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All brilliant stuff, although I would have liked to see Europe and Australia represented.

I actually think Eve is very beautiful in this film.

That is twice I have seen this today, and that on it's own is an answer to a prayer for me. :) Thank you.

I have owned a house in England and the land it was on so I'm not sure what your friend is talking about Bini. :)

I am truly sorry you are experiencing all this. You sound so exhausted and downtrodden. Smoking is only the presenting problem here. Underneath this presenting problem appears to be a host of different behaviors covering deceit, control, emotional abuse and a loss of self. You sound as if you are losing 'you' in this. You also mentioned a past abusive relationship. I would suggest some individual counseling for you before you do lose yourself totally and to find out why you are attracted to this type of behavior. You would then be able to go into marriage counseling stronger and more able to recognize exactly what you need and deserve. I wish you well, it's a long journey, but one that may be very rewarding to you in the long run. Edited to say, remember you cannot change anyone else's behavior, only your own.

Mine too! Having just moved to the UK I have found that a lot of people here use LEDs and they actually look really funky. I like them and they don't play havoc with my migraines. I like the look of the newcandescents. Anything that will take the place of fluorescent is good stuff in my book. :)

That can happen to my towels too. I found a good hot wash will take care of the problem.

Where I live, people actually walk to most places. :D

I wish we had communities like that here, Anatess, but unfortunately, having lived in the rural South of the US, I would hugely disagree with you that they take of their own. I am not from the South and I was an outsider the whole time I lived there. It is hard to break into the circles, even if you do marry into a family. My husband is native to the South and our son was treated like an alien, even though we were part of a huge family. The intolerance and ignorance of his condition was astounding. So nope, no taking care of their own there. I do understand where they were coming from though, it's easier to avoid a situation that you don't understand or really know how to deal with. But it would be wonderful if the foundation of society would once again knit together. I have to agree with you there. Family units would not be left on their own to become overwhelmed.

But what happens when families can't cope with their family members who are mentally ill?

Of course we don't want gun control to become a responsibility of doctors. The majority of mass shootings are done by those who are mentally ill, which shows the system is failing. As I said, I have experience of this with my own son. He has high risk behaviors, and is taken into hospital when he has violent episodes, drugged up to the eyeballs and then sent home, left to us to cope with. This is not safe for anyone and totally beyond anything that the regular person can cope with. There is nowhere anymore long term for people with these illnesses, so they are in public domain. I can tell you first hand, this is very dangerous.

Sorting the Mental Health system in the States wouldn't be a bad start. Having a son who has severe psychiatric issues, with high risk behavior, and having had first hand experiences of the system, that's where I would turn my sights to.

The term British Subject is defunct now. British people are British Citizens and have been for many years.

Because mental illness has been pushed aside and underfunded for so long by the health community. As I stated in my post, education of triggers and what I can do to recognize and avoid those triggers have been a great help to me. More education would really help this. Some mental illness although, is totally unavoidable and can't be avoided at any cost, only controlled.

I have suffered on and off with depression and anxiety ever since I was adolescent. I cannot take medication for it so have had to get along the best I can with it. After one particularly bad bout which really threw me under and took me a good few years to get over, I returned back to school to train to become a Therapeutic Counselor. On this course I became educated about mental illness. I learned that it is important to look out for my own personal triggers of what brings on my depression and anxiety. The reason I am saying this is that although for me, depression and anxiety are part of my biological make up, they are not a choice, I can help myself by becoming aware of what my triggers are and what works for me in helping myself to avoid or counteract these triggers before they affect me too greatly. I feel very blessed to have been able to learn this for myself. If I could take medication it would make it so much easier. Many people need both medication and therapy and there is nothing wrong with that whatsoever. It is very important to remember that some people do get stuck in a rut with depression and it does control their lives and they may not have the tools or stamina to be able to help themselves. We are each born with different temperaments and different levels of being able to cope. I know through my own experience that my levels of coping are way below what they used to be before I became ill. Just because some people can pull themselves out of depression or other situations, does not mean that everyone has that same ability to do so. Saying all of that, there are people out there who do take advantage and may have a mild form and use it to be able to sponge of society or other people. I am aware of some people who I know who do just that. It's hard and frustrating to see that, especially when you do know people who are really suffering. But then the Counselor in me, looks at that and wonders why they feel the need to do that. Each of our life scripts are so different and there's always a reason we do everything. One thing is for sure, we are all on the mental health spectrum to one degree or another.

Errrm, what is Elf on the Shelf? I have never heard of it!

I am so glad I wasn't the only one that felt that way. It felt to me that some of the people that commented looked upon Garments as a nuisance and should be adapted to suit their fashion needs. I understand that there are some genuine health issues that could be aggravated by garments and in those circumstances it can be understandable that adjustments would need to be made, but some of those commenting just seemed to be inconvenienced by their garments. It's ok to wear your regular undergarments underneath or on top of your garments during your period. I have to do this.

I'm just not sure that she would be reassured though. I believe that she needs to work from within and not expect her husband to 'fix' everything for her. That would be an impossible task for him. She is showing typical symptoms of an addictive personality. She has not yet taken responsibility for this and is still in denial and playing the blame game. This will go on until she reaches the point where she will take responsibility. This may take a lot of counseling, but Mudfisher, you need to protect you and the children in the meantime. Part of the way you can do this is trying to not let her get into your head and manipulate you. Get some counseling for yourself to help you with this. I wish you luck. :)

Just A Guy is correct. Obviously a counselor who shares your belief system is a better option, but if that is not available to you, then any counselor should be able to deal with your situation in a professional manner. If you find that a counselor is not doing that, then I would change to a different one. As counselors, we are trained to deal with any situation in an accepting, non judgmental way. Of course, we are not perfect either. But you should never feel ridiculed, or belittled in any way. Look around. Ask others you may know who have visited counselors if they have any recommendations. Good luck. :)

What things stay on your records? I thought disfellowshipment and excommunication were removed from your records once taken care of? It seems as if it does stay on your records if it's a factor in what callings you can hold. Does leadership at Ward/Stake level have access to this, or is it just kept in the archives at SLC for the General Leadership of the Church?

Me too! Although I didn't marry a man who looks like him. My husband in his younger years, quite favored Donny Osmond. <3

Or even being excluded from particular jobs all together. There are tons of jobs that have height requirements.

I saw them being evacuated on Good Morning America this morning! They interviewed one of them. It was so awesome to see them safe and sound. I am so thankful they are safe and sound. I have to admit, I see how bad the devastation is over there, it's awful, yet I am so impressed at how organized the rescue efforts seem to be in this disaster. I don't know, it just looks more organized than a lot of the other disasters we have seen in recent years. God bless those people.

This really isn't about your marriage, this is about your anxiety. I have anxiety too, and if I question myself in any little way it can blow a perfectly normal thought into an irrational one in a heartbeat. Your anxiety is clinging to these thoughts like a limpet to a rock. Treat the anxiety and the 'drama' surrounding these thoughts will disappear. :)

I definitely would not want my daughter to work there. Those outfits are immodest. The top is tight and shows cleavage and the shorts are way too short. I want people to be able to look at my daughter for her natural beauty inside and out. Those outfits imo are there to incite lustful thoughts and she is better than that! Sorry, just my opinion.