At first it was an almost unsuppressible need to know how he was doing, how his wife was doing, what was going on with them, whether she knew or not. I am pretty sure that he never told her, and my bishop didn't ask me to write an apology to them. It was difficult to get past this part. It was difficult to let my worries for him go. And as I have mentioned to you before, as things went on my worries for him became anger against him as I began to see how he had manipulated me to do things that I was not comfortable with at the time. And that anger was very difficult to let go of. But in the end I prayed hard to forget him, to forgive him and forget him, to the point where I could not remember what he looked like or even his name. I still remember him, and his name, but I am beginning to forget and I have finally been able to forgive. When I dealt with it I began to look at it as a sort of strength training, I would focus my days on being so busy and full of things that I didn't have a chance to think about him. I purposely kept my thoughts away from him. Eventually it got easier and easier, until weeks had gone by without me thinking once about him. Pray for help. Pray that God will help you let go of your worry and help you let go of your thoughts of him. God will help you, it just takes time.

Repentance can seem difficult, and it is, repenting is not an easy thing where you can just say, "I'm sorry" and then have it be over immediately. However, though it is difficult it is worth it. Feeling forgiven is a wonderful thing. And yes I know how hard it is to go to church and not be able to take the sacrament, not pray in class, not have a calling. I did it for a year, and half of that year I was not able to speak in class either. So I went to church silent, without taking the sacrament, without praying, and yes it was hard, but now that I have been forgiven I can say that it was so worth it. And at first I can honestly say that I did not feel the Spirit, in fact I often felt little or nothing, even when I was at church. This made it difficult to keep on, but I did and now it is a wonderful thing to feel the Spirit again. Satan wants you to give up, he wants you to say, "This is too hard, I must not be ready for this." Because once you give up you will go back to what you were doing before, and it will not get better from there, instead it will get worse. Don't give up, don't turn back, keep on going. Heavenly Father wants you to return to him, he has blessings waiting for you, you just need to keep on going. My best advice, try to live as if you were a fully active member. Go to church, go to activities, do service if you can, and don't think about what you can't do, instead focus on what you can. And think about how sweet it will be once you are clean and pure again to take the sacrament and return to the temple. Be strong and keep on the path back to Heavenly Father and Christ.

I asked my mom who is currently a baptismal director at our temple what the protocol was regarding women and girls on their period. My mom said that they tell the women that if they are menstruating that they should use a tampon. She said that our temple actually has tampons on hand for those sisters who need them. Our temple does give the sisters the option to do confirmations only if they do not feel comfortable with getting baptized while on their cycle. She did mention that each temple is different and so what is done at one temple may be done differently at another.

Yea, that one still confuses me. I am not sure what to think about it.

One of the worst April Fools jokes I ever thought up I never actually did. It was during the time that my husband was fighting cancer. At the time he had just gotten out of the hospital from having a Bone Marrow Transplant, he was at the time (I think) going through radiation, though he was getting better he was not out of the death radar yet. When April Fools day arrived that year I got a terrible but wonderfully wicked thought for an April Fools joke. The joke would have happened like this: I planned to e-mail everyone, all my friends, all my family and say, “I just don’t know how to say this, today (my husband) died from cancer. This has been such a terrible blow. I just don’t know how to take it all in just yet.” And then way down at the bottom “Haha! Just Kidding! April Fools!” However, I decided that this would just be too mean of a joke and so I never did it. But it would have been such a great April Fools joke if I had done it.

I have a live journal blog, which is friend locked and not something I would be sharing here. I also have two blogger blogs, one of which is my own personal blog that I also have locked and the other of which is a blog that I have intended to do more with regarding our journey with infertility. Neither of which I will be sharing here. One thing I like about this site is that I can post annonymously as I have not used any of my usual internet handles, however because of that I will not be sharing anything that ruins that anominity. Now that being said I have to say that I really do love blogging and love reading other people's blogs.

So after making my post I decided to do a little bit of research. Surnames and the use of them are largely based on culture. Some cultures the woman takes the man's surname, in some the man takes the woman's, in some the woman's stays her "maiden name" or "birth name" and her surname passes on to her female children. In some they hyphenate the name, in some they make a new name out of the combination of the husband and wife's surnames. In genealogy they tend to refer to the wife using her maiden name as it helps to keep track of her lineage. In Islam the woman keeps her name so as to maintain ties to her lineage. As I said in my previous comment I think it really depends on the couple and how they want to deal with the surname issue. America is a melting pot, so here we seem to be the most open to whatever you want to do with your surname. Tradition tends to tie in a lot of emotions, but when it all comes down to it the choice of which surname to pick is really up to you. If you want to tie in respect or disrespect then that is your choice as well. I can see it both ways, and truthfully choose to not care. I have my husband's surname, but would have been more than happy to keep my maiden name. Meh, not really worth getting too worked up over if you ask me.

I have a friend who hyphenated his name when he got married, mostly because he was upset with his family and wanted to take his wife's name instead. I think at first he was going to drop his surname completely, but I have seen his name hyphenated now. I am not sure if his wife hyphenated or not. Truthfully other than how it relates to geneology I am not sure how big of a deal it really is. I suppose it really depends on how each person in the couple getting married feels about it.

By the Spirit, by the blessings I see in my every day life, by the way I feel when I say my prayers, by the miracles I see happen in my life and others. I think my relationship with Heavenly Father is easy for me because I have a loving caring earthly father who I can relate to. On the other hand I have difficulty with my relationship with Jesus because my relationship with my earthly brother is difficult. How is your relationship with your own father?

Since I have been married my husband and I have gone through quite a few trials. However, through it all I have looked at things this way. Instead of focusing on the trials and trying to find someone to blame for them I instead try to work my way out of the trials and look for the blessings that Heavenly Father is giving me. Instead of looking at each trial and asking, “Why did Heavenly Father give me this trial?” instead look at each trial and say, “Look at the ways Heavenly Father is helping me make it through this.” Trials are part of life, no one gets through life with smooth sailing all the way, and if they do, then chances are that they didn’t learn much on their trip. Trials help us to stretch and grow and make us stronger. When things get hard, pray for help and then thank Heavenly Father for the help he gives you. And when things are going good, look for ways to help others who may be going through their own trials, it is your way to say thank you for the help you received when you were going through trials. I don’t necessarily believe that God gives us trials, instead I think he allows things to happen and then waits for us to ask for help. And even when we don’t ask, I think he still sends us blessings. He loves us dearly and wishes to bless us, we just have to open ourselves up to those blessings.

I was in much the same situation when I got married. I knew that my fiance had gone all the way. And it was difficult to deal with. For a very long time it felt like someone had blown a hole in my heart. And for a long time it didn't get much better. But over time and after some experiences that caused me to see things differently I began to forgive and forget. The pain eventually went away. People like to say to forgive, and it is true that you should forgive. But what I think many don't realize is that when something like this happens it is difficult to forgive, and it can take time, just as it will take time for the sinner to achieve repentance. It is a process that you have to work at. Complete forgiveness can be achieved and should be achieved, but it will take time. And the pain will take time to fade as well.

Bullying does cause long-term damage. If you survive it (and don't commit suicide) you probably will be stronger because of it, but it also means that you will probably have problems with certain things as well. I have always had self-esteem issues, and it actually took a few years of my husband getting after me before I would admit to being beautiful. With me it had a lot to do with the fact that when I was going through the worst of all the bullying my brother began to say cruel things to me at home as well. It made my self worth plummet as a teen. It has taken years to get to a point where I feel good about myself and feel strong in my self image. Besides this, I don't think my classmates knew how much damage to my opinion of them they did, but there are some of them that if I met today I would have nothing to do with them because of what they did to me back then. When I was in school I would have been delieriously happy if something awful had taken them all out. Being so awful to another human that they hope for your death is something pretty messed up in my opinion. Being so awful to another human that they take their own life to get away from you is also something that is pretty messed up in my opinion. My greatest wish when I was a teen was this. That every person who ever had picked on me would have to go through just one day of my life at the time. I just wanted to see what it would do to them. I remember seeing one popular girl get teased by her friends for just a few minutes and she broke down into a sobbing mess. It makes me want to make sure that none of my kids EVER pick on another child the way I was picked on, no one ever needs to go through that kind of treatment.

No at leasts about it, he needs to have no access to the internet when you are not around. And when you are around you should keep an eye on what he is looking at. My husband and I have been fighting against the pornography problem our entire marriage. I suspected it when I married him, but discovered the truth not long after we were married. At first I threatened divorce. But over time I realized that I really loved him, and didn't want to leave him. I came to the conclusion that if he really wanted to change then he was going to need help from someone, and that someone was me. Currently both of our computers are password locked. I am the one who keeps the password. If he wants to use the internet then he needs to come to me to log in to his computer for him. And if I were you, I would ask to attend one of the meetings he has with the Bishop. Don't go to rat on him, or turn him in for not doing things right, instead go to help support him. For me it finally came down to a point where I sat my husband down and said, "I love you. And I want you to end up with me in the Celestial Kingdom, to do so you will need to overcome this addiction. Tell me what I can do to help you over come it. Do we need to lock the computers? Do we need to turn off our internet? Do we need to get rid of our cable? What do we need to do to take away the triggers?" And if he is willing to work through this with you then he will work with you on this. When it comes to marriage and sexual sins it really comes down to trust. By commiting the sexual sin we break the trust of our spouse, to move forward, to move past the sin and to rebuild the marriage we have to work at rebuilding that trust. When it comes to repenting from porn it is the same thing, it is a sexual sin, and so the sinner has to work at rebuilding the trust of their spouse. They have to find ways to earn the trust back that they broke. Saying that though, if the spouse wants to continue on with the sinner then they also need to work. They need to work at supporting their spouse in the repentance process, they need to work at fixing the marriage on their side as well. And above all they need to be willing to forgive when the repentance process is over. Remember though, trust and forgiveness are two different things. Though the spouse may have forgiven the sinner they may not trust the sinner with certain things. I feel for you and hope things work out well with you and your husband.

Let's see, I was bullied from Kindergarten to 12th grade. The worst of it happened in junior high where I was physically, emotionally, mentally and sexually abused by my fellow classmates. It got to a point where the principal gave me permission to make a list of all the boys who had sexually abused me at some point or another be it verbally or physically, the list contained almost every boy in my class. Through all of this I had one friend that stuck with me through it all, she was bullied and teased to a greater extent than I was so we stuck together like glue. Eventually as I got into high school things got a bit better and I got a few more friends. Then in my senior year my best friend (the one mentioned above) graduated early and went to college so that she could escape the bullying. With her gone I found some sort of inner strength and started standing up to me. I made more friends among the lower classmen and ended up getting to a point where people left me alone. Looking back on it all I can honestly say that all the bullying caused me to become stronger and taught me to ignore it when someone is being a jerk like that. However, I can honestly say that those years were the worst of my life, and if I had been given the choice I would have rather been homeschooled.

I think the counsel given is due to cultural differences. The idea is this, marriage is difficult, you will have times that try you to your core, and adding cultural differences into the mix can cause additional problems to the regular problems that married people already see. As others have said, the counsel is really advice not a commandment to not marry outside of your race. If the person makes you happy and you think you could be happy married to them then I don't think there is any problem with marrying them. You should however be ready for the trials that may come up from a multi-racial marriage.

I majored in English. Has it helped me in my current career field? Yes and no, yes because I tend to have a more professional written style than many of my co-workers, no because what I am doing really has nothing to do with English. However, my education did help me to get into my job, and helped to get me the wage I earn (sorry I am not sharing that).

I grew up in Illinois, raised in an active LDS home. When I went out to BYU - Idaho I actually went through culture shock. This was because when you have a high concentration of any religion you often see a larger population of the whole belief spectrum. This means that you will see a large concentration of "Super Mormons" those people who try to do everything and often end up telling everyone else how they should live as well. You will also see a high concentration of "Jack Mormons" or people who are Mormon only in name. They sometimes attend church, but they often don't live the gospel. And you will also see a higher concentration of all people in between these two extremes. And this is all because you have a higher concentration of people of the LDS religion out there. After getting married I lived in Utah for 6 years. While there I saw that the people there are just like they are in every other ward, there is just more of them. This can mean that you might see shocking things come into the open sooner than you would in a smaller ward. However, just because there are more members out there doesn't mean they aren't good people, it just means that you will see more sides of the spectrum than you would elsewhere.

My husband would like a large family, I would like a smaller one. However we have both decided to consult with God regarding each pregnancy. We have to go to the doctor to get pregnant so planning our pregnancies is something we have to do. As for people who comment about family size. Like many other people have mentioned, they really should keep their noses out of other people's business. Their choices for family should not affect other people's choices. Being righteous is good, but being self righteous not so much. As my husband and I have had difficulties with having children I have just found pleasant ways to explain the situation to people who ask about why we don't have kids, usually I make it just awkward enough that they don't ask about it again.

Let's see... Drinking alcohol, oh wait, that can lead to getting drunk, and the possibility of getting addicted to alcohol...nevermind Experimenting sexually, oh wait that can lead to diseases and possibly messed up behavior...nevermind Smoking, wait that can lead to addiction not to speak of the loss of taste, the smell, and the other health hazards...nevermind Hmm, I can't seem to think of any good ones.