my two cents

@LiterateParakeet They're bringing all of the sciences together instead of looking at things from each individual lens (earth science, biology, physics, etc).

I recently listened to a science-related webinar and learned of this site. It may be worth looking over: https://universalmodel.com/

The YSA ward in our stake would practice before institute or fhe. Just a thought.

Instachoir! Some of the best turn out I've seen has been when anyone was invited to go up. The choir director had basic instructions written (ladies 1st vs, men 2nd vs, etc) and would hold it up and then post it on the music stand. We're not competing with the Motab - just singing praises and bringing the Spirit into the meeting.

just consulted google and this site came up - https://midsingles.wordpress.com/

Have you checked facebook for lds singles groups? You can either join them and get to know people (that might lead to something else) or they might know of options to try.

Haven't seen the new one cause can't stand the old. Way too cheesy for me.

It sure would be nice if people would start to understand that having an opinion does not = being judgmental. I thought my suggestion/s were quite fair and I'm sorry you didn't see the value of what I shared or that it came from a woman.

Welcome! Another thing you could do in your free time if you're not already is Indexing. It's a great service that helps others do their family history. Re: getting help at the fhc, in my experience some consultants are more helpful than others so going during certain shifts may be more productive. Glad you found us and hope you do recover and give the doctors something to wonder about.

Both main parties have shifted to the left over the years. The dems more so. It's not the party that it used to be.

@A&A - wow and Happy Anniversary to you and your wife!

@HelamansArmy - I just want to echo what's been said previously - your ward is quite fortunate to have you and I hope they will see that!. I'm quite impressed with your willingness to dive in as well as listen/consider the suggestions made here. Here's to your success!

One other thought (and please pardon me if it has already been brought up) - With this 'when I'm 30' plan - you are sending a signal to those you date/courtship that your career and 'passion' for it is a higher priority than marriage/family. I don't know any woman who wants to hear that she would be second fiddle to career pursuits. There have been times that my husband has gone to whatever lengths he has needed to to take time off because I needed him more than his employer.

Re: pressure - you see what you look for. You can choose to see it as interest instead. (And just be honest with your mom and ask her to chill. Let her know that it really has the opposite effect and turns you off.) Re: 30 - just realize that your friendships are going to change as their roles in life do. My husband still works because he enjoys it - it's not about 'supporting a family'. Again, you choose how to look at it. I also didn't want to be one of those that married young. I had plans...that went out the window because Mr. Right came along. It was for the best though. Had I waited, I wouldn't be nearly as grateful for my current circumstances if I hadn't gone through the rough years while my husband was in school. Contrast this with my sil who married my brother after he had everything in place. Just something to keep in mind.

Agree with the above and will add: As mentioned, there may be some level of depression going on. It could also be that she doesn't like her job and/or it's very draining for her and doesn't have anything else to give. It could be that she thinks you're a great cook or doesn't feel confident in the kitchen. She could also be testing you to see how much you really love her and if you can ride it out, the test will end. As right or wrong as the above may be, you need to try to see where she's coming from and realize that her 30% effort may be someone else's 80%. Stop the negative labels and remember why you married her.

written before HA's second post showed up - I agree with JAG about it being a lot to cover in one meeting. Aside from your agenda, a couple thoughts that came to my (female) mind: - Would it be possible to give each pres member a specific role to be over (ie pres - relieve poor, 1c - redeem dead, 2c - proclaim gospel, etc). That way it all gets attention and everyone feels they have a focus so-to-speak. - It sounds like you first need to build the quorum and have some social activities (a variety to cover more interests). People are more willing to ht and serve when there's more of a relationship. - You may also want to consider expanding their thoughts on how ht can be done. For instance, a letter may not be ideal but it's better than nothing. (from chi 7.4.1 - Home teachers may also find other meaningful ways to watch over and strengthen the families they are assigned. For example, they may render service to the families or contact family members by mail or telephone.)

FYI - snopes is run by a liberal couple so I wouldn't consider that website a reliable source

So happy for you!!

Thanks, MG!

First, congratulations on finishing college - not everyone does. I suggest you separate your various issues and not entangle them (and shelve your sexuality/dating for now). You can start developing a relationship with God regardless of your sexuality and that is something you can do immediately to feel like you're making progress and getting out of your rut. Say a prayer now, read some scriptures now, etc. As far as having a purpose, start serving others! Do something every day for someone else either personally or with an organization (or several). This will give you something to do and also helps you see outside of yourself. It could also build your resume. Win-Win-Win! As far as money - start a blog or etsy shop (I've heard some do really well!) or go around the neighborhood offering to run errands, do all sorts of odd jobs or even be a nanny. Have you looked into being a sub for the school district? I don't know how many jobs you'll find in your field/s but I have a brother-in-law who graduated from college and has never worked in a job that he got a degree in (realized it would never support a family). Sometimes a degree is just to boost your resume since it shows perseverance. Hope this is helpful and that things turn around for you soon.

This is free to read online. You can also google 'hugh nibley temple' and see what else comes up. http://publications.mi.byu.edu/book/temple-and-cosmos/

Hi there! Others have already shared some great insights so I will just add: - I've been an active member all my life and don't concern myself with the things on your 'cons' list. I just figure it will all work out and/or I'll understand those things if/when I need to. Not that I blindly follow but there's just so much to study that there isn't time to get bogged down with those things. - For now and in the future (since other things may come up for you down the road), remember that sometimes you just need to 'put it on the shelf' and act on the truths you already have. - Have you read 'The 13 Articles of Faith'? They're a basic outline of our beliefs so review them if you haven't already. - The Gospel is simple. Learn line upon line and don't complicate it. Thanks for giving us a chance to respond to your queries.