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I wonder... What it would be like if we breathed out of our bellybutton and still used out mouths to eat? I wonder if that would cut down on choking?

That's a tough situation. In my experience, brainwashed members of cults are often influenced most by the stories of people who bought into the cult and then left it. (I'm not saying your dad or his wife are brainwashed, just that other people's real-life stories can be more persuasive than endless academic debates.) Might be a good idea if you have a serious talk with your dad and get him to promise that he won't do anything without talking to his children first. I think that's a reasonable thing, since the children have a stake in all this. At least that might prevent his sudden conversion in a moment of weakness or extreme pressure. Wishing you well...

Washington State! :)

man cave (I hope that one is okay. My husband has a certain room with all his guitars and other stuff and I call it his man cave.)

The statement "you teach people how to treat you" used to really set me off. But as I've gotten older I've realized its true. Until you change your response to him he won't see a need to change. You can't change him but you can change your response to him. When you change the status quo he will no longer get what he expects the reaction will be to his abuse. He is getting something he needs when he treats you badly. When he quits getting that because you don't respond the same way then one of two things will happen, either the abuse will get worse thus making it easier for you to leave or he'll wake up and realize how hurtful he is being when he does the things you've described and then hopefully repent. Right now in the middle of a problem is a really hard time to forgive but it can happen. You need to change how you respond to him. What he's doing is harmful to you and your children but you have the power to change it. Because in the end the person he's hurting the worst is himself. Step 1 is to examine your reaction to what he's doing/saying. Then decide a better way to react/respond. Then do it. Step 2 is to reevaluate. Step 3 is to repeat Step 1. Make sure you pray, fast and pray, and pray again. Make sure your reactions/responses are such that the Holy Ghost stays with you. There might be a time when you have to leave, so prepare, but don't move forward from here thinking this will end in a broken marriage. There might come a time when his behavior escalates, be prepared. Put protections in place. Verbal abuse is often the beginning. However, everyone can change, including your husband. I wish you the best.

Did you say something? I didn't think so.

I always figured you'd have some dumb lightning bolt logo.

A suggestion from someone who has been there, try a separation first. You and your wife sit down and draw up a separation agreement that details each other's responsibilities! That should help each of you focus on what would happen if you do separate! Go Iive with a relative for 6 months and spend that time in much prayer and searching the scripture! Sometimes, being apart can bring issues into focus and help see what the real problems may be!

Read The Coming Of The Lord by Gerald Lund.

The beginning of the end happened with Joseph Smith and the translation of the Book of Mormon and the restoration of the gospel.

I'm curious why you are asking this on an LDS forum. Plenty of websites exists to help people who have decided to divorce; you sound like you've made the decision already . . . . If you know (not feel, but know and that is a very important distinction) that God has given you permission to divorce then there really isn't anything to say. However, the Church will always default to saving marriages and except in cases of abuse and adultery simply being unhappy is not a valid scriptural reason for divorce. Except for the fact that Bishops & SP cannot be divorced the Church has no penalties for divorce. Food for thought, many studies exists and show that in general individuals who divorce because they are "unhappy" end up being less happy after they divorce than when they were married. And those who were "unhappy" in their marriage are generally happy 5 years later if they stick together. The grass is almost never greener on the other side, you just trade one set of problems for another set of problems. In cases of abuse and adultery, the other party in marriage has committed an act so egregious that divorce is justified, but not necessarily mandatory.