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This would seem to be the most likely explanation: Other possible explanations, like global conspiracies involving hundreds or thousands of people colluding to hide the truth, would seem to be less likely.

It can be difficult to raise your arm and sustain error-prone folks, especially when they do something that ticks us off. It helps me to remember that putting actual sustaining into action, can sometimes involve doing what I can to help someone be less error-prone or tickey-offey. Sometimes there's a way I can help with that, sometimes not.

Vaccination doesn't mean one is completely immune with MRNA vaccines, or at least the Covid Vaccines. It lowers the chances of serious illness. Basically, if we look at it like gambling. Hypothetical numbers. Without taking the vaccine, you have a 1 in 10 chance (depending on age, the older you get, the more 1 in 10 it will be, for younger individuals it may be 1 in 10,000. At least for the initial strain, young children were highly resistant to the devastating effects) of dying. 1 in 5 of developing severe symptoms that could lead to hospitalization. If you take the vaccine, that gamble falls to 1 in 100 for death, 1 in 25 for serious complications or hospitalization. That means, in a department which has approximately 700 people, if everyone was vaccinated, and if they were all elderly like me, they could have up to 7 deaths and almost 30 people that are hospitalized due to Covid in this scenario. Better than 70 deaths and 140 hospitalizations. Most vaccines don't ensure total immunity. The amount given varies from vaccine to vaccine. The hope is that if enough gain that immunity then we get herd immunity, which lessens the chance for the disease to infect everyone. As less take the vaccines, herd immunity decreases and the number of cases increases. This is why measles is starting to make a comeback in the states (along with a few other diseases that were eradicated during my lifetime, only to come back because of stupid anti-vaccine ideas these days). People are not vaccinating their kids and enough are not vaccinated that the herd immunity is fading...so those that are not vaccinated have a chance to actually contract the disease now.

I'm glad we can still get the printed version. So much of the world forgets that, we, elderly people exist. I feel I have a better grasp on a lot of the technology out there than other peers my age, but I still feel lost in this world of technology. It's grown so fast that I just can't catch up!

If she's food insecure, then that's a much more immediate concern to her than a drivers license. People who live like that often struggle to plan past their next meal. They live in fight/flight mode 24/7 and it's exhausting. The best thing you could do for her is try to get her linked up with a social worker if she doesn't already have one. Might be difficult without ID, but that's where I'd start. Social workers exist to help people who struggle to help themselves.

Oh, totally agree. When one party has virtually iron clad control over the state, what do you expect? Same applies to Texas/Florida republicans, Massachusetts/California democrats, etc.

The entire NY Dem party is a dumpster fire of corruption, so he'll probably win.

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Couldn’t agree more. And guess what? LDS men don’t women a thing either. Now, with the church becoming so mainstream LDS men/women can find dates and spouses outside the church very easily. In this case, sure. I’m with you. But showing someone the door is a very dangerous strategy. For all you know they’ll call your bluff and might thrive. I saw that happen with a returned missionary who was told she wasn’t welcome in the church due to her politics. She said “Okay”-and she’s doing so well that other RM’s saw her and had issues with their own faith. Granted, it’s a small case and just my personal experiences. It’s like asking your boss to fire you or your girlfriend to leave you. Once she’s packing her bags and once you are cleaning out your desk you’ll begin to think “Gee, maybe I should have handled that differently.”

@Ironhold-just to double down, tell that guy about Russell M. Nelson, Dallin H. Oaks, Henry B. Eyring, and Dieter F. Uchtdorf. I guess they are worthless to the church too because none of them served missions.

And as far as I’m concerned, his statement is of no worth. So don’t worry about it.

That goes back to what I've noted before about how the "gifted" label was often a cursed gift. A great many of us who were called "gifted" back in the day were in fact high-functioning autistic. Parents were encouraged to hold us "gifted" kids to often impossibly high standards, with autistic tics, autistic tells, and signs of autistic burnout all being regarded as personal failings on the part of the "gifted" kid who was, clearly, slacking off and not living up to their potential. Cue a great many "gifted" kids burning out completely in their twenties and thirties, to the point that a few years ago one could find "Gifted Kid Burnout Bingo" cards floating around online as a way for people to retroactively recognize how much damage the label had done to them.

Pushed? People were being told "get the jab or lose your job". Large numbers of military service members were forcibly discharged from service for their refusal to get it... only for the Department of Defense to now beg these individuals to come back, with all sorts of ostensible promises that their careers will be reset back to where they were and their records expunged.

So you are saying in D&D terms..... For their stat roll (3d6) Mirkwoods department rolled a 3 or 4 instead of a 10-11. Well that sucks for them Of course you always hear about the people who get 3 or 18's in D&D vary rarely about the 10-11s. Same with the COVID Vaccine. Because "Hi I apparently rolled a 10 on my COVID shot. I had a sore arm for a few days and that was it" isn't really much for conversation. Plus it might be viewed as a bit insensitive to those who got a worse result. And of course with any tragedy people want answers they want to blame someone... The answer "You rolled poorly" usually does not work. Lets not forget all this data we have now.... Did not exist then. We were being asked to "trust the science" When the science wasn't finished yet... It was pushed on us like a dealer trying to get someone new hooked on their product.

I believe you ended up rebutting yourself. I realize that the point Ironhold is making is different from the one I'm making. But they seem to overlap. Here's my point: We hear that there is a concern. Many jumped on the bandwagon of "Whoa! That's horrible. Everyone is going to die!!!" My first reaction was, "Ok, that's concerning. What's the data?" It's usually wise to hear an accusation and begin to ask for evidence to determine if it is true or not. Faucci and others were lying so blatantly (the lab leak theory is a hoax!!!) created an environment of distrust that simply saying "Trust us. It's safe." was not very reassuring. So, I'm just sitting here asking for more data. And the party that we KNOW are documented liars are saying, "Hey, don't worry." Is that very reassuring for you? Now we have clearer data that showed there was some truth to the fears. But when looking at the bigger picture, it probably was not worth all the hype. Was it too much to ask that they at least show the data and tell people, "Yes, with any medical procedure, there are always some minor risks. But in this case, the benefits outweigh the risks." I realize some of this was all emotional. But I was simply asking for data. And when I look at data, I can weigh "how" true a statement is. Apparently the fears were only about 0.1% true. While not a lie, it isn't anything to worry about. And that would be what I based my decisions on.

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I'm only 40 and I'm starting to settle into my preferred tech.

I've found the exact opposite. There are many people willing to do things, but only certain people are asked to do things. Or...the same 10 people are always put in leadership positions and asked to do things and everyone else is always ignored. I constantly have callings and asked to do things, but I have friends who never get asked and don't even have callings! They get to sit back in their old age...but not I! I think one problem that we see is that we don't ask people enough to be able to do things. People are more than willing, if only they were asked to do so. It's amazing how many show up to clean the ward house if you personally call them the week they can help out. But when you don't personalize it, you get the same 5 people every week. I find it horrible how we have the same person called to be a Elder's quorum president, the Bishop or Bishopric, High counsel, and Stake leadership. There are people that were in my ward that were worthy that never were called to such positions. Sometimes they were far more worthy than some of those I have known in leadership positions (I've known some pretty bad thieves in the Stake Presidencies and High Counsels, some rather dishonest individuals among those groups, and have horror stories that ensue due to that)! I feel the Church would be a more just and fair place if we gave everyone equal opportunities to attain the same blessings of high callings as each other. Instead, sometimes it turns into a nepo party (nepotism) or just a plain party of who's popular and who's not, and that's unfortunate. I would gladly enable some of the older brethren who have always been Elders (and no reason they should not have ever been a High Priest, some of them are the best people I know!) to be given the opportunities that they have been denied. However, I surely and truly hope that the Lord is right and honest when he says the first shall be last and the last shall be first, and it applies to heaven. I would imagine there will be some pretty high and lofty leaders that are the last in heaven, and some of those who were never given these blessings and opportunities in this life that will be first in heaven. I, myself, know that I am not close to being as righteous as some of these members who have been denied these blessings in this life. I strive to be better, but I am still far too worldly to compare to many of them.

I don't. I do know that 100% of the hospitalizations that I personally know were covid vaxxed. I guess I'll put that question back to you. How do you explain that?

Ok. How do you explain 5.3 billion shots going into ~5 billion different arms across the whole planet, and your bolded observation (which does indeed sound like one could draw a conclusion about things) doesn't seem to have happened anywhere else across the entire human race? I mean, I used to regularly go to the covid news links for my county, several states, my country and others, and global data. Probably at least half of them had some sort of graph or chart comparing outcomes for vaccinated folks vs unvaccinated folks. And while the shot indeed was not as effective as hoped/claimed, the same story showed up over and over in the data. You put 1000 vaxxed folks in a room, and 1000 unvaxxed foks in another room and everyone gets covid. Open the doors and count the dead and hurt, and the unvaxxed folks had more dead, and more hurt. How come?

So just to make sure I understand. You claim people have realized the Covid vaccines were "far less safe than we were assured". Your source for this claim is the linked apnews article. Is that correct? Because if it is, you're not really making your case. The article is about a cautionary pausing from some countries based on some things that could be issues, maybe for children. There's a difference between pausing for some people based on caution, and "far less safe". I mean, yes, the administration and Faucci were messaging "100% and 100% effective" like the liar-liar-pants-on-fire they were. The massive push to get children vaccinated flew in the face of the data that kids were the least likely to get it or have complications. So many things were done wrong, some of it had to be intentional. But your claim was "covid vaccines were far less safe than we were assured", and that's simply not true. Not by a long shot. Your AP news article doesn't make the case, and although I've looked for years, no credible source does either.

There may be a little bit of compassion fatigue here mixed with an attempt to say, see, there's a problem. But I had an experience today that makes me wonderful just how to help this person. I know there are far worse examples. A couple of my buy nothing/local needs/free stuff groups have the same individual in them. Let's call her Betty. For several years now, Betty pops up a few times a month to beg for this and that. She seems to be in and out of housing and jobs, and apparently loses her SNAP and WIC every time she gets a job. Early on, people accused Betty of being some sort of scammer, but the reality of reports seems to be that she is just entirely helpless, not even clever enough to turn these into scams. For the past year in particular, she has been unable to access many a local bit of help due to having her driver's license stolen. She can't replace it because her family apparently won't help her. So a couple of weeks ago, I challenged her to talk to the vital records office about getting a free copy of her birth certificate (which she can get because she is currently homeless. She says it's too hard and the family member who is living at a hotel with her doesn't know how to help. So... I actually offer to meet her at the vital records office or, if she can't figure out how to get there, lead her in a conference call with someone there to walk her through the steps. She agrees. Today is to be the day. She says she doesn't feel well enough to make a call. She then posts this evening in two groups how she is desperate for food. Like, I don't know how to help this woman. She can't be bothered to help herself. I now feel quite un-Christlike after typing this, but it makes me wonder what we as mortals can do to help people like this. Is this just a fate of a fallen world?

I have attempted to help the homeless (and other poor) on a number of occasions. Each is an individual though there seems to be common threads. If recreational (sometimes prescription) drugs (including alcohol) are involved there is not much that can be done to help. There is a strong connection among the poor between drugs and mental instability. In my youth such mental instability was solved by committing those individuals to mental institutions. Individuals that resisted were medicated according to their level of resistance. There was a joke when someone acted stupid that the men in the white coats would soon be coming to get them. I wonder if that threat solved a lot of social problems that seem to have reared up in this era. There was a group we used to call the intellectual bleeding-heart liberals that determined that institutionalizing the mentally instable against their wishes was cruel punishment. Most mentally instable also suffer from degrees of paranoia and resist any intrusion ("helpful" relationship) into their life. I guess that such liberal intellectuals with bleeding hearts think that leaving the mentally instable and addicted to fend for themselves in society is somehow kinder and more charitable. I am not an expert, but I do believe that anyone that cannot manage themselves needs to be institutionalized. The amount of self-medication (like a DUI) ought to be an indication that institutionalization or at least some level of oversite is necessary. Most certainly they should not be registered to vote. The Traveler

There are some surface level similarities between the JWs and us. Such as rejection of the trinity, focus of gospel outreach and a tiered afterlife. (Of course once you look into it, the similarities vanish but I find it intriguing nevertheless). And so whenever I get something through the post or someone knocking on the door, I will engage with them. I've never been disrespectful, but the second they find out what religion I belong to, they end things. Quick. It usually comes in such a way that I present my views, and instead of provide their own point of view on them, they run away. Anyone know why this might be?

There are mentally ill people, and there are scammers. There are lazy people, and there are low-iq people without the brain power to understand. There are entitled people and folks with PTSD who are struggling with being abused by people they should have been able to trust. Here's the thing - we often can't tell who is who by just looking at them or even working with them. The line from that hymn nailed it: Who am I to judge another when I walk imperfectly? In the quiet heart is hidden sorrow that the eye can’t see. Scripture is pretty clear on things too: So we're left with a good reasonable basis for not judging, a scriptural commandment to not judge, and a very reasonable question about what help looks like and what it doesn't look like. - Giving someone help who could do it themselves isn't help, it's enabling their laziness. That's not charity, that's not love, that's not respecting someone's agency, that's being a sucker. - Giving someone help who can't do it themselves is help, is charity, and we're commanded to do it, and if we don't and get all judgey about it we're going to hell. It can be impossible to tell which sort of person we're dealing with. So we take our best guess, do our best, and try to live with the consequences. I'm pretty sure that while @Phoenix_person and his folks' hearts are in the right place, subsidizing single motherhood with taxpayer dollars is the most harmful thing white folk have done to the black community since slavery. Paying people to keep fathers out of the home is evil, and has ruined lives and increased all the bad things these programs seek to prevent. That said, each of us will personally be judged by how we've treated the lost and the least of us, and if we screw it up it'll have eternal consequences. So do your best and make up your mind and pray for guidance to do the right thing.

Gonna need a link to this claim. I looked at the session summaries here, but nothing like you describe. I remember someone talking about a mission, but I did not get the vibe you're getting. Since we can easily review both the video and transcript, it might be helpful. There are endless, endless times where I've seen lots of folks go off half-cocked about what this or that speaker "basically declared", only to find out that no, that's not what they said. The truth tends to be helpful here.

Yes I know Pope Francis is dead (and peace be upon him) but something else happened this past weekend which is causing much more of a splash: https://edition.cnn.com/2025/04/19/europe/uk-supreme-court-biological-woman-intl/index.html The Supreme Court has ruled that as far as the Equality Act 2010 goes, gender is defined by what a person was born as, not how they choose to identify. Right now Starmer-schmarmer is keeping a very low profile, but from here on he can't use the Equality Act to justify allowing trans-women into female-only spaces, or allowing trans-women to beat the socks off actual women in women's sports. I'm seeing my "child" this coming Thursday and I'm taking her (them) back up to college Friday. I may be worrying unnecessarily (she knows I'm a disgraceful reactionary Neanderthal) but I'm a bit uneasy about what to say if she brings it up. And to be honest, I think this may be a false dawn for "real gender" anyway. If I understand correctly, all the government needs to do is to get a new law passed to replace the 2010 act, making it explicit that "woman" includes trans-women, and the Law Lords' ruling becomes completely moot.

Indeed... I am a big fan of truth, but there is so much we do not have right now. As far as I am concerned Plural Marriage in the Celestial Kingdom is "Tomorrow's" problem which in truth I am not seeing as problem either way for me personally. However right here, now, "Today's" problem is in truth is I that need the reassurance that I have just as good a chance as anyone else. This does not have to be true... But right now I need to believe it to be true. If once everything is done, if then, I find out it wasn't true it will no longer matter

Oh agree. I dislike it when people surrender to it either and use it as an excuse for bad behavior. Having said that, I absolutely think it exists and is treatable.

Speaking for me only, I was on Ritalin (not uncommon for 90’s boys) in my teenage years and it did nothing. When I stopped taking it in college I began to thrive. I don’t think Ritalin/not being on Ritalin had much to do with it. Environment and mental health matters much more.

I have mixed feelings on medication for ADHD. I've seen too many unmedicated kids who were far behind just charmingly energetic (one couldn't even get out of the classroom to run around outside, he was so unfocused) where other therapies just weren't working. But, yeah, not all the medicated people grew up to be outstanding citizens either... But the point of my reply here is that medications are such a weirdly fascinating assembly of risk. My daughter is on a near-miracle drug for her condition (they even just released an ever more near-miracle drug, which is exciting) and one of the relatively bigger side effects complaints is some increased levels of quirky behavior. Depression risks, ADHD-like symptoms, etc. She's 9 and quite the firecracker, and sometimes we wonder, is this her or the medication? For what it's worth, this medication may actually add decades to her lifespan so I'm not going to drop it, but it really is interesting how some of this shakes out.

There is a category of Celestualized beings who are not exalted, with an absence of Celestial marriage being the distinguishing factor. I don't know how many will land there but men do seem to be more prone to desire not being married.

I have thought about this for a while. I will not pretend to know or understand any more than anyone else, but plural marriage in the eternities may not be defined exactly as we may be defining or thinking. There is a possibility that not all wives in a plural marriage are equal. Both to each other as well as their husband. Since we are speculating and do not know anything for sure, the parameters may not be defined in the manner we are thinking that we are applying them. The Traveler

Sure. But if it's a true principle, and if anyone practices it in the eternities, then it means more exalted women than men.

A significant component of what makes men men and women women comes from our physical makeup, a physical makeup that happens to be in a fallen state. It's hard to know how similar or dissimilar that makes us from how we are spiritually or how we'll be in the resurrection and what role that will play at judgement day. It's true that women, in general, seem to come by certain divine qualities more naturally than men but is that because women are simply more spiritually advanced in those areas or because God made it so to make His plan work?

In my attempt to follow the 2nd great commandment, I've now met and befriended 3 folks who struggle in various ways with just living as the sex they were born with. There are a lot of struggles I don't mind having in this life, those are struggles I never want to experience. Imagine trying to live in your own skin with the pervasive, sometimes overpowering pressure screaming at you that "you're wrong". Gender dysphoria, the closely related body dysmorphia, and the host of various intersex conditions that exist on a hormonal, chromosomal, structural, or genetic level are real illnesses and defects that people struggle with in varying ways. That said, the SCOTUK (did I get that right?), and most of the stuff Trump is trying to do (because we elected him to fix this), is spot on. Humans have two legs. Some folks don't have two legs. Humans are still correctly categorized as bipedal. It doesn't matter if there's a thriving industry that has sprung up to add/remove legs to people who want such things.

Random thoughts: 1. I loved the Vatican when I visited. I’d like to live there. I also recognize that if it became the sort of place where the likes of me could go and live, much of what I love about it would be lost. My love for it—and indeed, a big part of its allure and spiritual power—derives from the fact that it is not what it would inevitably become if it were under my control. And I wish that Francis had understood and conceded about my country, what I understand and concede about his. 2. LDS temples are beautiful, but (with a handful of exceptions) their artistry is not even in the same ZIP code as the artistry of the great medieval and renaissance basilicas and cathedrals. 3. Artistry can be a form of worship. Craftsmanship can be a form of worship. In our temples we do the latter very well; as I think we are theologically beholden to do. But we do the former only at a very elementary level. Temple artwork is first and foremost intended to recall and evoke the spirit of specific past events; not about embracing beauty as an aspect of divinity and then pioneering new ways of seeking beauty for its own sake. 4. There are good reasons for the LDS Church as an institution to *not* prioritize artistry, even (arguably, especially) in its temples. Structures can become enormous money pits if you aren’t willing to say goodbye to them when they become obselete or damaged beyond repair (see SL Temple, SL Tabernacle, Provo City Center Temple, Kirtland Temple; compare Ogden Temple, Anchorage Temple, Provo Rock Canyon Temple). And the architectural uniqueness of France’s great cathedrals is a big part of why the government there expropriated those buildings and has often refused to give them back in the intervening centuries.

Another similarity is both of us have active missionary efforts, which is why you get an opportunity to scare them off in the first place. They first came around my house like 15 years ago. I remember complimenting them on the artwork in the Watchtower. Nobody does a "whore of babylon riding the beast" as well as the J-dubs! (View it and weep, Arnold Friberg!) Anyway, I guess I was so friendly to them, my house ended up on their permanent list of places to go tracting. Probably over half a dozen visits over the years. And yes, the visits are always short when they find out I'm still LDS. But for whatever reason, that info doesn't make it into whatever file they keep on me, because another pair stop by next year.

Interesting. Mine started working when I was SS President, but it’s kept working now even though I’m just a lowly temple and family history leader. 🤷‍♂️

Mr. Sherlock Holmes and his friend Dr. Watson went camping together. One night, as they lay looking up at the starry sky, Holmes said: "Watson, what do you see up there?" Watson replied; "I see thousands and thousands of stars." "And what does that tell you?" asked Holmes? "Well, Holmes," said Watson. "It tells me that the universe is vast beyond comprehension. Each of those stars is a sun, with worlds of its own, which may have beings on them who are looking up at the stars just as we are, asking whether they are alone in the universe." Holmes was silent for a few moments. "What does it tell you, Holmes?" asked Watson at last. "It tells me," said Holmes slowly. "That someone has stolen our tent!"

https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2025/04/17/us/florida-state-university-shooting-phoenix-ikner-invs Here’s who he actually is so far. “He would joke about the deaths of minorities,” Lucas said. “He talked about how Stonewall was bad for our society,” he added, referring to a pivotal moment in the LGBTQ+ civil rights movement.” Riley Pusins, who became the president of a nonpartisan political discourse club last fall, says he remembers Ikner calling protesters in the pro-Palestinian movement and demonstrations that followed the police killing of George Floyd “dirty rats“ So, if he was aligned with leftism and gangs, he’s got a very strange way of showing it.

Okay. So far there’s no actual evidence that he’s involved in anything like that. Just feelings. Which are nice, but meaningless.

Everyone knows that college football is a religion down here, with rivalries causing true hate between people. The shooting at FSU has united Floridians. This pic is making the rounds on social media down here. It’s the mascots of all the schools comforting the FSU mascot.

And you are wrong. The guy has white supremacist views, acted alone, and we’re still trying to figure it all out. https://www.newsnationnow.com/crime/fsu-shooting-suspect-club-white-supremacist-views/amp/ You are free to believe whatever garbage you’d like, but Floridians would appreciate it if you don’t spread lies about what happened or politicize this horrific act. Especially because the bodies are still in the morgue, and you have no idea what you are talking about. Thanks.

Alas, only leadership and certain other callings get this. The only report I have is "Class and Quorum Attendance" (but I only see RS and I think it's because I'm an RS teacher - since I see everyone's attendance, not just mine, and I don't see my SS class/attendance).

If you have LDS Tools, you should be able to see stats on average weekly sacrament meeting attendance in your unit (under “Reports —> Quarterly Reports —> Indicators of Conversion and Church Growth”) and how many members of your unit have received their endowment and how many of those have current temple recommends (under “Reports —> Unit statistics”).

The skeptic in me believes that those figures are withheld because they make for grim reading. I've seen estimates for activity rates around 30% world wide. But in conference they spoken about a record number of missionaries in the field, a record number of baptisms, a record number of youth engagement with church education. And all these temples being announced. Makes me wonder if the figures aren't as bleak as I initially thought.

Wow - @JohnsonJones actually read my articles and considered my arguments? That's respectable. Thank you for your response!

Once I was discussing our ADD with my brother and he said, "Remember when we were kids and it was just called being bad?"

There aren't all that many people in a ward. You would think that each ward member would be giving a talk every, oh, two or three years. But before we moved, I had not given a talk in many years. Maybe my talks are just that bad, but I got a lot of positive comments after my previous talk, so I'm thinking that's not it. I don't especially love lecturing the congregation, but I do enjoy preparing a talk and offering thoughts and experiences on a gospel topic. Even as a Sunday school teacher, I couldn't do that, because class time is not for lecturing. In two of my last three talks (which stretches back some time now), I have been preempted by people (both women, as it happened) who just Had A Whole Lot To Say, and took 30+ minutes to say it. I had prepared a talk, and in the first case I simply trashed my talk and bore a short testimony. In the second case I gave a very highly abbreviated synopsis of my talk, which led me to think that it might have been better to do the short testimony thing. That's just plain inconsiderate. Sure, your thoughts are relevant, but come on. If you're one of two main speakers, don't take up more than half the time. That seems like elementary school-level stuff. Other people prepared remarks, too. Speaking of which, I was asked to give a talk in our new ward. The bishopric counselor asked me to take eight minutes. Eight. Minutes. So I did, but there's only so much you can do with eight minutes, even if you talk fast. Which I generally don't. Two weeks after my most recent talk, my wife gave a talk. As usual, she did a wonderful job. I had two men (a bishopric counselor and a stake leader) approach me after the meeting and congratulate me on my wife's talk, assuring me that hers was better than mine. I didn't quite know how to respond to that.