my two cents

Yeah, talk to the bishop.  Bishops usually wouldn't just ban a 14 yr old from a temple trip just because of something like this.  All the bishops I've known would have bent over backwards to seize the opportunity to teach a youth about the importance of tithing, and being worthy to go on a temple trip - and you don't do that by just saying "you can't go".  I'm thinking there's more to this story.
I'm thinking this isn't about tithing.  

I shared this story in fast and testimony meeting today, so you guys get the benefits of a second draft, so to speak.
I've had this couch for a while, more of a loveseat, really and over time it has literally fallen apart.  (I wish I had taken a picture of it, so you could see how utterly broken this couch was.)  It looked okay on the outside, comfortable even, and I thought it fit decently with the decor, which is saying something because I have an "inherited dorm furniture" look going.  In fact, it was a pretty nice couch when I bought it.  But, like I said, over time it became pretty awful.  My roommates had been ploppers, another roommate's nephews were rough on it, it had been moved three times.  We had even applied the plywood (well, reinforced cardboard) under the cushions trick. Eventually, I referred to it as my "pajama pants" couch: good enough for me around the house, but I wouldn't expose it to the public.  Because I was familiar with where the frame and supports were broken, I knew how best to avoid getting bitten by the springs.  The frame was so broken, if you sat in it just right (or just wrong), a piece of splintered wood would poke out the back through a hole the size of a tennis ball.
But it looked nice, and everyone who saw it assumed it would be comfortable.  To be honest, it had been a rather nice couch when I got it almost ten years ago.  However, it had become a nuisance, and even unsafe.  I felt an urgency to get it out of my life.  I asked around about how to get rid of a couch I didn't even feel comfortable donating.  "Put it on the curb," was the most popular answer.  Except, I didn't want to do that.  Mainly because I didn't want my landlord to see it and decide it was a misuse of the property.  I'm on his good side, and I would most definitely like to stay there. I eventually had to call in the priesthood.  My branch president and his 15 year old son took it from my living room to their truck and then to the dump for me.  Before they arrived, I took the cushions out to the dumpster and paid them the fees from the dump this morning after church.  When I came back to my living room, I noticed how much more open it was.  I felt like doing a cartwheel, and probably would have even had enough room to do one!  (I'm five foot even, so don't need much room.) I was amazed at the joy that I felt from that couch finally being out of my life!!
So it goes with major sins.  They start off pretty nice, but over time, they become an irritant to our spirits and chip away at the joy.  We come to a point where we recognize we need to do something about it.  The world will have one answer, but the best answer is to call upon the priesthood of God.  A few months ago, I had a lamp I also wanted to get rid of because it had stopped producing light.  I was able to get rid of that myself, but the couch required me to call in the priesthood.  I still had to do some work, in terms of taking out the cushions before and paying the dump fees after, but it was something I could not get rid of on my own.
I encourage you, if you have any unsafe couches in your life, to give your priesthood leader a call and ask him for help to get it out. 

For all you know, they had talked about this and came to an agreement. 

My best friend read to babies while they were still in the womb. Her son, the 2nd child, was a restless baby - so she would tie down earphones on her belly and play soothing music. The classics. When she read to her three year old, the baby in the womb calmed down too.
Both children were precocious children. They read early, they both had an infinity for music. They tested above the normal, and they both graduated from high school early. She had her hands full with them, she had to supplement their learning from home. Even putting them in the best private Catholic school they were bored with the curriculum, so she added to it from home.
My Two Cents: That book sounds wonderful. Thank You.

Well, being a dentist, he's had to study a lot so I suggest a book (and it will help all of them for years to come!): The Child Whisperer by Carol Tuttle
https://www.amazon.com/Whisperer-Ultimate-Handbook-Successful-Cooperative/dp/0984402136/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1504441853&sr=1-1&keywords=the+child+whisperer+by+carol+tuttle
 

For all you know, they had talked about this and came to an agreement. 

Books! I always include a children's book for baby gifts. Those kiddos need to be read to from the moment they're born. Any of your favorites will do.  Two of mine are "Goodnight Moon" and "Are You My Mother?".  The latter I was able to find in Spanish, for a couple who were 1/2 Spanish speaking. 
 
http://www.parents.com/baby/development/intellectual/benefits-of-reading-to-your-newborn/

For all you know, they had talked about this and came to an agreement. 

For all you know, they had talked about this and came to an agreement. 

For all you know, they had talked about this and came to an agreement. 

You can get moleskin at almost any place that sells aspirin.  It's a life saver for blisters and callouses.  
https://www.amazon.com/Moleskin/b?ie=UTF8&node=3779981
I don't know how far you walk, but if you get chafing, use antiperspirant, too.
The right shoes will save you a LOT of headache and pain if you are walking/running any distance.  People have different strides and pronate, overpronate, etc.  This is a big deal when running, but if you are overweight and/or not used to exercising it is a factor as well.  Any running shoe store will put you on a treadmill and video your stride for free.  They will tell you what shoe you should be wearing.  If money is an issue for you, DON'T buy your shoes from them unless they have models from long past seasons.  You can buy past season models online for very cheap.  Spend money on good shoes, though.  It will save your feet, knees, hips, etc.
https://www.runnersworld.com/pronation
If you don't have a running store, you can do this:
http://www.livestrong.com/article/172432-how-to-determine-foot-pronation/
Carrying weight when you walk (what we call rucking) increases the calories you burn considerably.  Carrying things in a bookbag, if it's not too heavy, should fine as long as it goes over both shoulders.  If you're putting any weight into it, which you may want to consider if you want to get a little more out of the exercise you're doing already, look into a supportive pack.  They aren't expensive (I suggest army/navy store since those packs are made for hiking) and you'll get more out of your walks and feel much more comfortable.  
https://www.americangrit.com/2017/04/12/rucking-replace-aerobic-workout/
I hope I'm not messing up your thread.  It just seems like you may be getting some "injuries" that could be avoided and I've seen people develop permanent injuries by exercising incorrectly.  I really admire your drive and desire.  Set small goals and crush them.  Thank you for sharing!

Yes, I did-- Christ's healing is amazing!!
The point of the story is that I have NEVER dressed to attract male attention.  Instead, I actively went way way out my way to avoid such attention because it was PTSD trigger.   And yet even covered chin-to-fingers-to-toes, I still received male attention, such as stares and advances.
Now, how do you think it makes me feel when you post things like:
How do you think I feel when I read your words here?

** Trigger / I'm going to be super-serious warning here **
 
I was repeated;y raped as a kid, and suffered from severe PTSD growing up.  Men, when aroused, emit pheromones.  I'm super-super-super sensitive to the scent of those pheromones, because when I was a kid that was the warning bell before the pain came.  That smell was my trigger to run away/hide/fight/do something-- anything to avoid it.  Yes, growing up I literally went out of my way (not just a little, but a ton) to avoid any type of male attention.
 I WANTED to be invisible.  For years I wore nothing by formless turtle-necks that went up to my chin, to my thumbs, and I haven't owned a pair of shorts since I was 9.    I resented my body for being beautiful and attracting that attention.  Particularly... frankly I extremely large breasts.  I literally tried to hide as much as I could, but still got male attention: that horrible scent, the stares, the aroused smiles / other physical signs.  Still got men trying to make passes at me, both gentleman-style and.... other styles as well.  Please don't hurt me, please don't hurt me...
Notice how all of the above is in past tense-- therapy and Christ's healing are amazing things.  Now, for me... I think @Carborendum said things nicely well before.  I can't control what a man thinks- it's impossible.  Yes there is biological factors there, and usually a person (of either gender) the initial reaction is largely an involuntary thing.  But after that it's up to that person's agency what they are going to do.  I cannot control them, only they can.  I can only govern myself.  I obey the LoC, and rest of God's commandments, because I am His beloved daughter, and no other reason.  

Dillon, I'm just gonna use this as another advisement to you.  This generalization is why you get in trouble.  You really need to try to learn better communication skills.  Hyperbole has its place.  It can be very effective.  But this particular instance is not the place.  Far from it.  So, even as you have a point, it gets lost because of the failed hyperbolic communication method you employed.

I actually just saw a comment by someone mad that the Church hasn't opened the temple doors. smh

The commandment is to love others as yourself.
Not just others, not just yourself.  Both together in balance.
 

My rule of thumbs for helping people (not just Church people):
1) If me helping you hurts you, then I shouldn't do it.  This includes hurting you by denying you the opportunity to become self-sufficient or encouraging unhealthy dependency. 
2) If me helping you is seriously hurting me, then i should take a step back.  It's still important to take care of me too.  I have the right to say no for my own health.
3) There is a priority list for getting help.  My immediate family in my first responsibility.  Then extended family and close friends.  Then other groups.  If my husband really need my help, then other people are going to have to wait- he comes first.

I think that in each situation, you need to consider the consequences. For example, if I help move a family this Friday, I will not be spending time with my wife. Hmm. My wife really needs to see me. So I will not help move this time. I think we all need to pause and say a prayer about these choices.
i have friends who always say, Yes to church duties but these same friends are quite depressed all the time. Sometimes you need to say, No...or you will go crazy. 

Thank you! I'll keep that all in mind.  

If we consider the men who want more sexual partners and want to stay married, but are unrepentant in their adultery, then yes it makes sense that the women are the ones asking for divorce. Same for cases of physical abuse. I guess it seems likely that whoever is causing the problems is usually less likely to be the one asking for the divorce. Just guessing here....

Welcome to the forum and to the Church! Glad to have you part of both. 
That's great about your calling. I suggest reading each weeks Gospel Principles lesson ahead of time so you're better prepared to answer questions and offer insights. Also, as you share your testimony, remember that people respond to enthusiasm. I also suggest introducing new converts to the family history consultants so they can start on their family history and finding names to take to the temple. 

Sounds like @Dillon has a negative view of women and doesn't understand ppd or what constitutes valid reasons for divorce. 

My thoughts:
~That was the ppd talking so let it go. 
~She may not know how to walk back from it.
~She may have a warped sense of what love is supposed to look/feel like. Hollywood has not helped with this so avoid things that perpetuate the faulty ideas.
~There are different versions of love and different people see it differently. Sounds like hers is more practical and yours is more lovey-dovey. 
~Stop focusing so much on what you don't like and put more emphasis on what you do. (what you feed, grows)
~Figure out her love language and speak it often. (check your library for the book 'the 5 love languages')
~fwiw - Through all the ups and downs, my husband has never let anything stop him from loving me any way he can. Don't you be stopped either.
 

Thanks all I appreciate the advice and support. 
@Vort I really appreciate your support & encouragement.
@seashmore Thanks for the link, I will check that out!
@Jane_Doe We aren’t in counseling currently, and I do think we are capable of elevating our quality of communication before resorting to more therapy.
@anatess2 That is a great question because I agree it can have many different definitions. I guess I’m referring more to the noun, or the spark, than the verb. I guess want her to love me for who I am and not what I do.
Thanks @Sunday21 for the reassurance ?
Thank you for your kind words @zil. I know I have a lot of work to do.
@Midwest LDS I totally agree, thank you for your support.
@my two cents I have generally accepted it was the ppd talking, but a small part of me just won’t let it go. I agree that I need to though. You are spot on with your perception that her love is more practical and I was hoping for a little more lovey-doviness coming my way. The “what you feed grows” resonates a lot, and I appreciate that advice.
Thank you for the support @MormonGator. Feeling the love.
@Dillon I agree there are some pieces of work out there, and I have found that when I watch too many gold-digger prank videos on youtube that one can fall into the trap of assuming all women are just in it for money or security, but that is a skewed perception. And after having dealt with depression and researching it, I agree with @Jane_Doe 100% that it is “a major clinical condition which warps the suffer's perception and memory, shrouding it in darkness and hopelessness,” and I think it’s too bad we are debating these things here.
@prisonchaplain I have the feeling if she read your response about what she needs-unreciprocated love to feel safe-that she would agree 100%. I appreciate the words, they ring true.
@mdfxdb I remember seeing the movie a while back, I will look into the book. That's actually popped into me head a few times.
@JoCa I think you are right. I need to stop worrying about the wrong things and shift my focus. I appreciate your words and reminder of my priorities.
 

One more thing - She probably has a heart wall. No amount of counselling sessions* can help with that. You need to connect with someone who knows the EmotionCode (developed by a practicing Mormon). Google for more info.
*counselling helps with the intellectual side to a person but there are spiritual, physical and emotional sides as well and you need to go to the right person to get the right help