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There is a fine line. Your mother can receive revelation regarding you. As your mother she has a stewardship, regardless of your age. The decision who to marry or not is entirely up to you. My mother did receive revelation regarding a man who was pursuing my younger sister. She didn't use the information to force my sister to decide one way or another. My mother's revelation turned out to be correct. Looking back I believe my mother was shown things to prepare her to help. Remember that agency is never taken away. Just because your mother says she's received revelation about who you shouldn't marry doesn't mean anything more than she might have information to help her with whatever decisions you make.

Heavenly Father knows what you need more than anyone else. Ask him for help. Be specific. And get a priesthood blessing. Maybe asking your Dad for a blessing specifically for the anxiety he will begin to understand the severity. As for talking to your grandmother. She loves you! I think if its possible for anyone on this earth to love us more than our parents do its our grandparents. Its a different love than our parents, but its just as strong. So..... tell her what you've told us. Explain your feelings. She might just surprise you. Then remember, that there are some people in the world who are just so wrapped up in what they want that they can't put themselves in someone else's shoes. If your grandmother fits in this group, still talk with her but keep in the back of your mind that she might not get it. At the very least she should respect your feelings. But if you never explain it to her she won't have a chance and she will continue to disappoint you. Finally... back to the beginning. Heavenly Father can and will heal all things and can do it in a short time. Ask Him. At the very least He can help you cope with the anxiety for specific situations. But personally, in the short term, I would just ask him to remove the anxiety. Then... BELIEVE that He can and will help you. I wish you all the best, especially on your mission.

mcgee, I think its hard for all of us. Even "born in the covenant" members struggle with WoW issues and make mistakes, even sin. Once we go through the repentance process then its up to us to forgive ourselves. I struggle with an addition to Diet Coke/Pepsi. I just called it Diet Caffeine now. LOL I stopped drinking it completely until about 4 years ago when my son got custody of his son and moved home. I'm co-parenting with him and its really rough chasing a baby, then toddler, now 5 year old at my age and with no energy and health issues. I can't make it through the day without a nap and if I try to stop drinking the diet caffeine I crash. I haven't figured out how to raise a child at my age without the caffeine boost. While I would prefer to get this out of my life, I also refuse to beat myself up for the problem. The Lord knows the intent of my heart and I'm sure eventually, with His help, I'll be able to be done with it. I wish you all the best. Make the desires and feelings of guilt part of your prayers. With Christ all righteous desires are possible. I wish you all the best. P.S. The word cult is a bit touchy among some LDS, as you can see. I got right away you were using the word in jest. I can only imagine how hearing it from family members who don't agree with your choice of religion make you feel when they use that word. I hope that as you move forward in your faith and life, that your family will become more accepting as they see the positive changes you're making.

Congratulations!

I haven't read the whole thread. When I was growing up the chapel was so sacred we didn't do in unless we had our Sunday clothes on. We didn't use the Chapel for Mutual or anything other than Sacrament meeting, and other gospel oriented activities such as firesides. If something was held in the Chapel then we knew to dress appropriately. I can't imagine anyone thinking it was ok to makeout in the chapel. Our world has slowly become more and more permissive. Because of the permissiveness and making it ok to not hold to a higher standard I'm not surprised some young people thought making out in the chapel was ok. It makes me sad though. We've lost a lot in making it ok to not hold certain places as sacred even if they aren't the temple.

I would pay tithing.

What perfect world? Did the parents of the autistic boy say "boys will be boys"? I wasn't referring to autistic children. I have a severely autistic nephew. I understand those issues well. I was referring to parents like the ones Wingnut described. Making poor excuses for bad behavior will only reinforce the bad behavior. Therefore, I'll repeat I do not believe in making those type of excuses for children. That's my world.

Your mother's baptism information (date) will be on her membership record.

My tip won't help for a short fix but is a long term preventative. Spray with a white Vinegar. I use 50% vinegar/50% water. When I clean the shower I add a few drops of dawn dish soap. When I started using vinegar I had black caulking I'd tried every thing on. Nothing worked. Since spraying with vinegar the black is going away.

When my house is too cool I warm up the oven and use it as a proofing oven. Once its warm (not hot) I turn off the heat and place the dough inside to raise. It always turns out. I've never used or heard of using a crock pot to raise bread dough.

I am a stay at home Grandma (primary caregiver to my grandson for the last 3-1/2 years....he's 5 now.). But I was a working Mom. I didn't work because we wanted a boat or fancy vacations, I worked because we needed the money for necessities, but I have to be honest and say there were times when I was happy to work because raising boys can be hard. I have three boys ... all about 3 years apart (then my last baby was a girl). Boys are hard! They are very physical. Boys get easier when they get older. Girls are easier when they are younger but get harder around puberty. At least that's my experience. My Aunts, Grandmother, other women I've known have felt the same. Others might have a different experience. Sometimes I feel guilty about feeling it was easier to work. My kids needed me home and I didn't have enough faith to make it work. I'm still working on those feelings and my baby is 25 yo. I agree with ldsashley and anatess that 1st its your decision and 2nd don't feel guilty about it! Two year olds are hard. That's why they call it the terrible twos. Having said that, personally I'd rather have TEN 2yos than teenagers again. I understand your frustration. I understand the cabin fever feelings. There are solutions. Find all your options and then prayerfully make a decision. Then don't look back. Kids with stay-at-home moms turn out great and kids with working moms turn out great. Some solutions might be stay at home but do a daycare/preschool two days a week. This will give you a break and will give your child the play time activities he needs to learn social skills. It will also help him appreciate mom and home and it will give you some one-on-one time with your newborn. Another solution might be to find other young mothers in area and trade play dates/babysitting with them. This will give you the support you need from other mothers and it will give you the break you need. For me looking back, I wish I hadn't worked as much. Maybe part time, but definitely not what I did. The biggest reason is my kids needed me home more. The secondary reason is that I ruined my health thinking I could do everything. Nobody (fathers or mothers) can do it all. That's why ideally there needs to be two parents. If you decide to do daycare. Do your research!!!!! A caring caregiver is the most important thing to consider. There were two times I thought I had a caring caregiver for my kids only to find out months down the road that it wasn't a good situation. Those are the times I wish I could go back and do over more than anything, but I can't. I try to not feel guilty about it. One last thing, you are 4 weeks post partum. Anatess brings up a good thing to consider which is post partum depression. PPD will make it harder to deal with a 2yo. Talk to your doctor. I wish you all the best in your decisions. Remember ... try not to feel guilty about your decisions.

aw... I miss the Deseret Gym too. And the little grocery store that was on the corner.... and was later Mormon Handicraft before it was torn down to make room for the Conference Center. Love the Conference Center but I miss the little things that made SLC feel small town.

Deposit payroll check and then pay tithing, immediately. Then pay the rest of the bills. If it helps to take the tithing out in cash so its no longer in the bank, do that. Do whatever it takes to pay tithing first. When you do it becomes easier because its just not there anymore.

Kids are smart. Be honest with her and use the other child's behavior as an example. If you act this way then other people can't play with you. Children understand. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. I agree that when the restraining order comment was made was the point where contact is completely stopped. You don't need a restraining order to not be around anyone, their spouse or their children. Additionally: I've never believe in the excuse "he's just that way" or "boys will be boys" or even an attitude of either. Children can learn to behave. Unfortunately for "R" it sounds like the world is going to do the discipline instead of his parents. I would want my child and my family as far from that situation as is possible.

Congratulations Heather!

I must have missed the post that announced the birth of your sweet little one. Congratulations! I went back to work after all my babies. If I could do it again I wouldn't go back or only part time. But..... that's me. As women we often get stuck feeling like we have to take care of everyone. I had that attitude and still do. I have a hard time saying no. But by not saying no when appropriate I have damaged my health. In the situation you describe I think you should talk to your Boss. He's the one who should know the issues and he is the one responsible for fixing the problems. I understand your concern for your co-worker but you can't fix her problems. The most you'll be able to do is put a bandaid on it ... and maybe at your expense. When I was young I didn't understand the cumulative effect of not taking care of myself. I thought I could go back to work in 6 weeks and be just fine. I thought I could work and take care of home/family. I thought I could do it all. I was wrong. Be prayerful in making your decision. I wish you all the best.

Its referenced in the back of the book. There's a link to the UN site. Dark? Depressing? YUP!!! Thus why I'm going nuts. Edit: http://www.un.org/esa/ds-d/agenda21/index.shtml

Glenn's book is about what life could be like if the United Nations' Agenda 21 becomes a reality. Sadly they are making progress. I read Glen's book and then I read the Agenda itself.

Amazing pics. Thank you for sharing. The stories behind the pictures are amazing too.

After reading the UN's Agena 21, yup I'm going nutss.

Skalen has good advice. Its really really hard to lay our heartache at Christ's feet. But unless you do, no matter now far you move away, you will always hold the resentment. Forgiveness is not for your husband and its not for your neighbor....Its for You! Let Christ heal your heart. Ask Him to heal your heart. Place it all in His hands and trust Him. You might find yourself surprised at the results in a few short months. Moving doesn't fix things. When we move we take our problems with us. Yes she's in your face and every time you see her it brings the emotions back, but there are other triggers that you might not be recognizing. Before you insist on moving ask Christ to help you forgive.

Yes it does make sense. But what you're saying has nothing to do with the village raising your children. Rather you're saying you need to let your children be aware of the pitfalls inthe village so they can guard against them. Am I correct?

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My youngest is now 25 and I wish that there was less they learned from the "village." Unless you have the right village. In today's world we are constantly cautioned about what we let in our homes. Just turning on the TV lets the "village" in and what is shown on TV has little to do with the values and standards I wanted my children to learn. Sex before marriage is a rampant part of our world. In the high schools here in Utah there was such a mis-connect with teenagers about chastity that the Stake Presidents in our area did several firesides on Chastity and got very specific, not just with teens but with parents too. My grandson is 5. The village he's being raised in has the same values ... for the most part. But in preschool this year, most of the kids come from families where the parents are parenting. They are letting TV parent. I am seeing a difference in my grandson's attitude towards the word and its not for the better. I"m considering home schooling because I don't like what he'll learn from the village.

Fair enough... What about truth? Does that change? Or principles?