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I'm going to have to listen closer now as I have never heard or recall of hearing an American missing out their 'T's. Miss Observant I am! It's funny because in England it sounds to us that Americans replace their double 't's with 'd's. So for an English person to hear an American say 'kitten' it sounds like 'kidden'. English people, especially in London, leave out 't's all over the place, 'h's too.

As John Doe said. It is different, plus you have to buy your phones and have to buy upgrades. Stick to the UK, cell phones and usage are a lot cheaper there.

Not sure I agree with this. My friend's husband was a pedohile (obviously they are divorced now). When he was arrested he was subject to having a test done where he was required to watch certain pornographic images, whilst being wired to a machine to measure his sexual reactions. He was shown not to be attracted to adult males or females, but was shown to be attracted to pre-adolscent children. I know this is only one person, but I'm sure this is pretty much common practice and there must have been studies done.

Well one way it would affect climax with your spouse, if you are self satisfying, you may desire to have sex with your spouse less as the drive would probably lessen.

I actually agree with this. I think the main issue is with the dictionary definition of the word 'preside' which is to 'have authority', 'to control'.

Sometimes people may feel so desperate and not know where else to turn, and that is why they may post in a desperate way on the forums. They just want someone to listen and help with 'their' story and tell it in a way it seems to them. So although similar stories may have been posted a hundred times before, it is not their story and takes away the need for them to express themselves. People have a need to be listened to, and if I am sitting telling my story in an emotionally distressed situation, I'm going to be telling it how it feels to me at that time. I think it's important to have empathy and try to understand where that person is at that particular point in time.

I've been having weird hallucinations over the last few years on waking up. I have also been under a lot of stress too. I wake up seeing something in the room and screaming, and last night I woke up to see a hand coming through the wall. I know they are the waking up hallucinations as they fade. I attribute it to stress and night terrors. But I do remember when I was about five (I wasn't LDS then) being wide awake and seeing at the end of my bed four 'Priests' from different religion denominations pointing at me. I remember it clear as day. I ran and called my mum, I was so scared. The difference between the hallucinations and that experience is that the hallucinations gradually fade, the men didn't.

Ruthiechan, I have read that article before and I just read it through again. And I agree with it. The question I have concerns when people talk about the husband pulling rank as he is the head of the home and presides. How is this possible in an equal relationship? The article does not cover that question. What happens in a stalemate situation? Does the husband as the head of the home have the final say? I'm really not trying to pick, I'm just trying to understand how there can be one presider, yet still an equal relationship.

I get soooo confused with this. Now if a man has a final say as the 'head of the home' or there can only be one head, how is this an equal partnership? Someone please explain to me. Because all I can see in my mind is yes we can discuss this, but I (the man) have the authority to pull rank if I need to. That in my mind is not an equal partnership.

All well and good, but if you are in a Church lesson with one of these and are asked to read a Scripture, please please please allow people who have regular Scriptures time to find them.:)

Thank you, you have answered my questions. :)

I know this was a popular missionary video back in the eighties, but my question is, is it used now? Is it still considered credible? What is the general consensus of the Book of Mormon and the ancient civilisation evidence in South America?

In my work with clients, I find that helping them accept anger as a normal part of the grieving process helps them heal a lot faster. If they are able to recognise and accept the anger as normal then they will move through that stage a lot faster. Telling someone that it is wrong to be angry, that they 'shouldn't' be angry, invalidates their feelings, encourages suppression which then leads to a whole host of other issues. Anger should learn to be expressed in healthy ways, not taught to be suppressed. That is how it becomes unhealthy, and oftimes leads to explosive anger. Anger is a protective mechanism used to protect our emotional well being. Sometimes to be able to turn the other cheek, we have to process and feel our emotions to get to that stage. If someone hurts me, I may go home, stew on it a while, feel every emotion I need to feel about it, then I will be able to get over it. I allow myself time to process. For me that is how I have to be to enable me to not suppress emotions.

I think half the problem lies here. Are you really listening to what she is saying? It appears to be a miscommunication which is common amongst men and women. What I understand her to be saying is, "I'm lonely here, there is no one with whom I feel familiarity, my whole life has been turned upside down". Whereas you as a man, took her words at face value. This is perfectly normal and there is no condemning going on here. What she wanted from you, is someone to have empathy with her, rather than a solution. Women tend to seek empathy, men tend to seek solutions. A good marriage happens when the couple become aware of and learn each other's communication techniques.

Anger is a God given emotion. We all possess it as human beings. It is useful in many healing processes such as bereavement and is a natural part of that process. We wouldn't heal without it. It is also a protective mechanism. Only when used in a destructive manner does it become unhealthy. It can also be used in a healthy way to show people our indignation, such as Christ overturning the tables in the Temple. And as with all other emotions it can be controlled. Only when it is uncontrollable does it cause problems.

What surprises me too is that they have not hospitalised this child. He obviously is a danger to others and that is one of the prerequisites for hospitalisation.

I am concerned about this as well as the 'glamourisation' of the whole issue. This child is getting an awful lot of attention over a hugely negative incident. I'm not sure this is such a brilliant idea.

Hmmm not sure I'd call the kid a brat. More like a kid who is great need of some help. I'm with Pam on this, I have mixed feelings. I hope this child is getting some major psychiatric help.

I agree with Anatess. Also some of these bills are very complicated and I'm sure the majority of the people would not read them or some may not understand them completely, therefore would be voting blindly.

LOL indeed!:)

I appear to have offended you and that definitely was not my intention. I really don't appreciate being called a martyr as I don't think I am. I know things can be misunderstood whilst posting on the internet and maybe my style of posting led to a misunderstanding. I'm sorry for that, I don't wish any malice between us at all. :)

Please don't judge me. You have no idea of the stress I have in my life. Yes I have had severe stress induced migraines. If you want I can send you a list of my life stresses via pm but I am not willing to write it all down here. I don't wish to play that game. I never said that you just had to 'deal with it'. No one can do that, but there are techniques that you can learn to help you change the way that you internalise stress. And I never said it is easy, it's darn hard work. I understand that with Bipolar it makes life more complicated to deal with in many ways. My son suffers from it so I do have an understanding of it. All I know is that my life will become pretty miserable when I can no longer use incandescent bulbs. LED and Halogen lights tend to be too harsh and bright for me. If I thought it was for environmental reasons that the change was being made, then I might be more understanding of the situation. Ever drove through a city at night and seen all the lights in offices lit up like fairgrounds 24/7?

I met my husband whilst he was serving his mission. We have been married 20 years now. Wish you all the luck in the world!:)

You choose the way that you deal with stress. There are stress relieving techniques and therapies around that you can use to change your mindset in dealing with it. People with photosensitive migraines and epilepsy do not choose these illnesses. How would you suggest that they light their house? I'm not saying that incandescent light bulbs should be provided just for them, I'm saying that the choice that will affect their life greatly should not be taken away. I'm just hoping for all these people that will be affected in a negative way that there will be affordable choices available to them.

And I'm really happy for you, but that does not negate that there are people out there who will suffer from this and have had the choice took away from them. There are many people whose migraines are triggered from fluorescent lighting and there are many epileptics who are light sensitive that have to avoid them. I still believe that this is one choice that should not be removed.