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  1. On 7/17/2020 at 12:19 PM, Too_picky said:

    I knew what I was getting into when I married him, he was annoying to me even when we were first getting to know each other, but I thought we might be able to get past it because we have so much in common.

    Suck it up butter cup.  You knew what you were getting into, yet you have the temerity to complain about it?  Especially given your known hangups i.e.

     

    On 7/17/2020 at 12:19 PM, Too_picky said:

    I'm not happy because of my depression, lack of self-esteem, and empty nest syndrome, which I do suffer from.

    I actually feel a little sorry for him.  You expect him to change?  You're previously married you should know better.  Tigers don't change their stripes.  You've received some good advice above r/e reciprocation and finding good qualities in  your husband.  I suggest you follow that advice.  


  2. Back to OP.  I think it could be any of the following announcements:

    1. Lightening up on WoW

    2. Announce plural marriage/sealings for deceased unwed women

    3. Section 139 of the D&C

    4. Ratify into scripture/cannonization of something like King Follet Discourse, or maybe some previously unrevealed revelation of a modern prophet (kimball/hinckley/david O)

    5. Additional "translation" from the sealed portion of the BoM (maybe we are ready / maybe not)

    6. My favorite idea: They finally got around to locating and translating the scroll of Joseph which was one of the manuscripts purchased by joseph when he acquired the book of Abraham and the mummies.

     

     


  3. You are justified in whatever you decide.  However, there are some things to consider:

    - You have 2 children.  If you were in the U.S. I would advise you to wait until they are 18 years old and legal adults before you take any major steps.  

    - Have you gone to your Bishop with this?

    - Have you done marriage counseling?

    18 years is a long time, you need to really ponder and pray the direction you want this to head.  


  4. On 11/12/2019 at 1:48 PM, drewK said:

    I have always tried to make it up to them that I wasn't around for them when they were children, and once they were adults helping them financially was the only way I could help them, they didn't want  a relationship with me besides for finances. 

    NO relationship besides finances?  You need to be done.  They need to practice what they preach.


  5. 13 hours ago, MnDisciple27 said:

    Honestly...I although I really like her, in the end I know it wouldn't have worked out anyways. She has a lot of qualities I am looking for, but there are one or two missing that most likely would have ended up as deal-breakers for me. Yet I still wanted to ask her out o.O 

    Weird.  

    However, by asking her out and her putting you in the "friend zone" you now have valuable information.  You don't need to bother with her anymore.  Go and ask someone else out.  Stay away from the friend zone.


  6. On 8/23/2019 at 4:40 PM, JohnsonJones said:

    Simply put, the Church is NOT the Catholic charities which provide a lot more (including in some areas, medical help) nor the charities of some of the other religions that spend a great deal more than the church. 

    From what I can tell, what was needed was shelter and the payments of it, medical bill payments (that could go into the thousands of dollars, if not millions these days), medicine (also can get quite expensive) and food.  Of those, the Bishop might have been able to afford the food on the local budget. 

    When one is in dire financial need and ask the church, and they do not get it, or are flat out refused...that can color a LOT of the rest of one's perceptions regarding the Bishop, the ward, and various other things.  Unfortunately, in many instances, it is not because the Bishop does not want to help, but they CANNOT help.  In addition, pushing the matter can put the Bishop in a bad light, and can even bring in higher Priesthood authority questioning how faithful or loyal that Bishop is.

    Church will pay rent for deserving individuals.  It is however at the discretion of The Bishop.  I live in the bay area, and I have seen several of my Bishops pay rents in the thousands of dollars per month for various deserving individuals.

    Bishops are allowed a certain $ amount allowable from fast offerings for medical care.  Once that amount is met he must get permission from the Stake president to exceed said amount.  There is another threshold up to which the Stake President is allowed to authorize.  Once that is exceeded, permission must come from an Area authority, then from Salt Lake.  There are many tens of thousands of dollars available for medical care when necessary.

    I did not perceive that $ was a problem for the OP.  I perceived their lack of respect for their ecclesiastical leadership, and own personal mental health issues to be the core problems.  If even half of what OP describes is true, then I truly feel for her.  That does not negate the necessity to take steps to overcome and advance.  


  7. Wow, just wow.  I feel bad that you have had a hard life.  Sounds like you are an adult now, and can make decisions on  your own.  Decisions that will let you choose a happy path.  Disassociate with those who adversely affect you.  Associate with those who lift you up.  I know your life has probably sucked now.  You can choose to make it not suck.  So do it.  

    Don't worry about bishops/stake presidents/step parents, etc.  Worry about yourself.  Your covenants are not with the church.  They are between you and God.  Let God worry about the church.  You worry about you.  


  8. 23 hours ago, Friend said:

    I have anxiety about going to church, I always set my alarm and get clothes ready for church but on Sunday morning we never go. 

    I think that unfortunately it will take me longer than that, but I am wanting to work towards it. 

     

    This is what I hope will happen, but I don't know how likely it is

    You just need to get up and go to church.  If you want there to be any chance at this relationship or a future relationship with an LDS man you just need to get over it.  I have anxiety about going to work, talking on the phone, going to public places, touching things in public, heights, etc, etc, etc..........  GET OVER IT.  It all comes down to priorities and what is important.  


  9. You've been married for 3 decades.  You want to stick this out.  Here is my advice:

    You need to accept the fact that this is how she is.  She is not going to change.  You need to love her as is.  There is no need for forgiveness, only acceptance.

     

    I'm not you, but for me this behavior would be intolerable.  I would advise her that the next Credit Card deception will result in separation and divorce.  If she doesn't want that then you will need to take over financial control with an iron fist.  If she still lies about Credit Card use, then  you follow through on your threat.  


  10. Sacrament is 1 hour per week.  I'll bet you and your wife waste at least that much time watching tv or whatever in a given week.  Ask your wife for 1 hour.  While at home you can study your scriptures.  You need to concentrate the rest of your time on your wife and child.  She was good enough to date, good enough to make a baby with, good enough to marry.  You can't complain now that she doesn't like the church.  It's too late.  

    Don't worry about impressing your Bishop.  Make sure your wife feels like your #1 priority.

     


  11. Traveler - you bill $100/hour for consulting.  Consulting is a very low overhead business.  Why would you charge that?  Are you disclosing your costs to your clients?  Wouldn't it be better if you only charged $40/hour?  Maybe you would have more customers / contracts.........


  12. are general authorities required to live the law of consecration?  How can we really know how well off they are?  Our prophet was a cardiac surgeon.  Those guy's make $ almost without limit at the level he was practicing at.  What happened to it all?  Utchdorf likes his Breitling watches......  not cheap.

    Pres. Monson was a lifetime church employee, I'm not surprised he had a modest home...


  13. Who knows what she meant by it......Girls/women write those types of things but don't always understand the impact it carries with men. 

    If I were you I would put it out of my head until she is done with her mission.  If you truly care for her, then wait until she is done.  At that point you can pursue to your hearts content.


  14. forget the link.  THIS:

    WE, THE FIRST PRESIDENCY and the Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, solemnly proclaim that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.

    ALL HUMAN BEINGS—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny. Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose.

    IN THE PREMORTAL REALM, spirit sons and daughters knew and worshipped God as their Eternal Father and accepted His plan by which His children could obtain a physical body and gain earthly experience to progress toward perfection and ultimately realize their divine destiny as heirs of eternal life. The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated beyond the grave. Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally.

    THE FIRST COMMANDMENT that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.

    WE DECLARE the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God’s eternal plan.

    HUSBAND AND WIFE have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. “Children are an heritage of the Lord” (Psalm 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations.

    THE FAMILY is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.

    WE WARN that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.

    WE CALL UPON responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society.