Backroads Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 If your wife were pregnant, and casually mentioned one morning she had a crazy dream where another man was the father of her child and she had been trying to find a way to hide it from you, would this make you panic? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vort Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 No. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Backroads Posted November 21, 2012 Author Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 No.So, why am I getting "You cheated on me in a dream!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 Backroads... I asked my husband. He said, "I'm used to it - people look at my Filipino kids and just assume I'm not the father". LOL! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vort Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 So, why am I getting "You cheated on me in a dream!" Hmmm. Maybe because you didn't tell him, "Look, with that attitude I'll probably torture and dismember you in a dream."Seriously, though, if I ever had a dream that involved my infidelity to my wife, you can bet I would never, ever, ever tell her (or probably anyone else) about it. Some things are better left unsaid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vort Posted November 21, 2012 Share Posted November 21, 2012 · Hidden Hidden Backroads... I asked my husband. He said, "I'm used to it - people look at my Filipino kids and just assume I'm not the father". LOL!I have some sympathy for your husband. Sister Vort and I are both Caucasian. Two of our sons have eyes with epicanthic folds. On at least one occasion, the older of these sons was asked if he was adopted or if is father was Asian. Link to comment
Guest Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 Pregnancy = crazy dreams. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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slamjet Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 I would then say "then I hope the child looks more like you." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wingnut Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 Before we got married, my husband and I agreed that anything that happens in dreams is off-limits with regard to getting mad at each other. For the most part, it's impossible to control one's dreams. I have had an occasional dream where I was with another man. It's left me unsettled enough that I've had to talk about it, so I've told my husband. He usually laughs it off with some comment to the effect of, "well, I hope he was hot!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dravin Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 Before we got married, my husband and I agreed that anything that happens in dreams is off-limits with regard to getting mad at each other. For the most part, it's impossible to control one's dreams. I have had an occasional dream where I was with another man. It's left me unsettled enough that I've had to talk about it, so I've told my husband. He usually laughs it off with some comment to the effect of, "well, I hope he was hot!"I panic over my crazy dreams not Beefche's. It's that brief moment between dreaming and being fully awake when you can't distinguish reality from the dream that causes the panic. Nothing like waking up to 5 seconds of soul crushing guilt until your brain kicks in and explains, "No, you did not cheat on your wife." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Windseeker Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 I saw this and I was like Hey!..I'm a gent anywho.. No it wouldn't bother me. I dreamed my first child came out as a werewolf and I'm not a werewolf, but I wasn't suspicious of my wife or anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vort Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 I panic over my crazy dreams not Beefche's. It's that brief moment between dreaming and being fully awake when you can't distinguish reality from the dream that causes the panic. Nothing like waking up to 5 seconds of soul crushing guilt until your brain kicks in and explains, "No, you did not cheat on your wife."Or in your dream, when you think, "How could I have committed adultery? How could I have cheated on my wife? I will never get past this!"Hypothetically speaking, I mean. Supposing someone actually had a dream like that, which of course I never would. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeuroTypical Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 If your wife were pregnant, and casually mentioned one morning she had a crazy dream where another man was the father of her child and she had been trying to find a way to hide it from you, would this make you panic? Oh heck no. That would be a rather mild dream compared to some of the more bizarre or extreme or horrible dreams both of us have had. And we've each had plenty.It's important to know what dreams are, and what they are not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
classylady Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 Pregnancy = crazy dreams.Definitely. I had doozies when I was pregnant. I usually don't have nightmares, but I would have disturbing dreams while pregnant. It's funny I can't remember any of them right now. I just know I had them.My girlfriend once dreamed that she could take her pregnancy off like an apron. She dreamed she wanted to go snow skiing, so she just untied her belly and set it aside while she went skiing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wingnut Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 My girlfriend once dreamed that she could take her pregnancy off like an apron. She dreamed she wanted to go snow skiing, so she just untied her belly and set it aside while she went skiing.Man, that would be nice! Especially for things like...sleeping. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dravin Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 (edited) Or in your dream, when you think, "How could I have committed adultery? How could I have cheated on my wife? I will never get past this!"Hypothetically speaking, I mean. Supposing someone actually had a dream like that, which of course I never would.I've had dreams where I'm drinking alcohol like it isn't anything but there is some small part of me in the dream shouting to myself, "What do you think you're doing! Idiot!" Edited November 21, 2012 by Dravin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest SquidMom Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 My husband once dreamed that he was on a surgery table and a dog and a cat were neutering him... (We both worked at a vet office.) Dreams often don't mean anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
john doe Posted November 21, 2012 Report Share Posted November 21, 2012 Or in your dream, when you think, "How could I have committed adultery? How could I have cheated on my wife? I will never get past this!"Hypothetically speaking, I mean. Supposing someone actually had a dream like that, which of course I never would.Just for the record. we will not be starting a new forum category dedicated to giving advice to people who dreamt they slept around. You folks will just have to deal with it on your own in your own ways. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seeking_peace Posted November 22, 2012 Report Share Posted November 22, 2012 My ex-husband had once had a dream that he walked in on me and another man in bed. For days afterward he looked at me with suspicion. I had to keep reminding him that it was HIS subconscious, and not mine, that had me in bed with someone else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FunkyTown Posted November 22, 2012 Report Share Posted November 22, 2012 If my wife told me that, I'd get a chuckle out of it. I don't think dreams are really meaningful to me. However, when my wife has a dream where I'm a jerk to her, I apologize. I hug her and say I'm sorry I was a jerk in her dream. She's sleepy at this point when she tells me, so it usually makes her feel better and she laughs about it in the morning. Or it has, up to this point. There've only been a couple. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wingnut Posted November 23, 2012 Report Share Posted November 23, 2012 My husband once dreamed that he was on a surgery table and a dog and a cat were neutering him... (We both worked at a vet office.) Dreams often don't mean anything.Payback's a female dog.However, when my wife has a dream where I'm a jerk to her, I apologize. I hug her and say I'm sorry I was a jerk in her dream.My husband does this, too. I appreciate the gesture, but at the same time I feel bad that he's apologizing, because he didn't actually do anything wrong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annewandering Posted November 23, 2012 Report Share Posted November 23, 2012 Lately I have had a horrible dream that scared me bad. I had done an unforgivable thing in the dream that I cant even talk about. When I woke up I had to convince myself it wasnt a hidden memory it was that overwhelming. There have been three dreams like this in my life that have had lasting effects on me. They are not easy to let go of. Even though they did not involve adultery I just wouldnt tell my husband. Not really sure why but they are hard enough for me to put out of my mind without adding them to my husbands. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
john doe Posted November 23, 2012 Report Share Posted November 23, 2012 Lately I have had a horrible dream that scared me bad. I had done an unforgivable thing in the dream that I cant even talk about. When I woke up I had to convince myself it wasnt a hidden memory it was that overwhelming. There have been three dreams like this in my life that have had lasting effects on me. They are not easy to let go of. Even though they did not involve adultery I just wouldnt tell my husband. Not really sure why but they are hard enough for me to put out of my mind without adding them to my husbands.Don't tell me you dreamt you voted for a Republican? Oh, the horror! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mirkwood Posted November 23, 2012 Report Share Posted November 23, 2012 Let's hope dreams don't mean anyting. Mirky dreams = Blackhawk Down meets Saving Private Ryan Normandy scene meets Band of Brothers Carenten scene meets Aliens meets Predator meets The Walking Dead meets Dracula meets Independence Day meets werewolves and witchcraft, with some traffic stop & domestic violence call shootous mixed into the picture. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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