NeuroTypical

I understand where you're coming from, but you're comparing apples and oranges. Bini's question isn't about how to obtain the absolute best quality education the planet has to offer by moving to Japan. She's looking into what would happen if she homeschools vs. other options in her area and culture. Think of it this way: Japaneese schools have one teacher for 60 students. Do you believe that if Japan had one teacher for 30 students, they'd do worse? My basic opinion, is that in general, the more individualized attention a student gets, the better that student will do. Do you disagree? If so, how come?

Yep - what everyone else is saying. Get the right curriculums, and you learn right alongside your kid. I helped teach my kids to read. Two experiences I would not trade for all the riches of the world. Now they're working on making "their diction crisp and clear, their speaking voice mellifluous and pleasing to the ear" (Phineas and Ferb reference). I'm helping teach my kids to spell. I never had a problem with it, they're struggling like kids do. We curse at the english language and all it's stupid rules and exceptions. But we're learning. For math, one kid is just plain better at it than I am, and I was there to see it happen. I am totally able and capable of continuing to teach her - she just grasps concepts faster and does more things in her head than I will ever be able to. There may be tutors or early college classes or whatever when the advanced algebra shows up. Although I had an 8 yr old kid better at math than me, I can do this math pretty well: Quality of education: 1 teacher for 20 students < 1 teacher for 2 students

One thing that occurs to me, is the woman may see a man reject and shun and shut out and run away, when all the man is doing is preoccupied with something. Like this:

Backroads - your video has been 'removed by the user'? Woe is me!

No. But you can't swing a dead cat in a sacrament meeting without hitting a dozen or more people with strong opinions one way or the other. But at the end of the day, the creationist and the evolutionist both sit side by side in the temple. Probably because of folks voicing their opinions at you throughout your time in the church. Some have even done it over the pulpit in my time. But no, it's opinion - not doctrine - not revealed truth.

Alexis - are you in your ward's Gospel Principles Sunday School class? If not, I can certainly recommend it. It's a wonderful class for anyone wanting to understand the basics of what we believe and why. Here's the link to the manual: Gospel Principles manual Desertnight: From Chapter 12 - The Atonement

Yeah, to my mind, singling out hunters here sort of misses the point. The point is, of course, that whether you go hunt your own deer, or hit the drive through at Taco Bell, a living creature's blood was shed. Critters were equally alive, whether you microwaved a breakfast burrito made out of them, or hauled them down a mountain to your truck.In other words, if someone figure this verse applies to hunters, but it doesn't apply to them because they get their meat from a store or restaurant, that someone may need to do a bit more thinking on the subject.

Greece was surprising for a minute, until it dawned on me the list doesn't take into account their early retirement - it only counts people who are actually working. If the graph charted hours worked over a productive lifetime, I wonder what things would look like then.

My wife and I went from an unhealthy situation with her family, to dealing with them from a position of strength on our own terms, to basically not having anything to do with them. It involved many years of sadness and anguish on everyone's part. Two things helped me the most. First was climbing my everest and learning how to truly forgive them. Once I could finally kneel in prayer and ask God to bless them and help them, everything got easier for me. The other thing was writing everything out in a journal. What the issues were, tracking the letters and encounters back and forth, identifying what would have to happen for a healthy relationship to exist, etc. That helped me stay righteous without straying into self-righteousness or bitterness or anger or what have you. What helped my wife the most, was putting 668.4 miles between us and all of them. Other things were also helpful: - Letting a few years go by after the move - Having a supportive husband who let her move at her own pace - Hearing validation and agreement from two bishops, a stake president, a visit to the temple, a blessing or two, an LSCW, and a shrink. - Finding a person here and there who was raised in similar circumstances, who had managed to create a more or less healthy life for themselves in the decades since. We've left the door open to her family, and clearly identified a few things they could do tomorrow if they wanted a relationship. Things that would give us an indication that they are no longer sources of harm and grief (or even just a good indication that they are trying). It's been 4 years, nothing so far. Every year or two, they contact us with their latest request that we forgive them and stop the unjust ostracising. I reply basically with the same letter over and over again, letting them know we forgave everyone years ago, clearly stating why we feel they're a danger to us, and giving a few things they could do to demonstrate they are no longer a threat. We leave room in our hearts in case something happens on this side of the veil. If not, we have much hope that something can happen on the other side. Anyway applepansy, there it is. A quick and easy way to divorce in-laws. Easy as pie, right? p.s. "Honor thy father and mother" pretty much means you can't just flat out divorce.

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Sounds like you're carrying around a sin greater than destroying a marriage. That's a pretty hefty burden to be carrying around - are you sure you can't do what's necessary to remove this burden from your soul? I think she's right. Doesn't the world have enough people angry at other people for stuff that isn't any of their business? How come you're adding to it? It doesn't really help to sit there and confess someone else's sins, you know... I think we're supposed to work on our own first...

Yeah, I may be a nitpicker, but although providentliving.com is a great resource, I don't believe any arguments have been totally settled about what the brethren's counsel actually is. For example, the FAQ itself gives counsel that is not contained in the pamphlet it references. I long ago learned to never underestimate peoples' ability to read the same thing and come to different conclusions. I don't think so. The pamphlet does indeed take a subject that causes anxiety in some people and energetic zeal in others, and sort of brings it 'down to earth' in some pretty common-sense ways, IMO. The family home storage pamphlet, along with the Family Finances pamphlet, are great resources full of practical, common-sense advice that seems to be all too rare these days. Steve Martin and SNL were certainly ahead of their times with this skit.

I saw this link for the first time a week ago or so. It seems to be a copy and paste, but from where, I can't tell. The "Original Article" link dead, but points to a small California newsaper. A google search points to a gazillion times it's been cut-and-pasted on various websites, but I can't find the source. Such things are occasionally just totally made up fabrications, or taken out of context, etc. I'm going to wait to hear where the article came from, and how the research was done, before I decide.

Hala, can I just say that I really look forward to reading your posts? You are a breath of fresh air, and you bring up such different but relevant subjects. Short response: I think you're fine. No rooster = no abortion. Long response: I thought many of the things you are thinking at one time, but without being triggered by blood. As I was keeping a daily diet log, it dawned on me that on one day, no fewer than four different critters had to die so I could eat what I did. It made me reflect on where our food came from, and it reinforced something that I already knew - we humans are given stewardship over the earth and everything that lives on it - and we WILL be held accountable as individuals for how we have used that stewardship. As a result of this experience, I did several things: * I went hunting, so I could see firsthand what I had always paid someone else to do for me - kill a living animal. * I gained a very healthy respect for how the notion of halal in Islam expressed itself in dhabiha slaughter (and how there are some notable similarities with the jewish shechita slaughter, and even some similarities with the word of wisdom). * I started tracking my food back to the source, and decided that a handful of things were no longer on my menu, like veal, due to how the animals were treated. My hunting experience was very powerful and singular. I'm not sure if you ever did any slaughtering when you lived on farms, but if not, I recommend the experience. Nothing did as much to help me foster the proper attitude and respect for the whole process of eating things that used to be alive. That experience resolved things for me - I'm no longer a clueless person hiding from guilt behind walls of denial about killing animals. I'm a steward of the earth, and through God's design, feeding my family sometimes means animals die.

One of Franklin Covey's basics: You oughta move from dependence, to independence, to a thing called "interdependence". That last thing, when you're doing it right, is greater than the sum of it's parts. There are just some things one can't (or shouldn't) do alone. There are other things that can just be done better, with two healthy mature spouses. (But yeah, there are a lot of codependant married people out there.)

Hi JoshK - welcome and thanks for your service. What kind of dogs? I have two bulldogs (french and american)

I'm a little interested - are there free movie editing programs out there? Even if they stink and are horrible? I have two giggly girls and a duty to raise them familiar with computers...

The boy and girl are step-siblings.

I have no condemnation or defense to offer either party. I wasn't there, I don't know anyone involved. The only thing this news cycle does for me, is to re-impress on me the sobering importance of carrying concealed. If I ever feel the need to defend myself or others from harm with my firearm, I'll be asking myself if it'll be worth it. Should I stop the attack, and endure years of expensive legal proceedings, and endure the unrighteous judgement of total strangers who weren't even there and don't even know anyone involved? I decided years ago, I'd reach around my gun to hand over my wallet. It's not worth it. Someone attacking me with knife or gun, or assaulting my family? Different answer. Someone in my house? Different answer. But yeah, watching accounts go by, and seeing all the 2nd guessing, and unrighteous judging, and PTSD, and legal troubles, and stress on relationships - yeah, well, I'm a pretty big guy and might choose to take a beating rather than end an assault with deadly force. Ever since my wife and I started getting serious about self defense, we've looked at preparing for such things as deterrence is better than needing to avoid a situation, which is better than needing to evade a situation, which is better than needing to take action to stop an attack. As we put our kids through boxing and other self-defense classes, the headline is "50 ways to not be there in the first place, 45 ways to run the heck away, 5 ways to fight back". Should I ever need to use my firearm in self defense, I will likely feel like I've failed at preventing the situation in the first place. But should a situation show up where my only choice is "me (or a loved one), or him", then I'll make the decision and hopefully live with the consequences.

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Indeed there are. There are tops with slits - great things at 3am so a mommy can do the needful without having to change clothes or whatever. And there are bottoms with plenty of extra-stretchy material (similar to the pregger-jeans you see) to allow for a great big baby belly.(I hope it's not wierd for a guy to answer this question. But I do all the garment ordering, and kept my wife in these things for two kids. I was fascinated by the whole thing.)

Been there - it's frustrating, and I feel for you. However: You do know that about the lousiest, most horrible, least-chance-of-success way to get a job, is to apply for it, right? About 20% of the jobs filled out there, get filled because someone filled out some form on some website and did nothing else. The other 80% of filled jobs, get filled because of networking. If you want a job, you be part of the 80%, not the 20%. If you don't know what that entails, there are a ton of good resources and books out there. Most people here will have examples of what it looks like. If you're an introvert like me, it can be like pulling teeth. But it works.

I hear you HSAB. I honestly don't have a clue what it's like for you, but I hear you. There are a lot of illnesses and struggles that I can understand to a degree, but this isn't one of them.God bless you, and I hope you find someone who can help.

Oh, if anyone is trying to judge the bishop, it's probably because they have an inexact grasp of the scriptures regarding judging and not judging. It's possible that some folks are also seeing judgements of the bishop where none is given, and that's probably also due to the same inexact grasp and understanding.I'm not judging the bishop, but I am making judgements about the rightness or wrongness of various actions in general. I'm doing that for a myriad of reasons, probably the top reason is that I'm commanded to judge righteous judgement about such things. Here's some great reading from an Ensign about when we're commanded to judge and when we're commanded to not judge. “Judge Not” and Judging By Elder Dallin H. Oaks

I suppose some women live with such horrible crippling beliefs, but the women I know don't seem to. My wife sure the heck doesn't. In the last 6 wards I've been in, in two different states, there were certainly no shortage of women talking about how they feel without fear of judgement.HSAB, if you know anyone who lives in fear of judgement from others, I'd suggest you help them overcome that fear and tackle whatever self-esteem or self-worth issues they're carrying around with them. It's a very hard way to live, and so unnecessary. I can't say I've talked to 50 women in 3 months about it, but I've probably heard the opinions of 50 women in the last ten years. In my (limited) experience, maybe about half of them have questions or concerns or issues, and most of them seem to be able to have the questions/concerns/issues resolved by talking and getting advice from other women. If you get a chance, maybe you could direct these 50 women to this website? There's certainly no shortage of women here who can probably help them with their questions/concerns/issues... Hi - my name is LM and I'm a man. Now that we know each other, let me just say that I find garments on my wife to be quite attractive.