my two cents

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    my two cents got a reaction from Iggy in Garment Concerns/Questions   
    I dare say you were too focused on your uncomfortableness.  Thoughts are powerful and what you feed grows so how about you try again and focus on the blessings this time?!
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    my two cents got a reaction from GoodNJolly in Married a nonmember   
    What about going to both? Even if you don't go to your ward if it's at the same time as his church, you can just go to another ward instead. Hopefully your husband will see this as a reasonable compromise.
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    my two cents got a reaction from mrmarklin in Accepting,forgiving,forgetting boyfriends past   
    @Hername - You deserve better!!
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    my two cents got a reaction from Cate in This is why people leave   
    For those who aren't aware - Cleaning the building is one of the things those who've gotten help from the Church should be asked to do in return for the help they've received. You may want to inform the powers-that-be if that doesn't seem to be happening in your unit. 
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    my two cents got a reaction from Sunday21 in This is why people leave   
    How Church welfare is really supposed to be handled seems to be one of the best kept secrets even though the quotes are out there for everyone to read. It's about helping people maintain a sense of dignity unlike the govt system.
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    my two cents got a reaction from Grunt in Missionaries   
    This sounds more like a polar plunge! brrrrrrr
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    my two cents got a reaction from Sunday21 in Missionaries   
    Sometimes "I'm not ready" really means "I'm not worthy".
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    my two cents reacted to e-eye in Missionaries   
    Haha - or you just need to get use to the idea that there will be many willing to unintentionally offend you.  My wife often makes a big whoop de doo about everything and as a guy I just want it simple.  Oh well, some people in the church have a talent for bells and whistles - I think it's just their way of showing their excitement and love for others. 
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    my two cents got a reaction from Grunt in Missionaries   
    This sounds more like a polar plunge! brrrrrrr
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    my two cents got a reaction from NeedleinA in I want to believe, but I have a big problem trying to do that.   
    “Two men looked out from prison bars, One saw the mud, the other saw stars.” - Dale Carnegie
    There are rotten apples in every bunch but you are the one who chooses to see what you look for. If you look for racism, discrimination, hypocrisy, etc you'll find it. But if you choose to see the good and those who do try to follow Christ's example, you'll find that too. Also, I think you're making some assumptions as well as projecting which really isn't fair or helpful.
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    my two cents got a reaction from NeedleinA in I want to believe, but I have a big problem trying to do that.   
    “Two men looked out from prison bars, One saw the mud, the other saw stars.” - Dale Carnegie
    There are rotten apples in every bunch but you are the one who chooses to see what you look for. If you look for racism, discrimination, hypocrisy, etc you'll find it. But if you choose to see the good and those who do try to follow Christ's example, you'll find that too. Also, I think you're making some assumptions as well as projecting which really isn't fair or helpful.
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    my two cents got a reaction from NeedleinA in I want to believe, but I have a big problem trying to do that.   
    “Two men looked out from prison bars, One saw the mud, the other saw stars.” - Dale Carnegie
    There are rotten apples in every bunch but you are the one who chooses to see what you look for. If you look for racism, discrimination, hypocrisy, etc you'll find it. But if you choose to see the good and those who do try to follow Christ's example, you'll find that too. Also, I think you're making some assumptions as well as projecting which really isn't fair or helpful.
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    my two cents reacted to zil in I want to believe, but I have a big problem trying to do that.   
    Welcome, @Shath!
    Once upon a time (in a real company), there was a department which was "the problem child".  The employees were arrogant and thought the universe existed to serve them and they shouldn't have to follow the same rules everyone else followed.  They thought other departments should cater to their wishes and thank them for the privilege.  The department manager was replaced multiple times.  Things never improved.  Each manager gradually adopted the attitudes of the employees (rather than turning them around).
    This sounds like the area you're describing.  And I have to believe that it's limited to a specific area because:
    a) In all my years in the church and all the wards I've been in, in 4 US states and 1 other country (not on a mission), I've never encountered anything remotely like what you describe.
    b) I've never met a Mormon who described experiences like you describe.
    c) I've heard lots of people who aren't Mormon describe opposite experiences.
    None of that is meant to claim or imply that what you describe didn't happen, only that it's not the norm (based on my experience - which isn't the most extensive, but also not the most limited).  It implies that there are serious problems in the region you're describing.  Other posters here (I can think of 2) have described what I would call regional problems (though different from yours).  They're real, and short of massive change-over of the population or an overwhelmingly powerful personality to trigger difficult and painful changes, such problems can continue for generations and corrupt newcomers (like the department I described above).
    Now I'm going to say something you may not like.  But I say it in hopes you can recognize a pattern and try to break it.  I've gone and read all the posts you've made on the forum, and there's a pattern in them of starting from a negative assumption (assume the worst until there's overwhelming evidence of positive) - and this is coming from someone who tends to be both skeptical and cynical.  Given what you've written above, this is understandable, but if you can't break it, it will hurt you more than it will ever hurt anyone else (and that approach will never elicit improvement from anyone).  So please break it!  Read some Gordon B. Hinckley stuff - I swear he must have been the most positive soul on the planet in the past few decades.
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    my two cents got a reaction from Jane_Doe in Missionaries   
    What a great way to start Christmas weekend!! So excited for you! 
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    my two cents got a reaction from seashmore in Husband drinking   
    Sorry for your troubles. Honestly, I'd be quite bugged if he were spending money on booz when I had to go back to work for financial reasons. That said, I suggest supporting him by making sure he has time for something that is a better way to cope (ie running, basketball with the guys, etc). That's all I got right now but will chime in if something else comes to mind.
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    my two cents got a reaction from Jane_Doe in Missionaries   
    What a great way to start Christmas weekend!! So excited for you! 
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    my two cents reacted to Grunt in Missionaries   
    Looks like I'm going swimming next Saturday, unless I can think of a good reason not to.
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    my two cents got a reaction from seashmore in Husband drinking   
    Sorry for your troubles. Honestly, I'd be quite bugged if he were spending money on booz when I had to go back to work for financial reasons. That said, I suggest supporting him by making sure he has time for something that is a better way to cope (ie running, basketball with the guys, etc). That's all I got right now but will chime in if something else comes to mind.
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    my two cents got a reaction from seashmore in Husband drinking   
    Sorry for your troubles. Honestly, I'd be quite bugged if he were spending money on booz when I had to go back to work for financial reasons. That said, I suggest supporting him by making sure he has time for something that is a better way to cope (ie running, basketball with the guys, etc). That's all I got right now but will chime in if something else comes to mind.
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    my two cents got a reaction from seashmore in Christmas present advice for returning missionary   
    Oh, I know! A little black book! 
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    my two cents got a reaction from seashmore in Christmas present advice for returning missionary   
    A gift card to his favorite restaurant or to a place he missed (ie bowling alley) and make a homemade card to put it in. 
    Welcome to the forum!
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    my two cents reacted to Kenvincible in Hello from the Mile High City!   
    I love indexing, havent done any since the freedmans project will have to get back into it!
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    my two cents got a reaction from Sunday21 in Actually Felt The Spirit   
    What a wonderful thing to read this morning!! So thrilled for you. 
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    my two cents got a reaction from Sunday21 in Actually Felt The Spirit   
    What a wonderful thing to read this morning!! So thrilled for you. 
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    my two cents got a reaction from Sunday21 in Actually Felt The Spirit   
    What a wonderful thing to read this morning!! So thrilled for you. 
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