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A record of what? Most of what they will miss really won't matter anyway. Just my .02

Wow! A few points - -It's only part of "Satan's attack" if you let it be! he only has as much power as you give him. (lowercase on purpose) -Yes, we are different but God created men and women so there's probably very good reasons for these differences! -If everyone thought, felt, acted the same then what growth would there ever be? -My husband and I are *very* different but - hold on - we have a GREAT relationship and he would never agree with your belief that "these differences are nothing but ... detriments". In fact, he finds my way of thinking fascinating and amusing. One last thought - you are the one that *chooses* to see things like this. If you decide to look at things more positively, you'll find different results.

I'd be tempted to respond with "No, thanks. We've done enough praying today." (followed with a hearty laugh of course). :)

If you're outside the 'Mormon Belt', just tell your bishop - I'm sure he'd love to hear about your interest in volunteering! :) If you mean a paid position, just drop into a seminary and/or institute building and ask someone who's been there, done that. They'd also be able to give you helpful tips, etc. Good luck!

Great input so far. See if you find any of this enlightening: http://middleagedmormonman.com/home/2013/06/romance-and-mission-prep/ All the best to you on your mission!

Have you asked them what they would like? Off the top of my head: - book group, - ladies who lunch (can just be potluck at various homes or the park, etc), - knitting circle (or quilting, etc) - this can be a 'we make and donate' kind of thing, - family history (everything from research to writing your own - journal jars, etc) - cardmaking - flower arranging Some of the above would be more of a 'regular' monthly meetup but maybe they need more reasons to get out / get together. And for what it's worth - when I have callings that are more challenging, I picture another chandelier, bigger garden or nice sized addition, etc for my future mansion! :)

Thanks kapikui - good to know!

No, we don't own a gun. We have both shot them before and I grew up around hunting rifles but I'm leaning more towards learning some self-defense moves and getting a taser and/or pepper spray.

I don't know about me but I'm sure my husband would be drawn to the lively black churches. I can picture him shouting 'hallelujah' and clapping right along with 'em. He'd also love the after meeting potlucks! :)

Free time!

I've had a couple more thoughts: - you mentioned flowers, compliments and sharing the workload but is that speaking to her main love language (and do you do them often enough)? - are there regular date nights? - she may be testing you - not intentionally necessarily - but to see if you'll still love her no matter what and if you give off the notion that you won't/don't, well that would definitely affect her motivation to be vulnerable with you.

Great comments - will just add that they're known to write books! (The D&C mentions doing that type of thing to support themselves - might try to look it up later unless someone beats me to it).

No, you're not justified and as Leah said your thoughts are your own responsibility. You mentioned therapy but was it for you to voice your frustration or to understand where your wife may be coming from? Huge difference! There are all sorts of reasons a spouse may be uninterested in physical intimacy: - past trauma (molested/raped), - physical pain, - unsatisfied/unfulfilled sexually (so why bother), - tired, - depressed, - doesn't feel attractive, - been offended (porn...), - personality (some are more interested in sex than others - check library for 'Life Colors' by Pamala Oslie), - etc. Until the root cause is acknowledged/addressed, "a sustained period" doesn't matter. Two questions to consider: ~if she were in an accident that rendered her unable to be intimate, would you feel ok leaving her? ~how would you feel if it was your wife wondering about leaving you because you haven't met her timeline or expectations?

I'd wear a raincoat or something similar if it were me. No point in ruining clothes as far as I'm concerned.

I was going to suggest reaching out to Troy Dunn but I'm not sure if he does international situations. At any rate, best of luck and it's nice to see you here again.

apple - http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865611629/Elder-Holland-shares-keys-to-happiness-during-BYU-Idaho-devotional.html

I've been able to google the requirements before. I'd find them and post a link but my computer is quite sluggish at the moment.

You *choose* to be happy --- regardless of circumstances. And actually, thoughts precede everything so a person is happy (or not) because of the thoughts they think ("as he thinketh in his heart, so is he" proverbs 23:7).

Choosing it!

I'm sorry you're experiencing this. You deserve soooo much better. As far as coping: - for starters, change your phrasing. You're not "destroyed". Incredibly hurt, yes but destroyed, no. A person who's destroyed can't get through this but you can and you must (for yourself and your son) - be glad that it's now and not later (after more kids, more years, more cheating, etc.) - find a good lawyer! - take one day at a time - create a support network for you and your child - stay positive as much as you can (thoughts and words) - negativity will only keep/bring you down - let this challenge serve it's purpose to bring you closer to Christ prayers and {hugs}

First, welcome to the Church (and forum)! Glad to have you join us! Just as a caution - making great money and knowing how to manage it are two very different things. There are millionaires who've gone bankrupt. Age is irrelevant for a lot of things - it's about maturity level. The fact that you're already in your second year of college is a good indicator (as long as you're getting good grades). Now regarding the ceremony (civil vs temple) - although I haven't been in your shoes, I feel for you and can imagine how difficult this may seem. Some questions: -Have you considered that this may be a test of your faith? -To start your marriage off on the best possible footing, what do you consider that to be? -Have you considered that this may be a chance for your family to learn and grow and prove their unconditional love? Some reading: -https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2002/04/follow-me?lang=eng -https://www.lds.org/church/news/elder-david-s-baxter-urges-ldsbc-students-to-follow-jesus?lang=eng&query=leave+all+to+follow -Luke 18:28 Then Peter said, Lo, we have left all, and followed thee. You stated that you "want to be married in the temple" so...the way I see it - since it's your wedding, it's your choice and the decision is already made. You can have a ring ceremony and big reception for everyone so it's not like they'd be totally left out. You can even talk to your bishop about possibly pledging your love to each other so it feels more like what your family is thinking they're missing out on. This will not be the last time your family disagrees with choices you make so where/when will you draw the line?

Thanks for your response. See the blue.

What makes you say this? The posts I referred to suggest something big will happen a year from now.