Lee

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  1. I have contingency plans to ensure I can be a husband and father but from a distance
  2. Children are a blessing in some way but it wasn't a blessing I was hoping for. I am not ready to share my life with another person.
  3. I am not excited about having my life destroyed and likely I will love my mother more.
  4. Why would the spouse feel bad because they aren't having sex. That is nonsense as long as you are showing affection by hugging, kissing, holding hands etc, there is no reason to feel bad about not having sex.
  5. It isn't my fault that God gave me the greatest woman as my mother.
  6. Nonsense it is not selfish to withhold sex. 1) I never said sex is only carnal so... 2) Sex is powerful and should only be engaged in when both partners desire to. One partner making the other feel bad because they don't want to is disgusting and a misuse of trust.
  7. I do cleave only to my wife but that doesn't mean I can't love my mother more than her.
  8. I could have a physical connection with many women but only the spiritual connection with my wife.
  9. Spiritual is more important though. If you find a woman who you love and she loves you and God has confirmed that she is the one for you then the physical side dwindles in comparison. Women with high sex drives are easy to find but finding a woman you want to spend the rest of your life with even if it means limited sex is hard but worthwhile. I believe all men and women should respect their spouses decisions fully when it comes to physical intimacy.
  10. I am like most men I would rather have more physical intimacy than less but I am more concerned with being a respectful husband and ensuring my wife is always comfortable. My wife and I have not had sex for 4 months before when she has been stressed with her studies and that is fine, we are still affectionate with each other.
  11. Well there are many other ways to enjoy your youth that do no involve constant sex. If you married someone that you love then this shouldn't be a problem. For me when my wife and I cuddle, kiss or hold hands it shows that we are attracted to each other and in love, sex isn't the only way to express your love. If my wife stopped showing any affection to me then I would likely feel rejected, but as long as we were still doing the things I mentioned above then sex isn't necessary to show each other how we feel. No one likes being turned down but a woman or man's body is theirs and no one else has any right to be offended or annoyed that their spouse doesn't want to be intimate with them. My wife doesn't have to explain to me why she doesn't want to, that is her prerogative the same way it would be mine. There should be no middle ground the choice of a spouse to abstain should be respected by the other spouse. To try to convince your spouse to be intimate with you when they have told you they don't want to is disrespectful.
  12. Of course it is important, but it isn't one of the most important things to consider before marriage. Because if you love someone then breaking up with them because they tell you they won't be a sex goddess is unacceptable and shows a . Yes I have been married for 5 years. I am male Love and marriage is about so much more than having sex. Sex is powerful to strengthen the bond between husband and wife, but there are many times when it is not possible to be intimate with your wife or husband. I love my wife so much that if she didn't want to be intimate for a long time then that would be completely fine. Also, as a husband or wife it is your duty to make your partner feel comfortable with sex it isn't natural for everyone.
  13. Heads up my wife once asked me if I loved her or my mother more. I told her it was no competition of course I love my mother more. I think I slept on the couch for a couple of weeks. If your wife ever asks you that just lie.
  14. Seriously? If you have found the woman you want to marry and who God wants you to marry, then to bail because she or you are unsure about being sexually compatible is a terrible idea. Sex with your spouse should not be a consideration of whether it is right to marry your fiancee, that is carnal and completely wrong.
  15. I don't know I am worried I won't step up and my wife is worried that I won't want to stay to help her with the baby
  16. Sometimes it just seems easier to not bother with all the stress of children
  17. I just don't think I can put up with that stuff, I will have to hide at work.
  18. I have a distinct feeling that the baby will ruin my life. I've seen what parents look like and what their houses look like post baby and I am not ready to be like them.
  19. yes I'm sure once he/she (hopefully he) are born i will love them.
  20. My wife is pregnant so I have posterity already
  21. I don't know I'm just not excited about being a dad. I've tried really hard to pretend I'm looking forward to it but my wife can tell I'm not.