notquiteperfect

Move in with family or get some roommates. Also, there are other ways to make money besides a regular job. Decide what your skills/talents are and start telling people. For instance, you can run errands for people, house/pet sit, make things to sell (cards, jewelry, cookies, etc), clean houses...Just think outside the box and work it! You mentioned that you've sold belongings but have you cut _all_ unnecessary expenses (cable, eating out, subscriptions, gym memberships, movies, junk food, etc)? I also suggest changing your mindset from lack to abundance. What you focus on gets bigger so look over these: http://thecarolblog.com/?tags=&s=money Good luck and I hope things turn around soon.

estradling75 can answer but thought I'd throw out a couple examples - - The Lord needs enough saints to be well off enough to be mission presidents - It also helps that those who are more affluent pay into the PEF, the Humanitarian Aid Fund, the Missionary Fund, etc. - I also remember Pres. Hinckley mentioning a private airplane made available to assist him in visiting the members worldwide (thus not an expense for the church)

Thought of another option. It may be a long shot but you never know. Contact the mission office/s in your area and ask if they have any. You'd be surprised at what might be lurking in the back of drawers and cupboards. It wouldn't hurt to try.

Off the top of my head - poverty - you need to help people shift from a sense of lack to abundance. There are various ways to do that (money games, chakra work, etc) drugs - sometimes it's because of a chemical/hormonal/nutrition imbalance they're trying to fill so that needs to be addressed. Also, when people start an addiction, they're emotional maturity stops at that point so you can't necessarily treat a person like they're calendar age. Furthermore, to really clean up the addiction, you need to get it all out of their system (it seeps into the organs and cells so you need to do a total detox, not just a 'surface' one for lack of a better term). They also need to develop empathy and feel a sense of being loved. Pets can help with this. They also need a sense of purpose. I might chime in with more but that's it for now. Hope that helps.

I know you mentioned you haven't been to church but you can still ask your ward leadership to ask around. Maybe they can mention it in the ward bulletin or their ward facebook page. If that doesn't work, maybe your stake has a stake facebook page you can join and ask. Good luck and I hope you return to activity soon!

Not sure if this is the scripture you're thinking of but the one that comes to my mind is in Matt 6:19, 33 As far as influence - this can be tricky. My husband is in a position at work in which he oversees a lot of people and he has to be careful about what he says because some might take it to mean that if they don't do xyz or follow his example, they're job/progress is at risk or they might do xyz to try to gain favor. So reaching a point of influence doesn't always mean you'll be able to have as much influence as you might think.

I appreciate your sense of loyalty to the company but keep in mind that serving a *faithful* mission can make you a better employee in the long run. Tell them that if they guilt you/give you a hard time/delay things.

Yes, there are exceptions but let me mention something else. I was married while I watched my husband get his bachelors and then masters so I have much greater appreciation for what it took for him to achieve that and get us to where we are. Contrast that with my sister-in-law who married my brother when he was already pretty well established. She wasn't there in the trenches and there's a sense of lack of gratitude/appreciation for what she has.

Not necessarily. My husband got scholarships for his undergrad. For his masters, a research grant covered not only tuition but living expenses and he got a great-paying internship during the summer. If he wanted to get a phd, his place of employment would cover it. Oh, and he only went to a 'reduced cost LDS school' for his associates. So basically, if you play your cards right, you won't go into as much debt as you're assuming.

First, I'm sorry you're experiencing this. I was impressed with Elder Holland's conference talk and feel that if he can open up, so can you and everyone else. If others don't respond well or don't 'get it', refer them to this: https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2013/10/like-a-broken-vessel?lang=eng

Also, for those in wards/units with 'repeat offenders' - just ignore 'em and read some hymns or scriptures until someone else gets up. That way you can still feel the Spirit without the risk of passing judgment.

May I suggest that those who are in wards that this is an issue either offer to give a sacrament talk on the topic or suggest that this be the theme for sacrament talks on occasion? You could also get up during F&T meeting yourself and demonstrate. Also heard of this a while ago that might help people remember: https://www.lds.org/friend/2008/10/testimony-glove?lang=eng

For the record - Your op did indicate how considerate you are about things so my reply was more to the masses than to you specifically because not everyone is as mindful as you seem to be.

How does the wife feel about it? My husband is pretty handy and is quite willing to help others but he also knows that we have a 'honey-do list' as well so I wouldn't be too thrilled if there was a lack of balance/attention. At the very least, make sure to let her know how much you appreciate his time because she's affected, too.

Hairstyle and color isn't about age, it's about if your features and personality can pull it off (I also agree that the health of your hair matters as well). Long hair pulls features down and ages them on some people but on others, it's a supportive/cohesive look. There's a website with a lot of makeovers you can look at (thecarolblog.com) to see/read what I'm talking about.

I suggest you look at *travel time* to the temple and not just distance. Where I'm at, we can get to the temple in less than an hour on a good day but it can be double and sometimes triple that on other days. Makes a big difference! I will also add that proximity to the temple played a role in where we chose to live but with how things have gone (the area doesn't feel like 'home', very transient ward, etc) and with the smaller temples being built now, it would be farther down the list of considerations because other things matter, too. Good luck and I hope everything comes together for you.

False accusations in my book, Canuck!

The only suggestion I would add is that if you have any ancestors that crossed the plains, look into their stories and visit places that are mentioned. For instance, I have a great great (great? - can never remember) that lived in Iowa while the saints were in Nauvoo (that's when he joined the Church) so I'd go to that town to get an idea of distance from his place to Nauvoo. I also have an ancestor buried at Winter Quarters so I'd make sure to visit her grave, not just the cemetery. Things like that might make the trip a bit more personal.

There are a few things mentioned here (Ensign, General Conference) that might be enlightening: https://www.lds.org/search?lang=eng&query=humanitarian+efforts

If I ever heard of the Church doing that, I'd be bothered! When people sacrifice for something, they care more about it than if it's just handed to them (that's one reason why missionaries are encouraged to save for their mission in the first place). And as far as fees for damage - my father-in-law told us of a missionary that trashed the car he was assigned but dad 'covered it' so he didn't learn a thing or give it a second thought.

You find what you look for. Too bad that's what you would choose to see.

Since this has come up again I'll post a follow up since it turned out to be a life lesson. She did a good job with the tasks and I ended up being a bit more generous than I was planning on but the exchange still gives me satisfaction. She was so pleasantly surprised that I'm glad we have that 'thread' between us than one of being frustrated/annoyed/feeling jipped.

In a way, I like this idea but have it be for whoever wants to be there and let her see how few (assuming) really want to hear her opinions all the time.

Yep. Not to mention the fact that the ACA has nothing to do with real health!

Aside from getting a lawyer, start documenting everything - dates, times, phone calls, when he drops the ball, financial matters, etc.