The part I’ve bolded, is the part that caught my attention.
How many girls have you had “kissing sessions” with?
Of those girls, how many of the relationships turned out to be “secure”?
Answer: unless you are now married, the answer is zero. You didn’t have a secure relationship with any of those girls. If you had, the relationship wouldn’t have ended.
So now, you’ve got a bunch of failed relationships where either you, the girl involved—or both of you—thought it was serious and committed, and it really wasn’t. And so the breakup becomes, not an amicable parting of two good people who on further investigation simply turned out to be incompatible; but a betrayal, a reminder of unmet expectations and unkept promises. All of that leaves a mark, psychologically and spiritually. It impacts the way we bond, and the quality of future relationships.
God doesn’t want us to play around with people’s emotions like that just for the sake of a cheap semi-sexual thrill. And we aren’t really doing ourselves any favors with that kind of thing, either.
I’m not saying we should never kiss anyone we don’t plan to marry. But I am suggesting that physicality cannot be cavalierly transactionalized without, to some degree, stunting our ability to form and enjoy and maintain meaningful relationships in the future. Fully restoring that ability—viz, repentance—is not an easy or a pleasant or a short process.