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  1. First - Sorry you're dealing with this. It's unfortunate that your kids are being enabled, crippled and stunted in their growth. Some good insights have already been shared but I'm wondering if the underlying issue is that if your wife doesn't 'help' them with money, that she won't feel needed and/or loved by them. I also see the kids as part of the problem. They are way too comfortable accepting all this 'help' so I would be asking them some questions. Maybe they think mom will feel slighted if they turn it down so they don't or maybe they see Sam getting money and they don't think it's fair if they don't get their piece of the pie as well. There are a myriad of possibilities but I think some discussions need to be had. Money issues usually aren't about money so I hope you can work through whatever the issues really are.
  2. Re: the written account - Is the difference in the Ensign or on lds.org or both?
  3. Was going to run an errand but can't find my keys so I'll respond further - What would be Christlike is preventing this from happening to other teachers in this child's future so I suggest trying to turn it into a teaching moment for the mom. An ounce of prevention...
  4. I'm also in the 'do not enable this mother' camp and no, you're not being unchristlike for establishing a boundary.
  5. No, it's not. People are first to turn to family for help (including extended). Now back to regular programming ---
  6. Had another thought - If there's someone in particular that she would listen to, have that person address things with her since she would (hopefully) be more receptive of the message.
  7. Not sure how many employees there are so this may or may not work but my father-in-law started a small business to help his kids earn money during the summers and if they were slacking he would tell them that "right now you're earning about $5 per hour" and they knew to step it up cuz that's what they'd get paid if they didn't.
  8. @Lilyflowers88 - In case you hadn't heard this: "We are disciples and our messages should be authentic. A person or product that is not authentic is false, fake, and fraudulent. Our messages should be truthful, honest, and accurate. We should not exaggerate, embellish, or pretend to be someone or something we are not. Our content should be trustworthy and constructive. And anonymity on the Internet is not a license to be inauthentic." - Elder David A. Bednar
  9. Disagree. We're blessed when we do these things. My parents are exhibit A.
  10. First off, my condolences. As far as what to use and where to start - I have no idea so ask several of the temple & fam history consultants in your area (several because I've learned that some really know their stuff and others don't). Maybe someone else will chime in but someone local would be able to be more hands on.
  11. Activity Days for girls 8-11 oh - and visiting teacher
  12. So my previous idea was a bust - perhaps this?: Speaking as one who's been given a lot of copies of charts, pedigrees, stories, etc over the years, I suggest something along the lines of what Anatess mentioned. Maybe start a 'family stories book series' and focus on a different person/couple/family line each year. It doesn't have to be very big either and you could pair it with something about that person (ie garden seeds because grandma smith loved gardening) which would personalize it a bit more. PS - re: familysearch - try a different browser (chrome or firefox - not explorer) or a different day other than Sunday
  13. Wonderful gift idea! For picts, stories, etc of those that have passed, I would put all of that on familysearch where everyone can access it as needed. This would mean they could download picts to resize for wall portraits or for school projects without being nervous they would ruin the original. It would also preserve all of that in case of fire, flood, etc. I would use the binder idea for picts/stories of those that are still living since that wouldn't be accessible to everyone.
  14. I wondered the same thing when I was selling a home so I asked my bishop about paying tithing and he said no but one thing you could do is make a sizable donation to the church humanitarian fund.
  15. Agree with the others and would also let your bishop know in case others are getting these same unwanted visits.
  16. Aside from the cost of temples, the Church does a lot to help those in need so it's not like we build expensive buildings exclusively. I'd ask the questioner what they do personally to help feed the poor. Too many think it's up to 'someone else'.
  17. One other thought - What you think matters. Go into these situations hopeful and project that to others. Instead of telling yourself they're "ugly, mean" / "mean, aggressive, angry" - come up with a more positive take.
  18. Kill em with kindness?? Oh and congrats on the promotion!
  19. Not everything is about whether or not it passes for a temple rec. Sometimes it's how it will affect you. There are more consequences to less-than-wholesome media than people realize. Also, these days it's not just R rated movies that should be avoided.
  20. No capes or hats. A solemn assembly is held (a lot like General Conference). Here's one: https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1995/04/the-solemn-assembly-sustaining-of-church-officers?lang=eng
  21. Even if going out west is what you end up doing, you can still write, facebook chat, call, skype, etc. I know it's not the same as being there but you can still have some influence so saying you're 'abandoning them' doesn't fit. Sending love and hugs.
  22. Yay! for steamed broccoli! The first thing that came to mind for leafy greens is lettuce wraps (think taco). Iceberg lettuce doesn't have much nutritional value so try romaine maybe (something with big leaves). Anyway, you can fill it with whatever suits your fancy. Just google for ideas. Yummy!
  23. I get where you're coming from. Perhaps, though, this should be looked at by percentage. There are 9 women in leadership positions but roughly 100 men who could be asked to speak (at least). With roughly 7 speakers each session (not including women's or priesthood since they're shorter), it's not as unbalanced as it looks. Can someone do the math on this or correct me if I'm mistaken?