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Did you net read the part where she said this:
 
Sounds like option 1 until the OP is in a better place spiritually and mentally
No one should be browbeaten into accepting a calling.  Individual consideration and compassion need to come into play. Shaming them by saying that they are giving up blessing does not help either you don't know that they are giving up blessings how could you know?

Did you net read the part where she said this:
 
Sounds like option 1 until the OP is in a better place spiritually and mentally
No one should be browbeaten into accepting a calling.  Individual consideration and compassion need to come into play. Shaming them by saying that they are giving up blessing does not help either you don't know that they are giving up blessings how could you know?

You shouldn't be afraid of your leaders, your husband needs to get involved. I haven't read every response but if no one has mentioned it you need to tell him to make this go away for you.  Your husband in no uncertain terms needs to tell the Stake president that the answer is no and to find another candidate. 

Did you net read the part where she said this:
 
Sounds like option 1 until the OP is in a better place spiritually and mentally
No one should be browbeaten into accepting a calling.  Individual consideration and compassion need to come into play. Shaming them by saying that they are giving up blessing does not help either you don't know that they are giving up blessings how could you know?

Did you net read the part where she said this:
 
Sounds like option 1 until the OP is in a better place spiritually and mentally
No one should be browbeaten into accepting a calling.  Individual consideration and compassion need to come into play. Shaming them by saying that they are giving up blessing does not help either you don't know that they are giving up blessings how could you know?

This is the kind of thinking in the church that I feel can be destructive. I have been in Young Women's for almost a year. I have been involved with them, teaching them and guiding activities. i already know that I don't connect with the youth. I can see as I watch others interact with them naturally and easily that I don't posses the qualities that make that happen. there are others who have been given the gift of relating to teenagers. I'm not one of those people. Put me in the Primary and it's a totally different story. So to put this heavy and punitive  thing on people saying essentially, you are denying blessings for yourself by saying no to this calling is wrong and hurtful.  
My bishop on the other hand responded by saying, I'm sorry this is a difficult time for you. If you need my help I'm more than ready to give it. That's true compassion.

Nonsense, if you can't speak freely now you need to postpone the wedding.

Nonsense, if you can't speak freely now you need to postpone the wedding.

Then you need to postpone marriage until such time that you can do so.

Your splitting hairs, if your lying to your Bishop your not living the gospel standards, if your not accepting callings and serving your fellow man your not living gospel standards, if your not regularly attending your meetings to participate in the sacrament your not living the gospel standards. 
Sure things could be much worse, you exercise your priesthood, and have a testimony but they could be better.

Bad news @Lee Your inactive.
This does not mean that you don't have a testimony, or feel close to Christ or live in a manner becoming a member of the church you're just not an active participant in the gospel. How can you be when you don't accept callings, pay your tithing, lie to your bishop, etc. etc.

Start saving now, average cost of 4yr university in state school is around 20k/yr.
So just a 4yr degree runs about 80k.
You can save, do a couple of years at community college, and live at home so maybe you can cut that in half.
The reality is that most kids aren't going to earn 40-80k working summer jobs.  
Starting real life looking up at a mountain of debt is no way to go.
 

Bad news @Lee Your inactive.
This does not mean that you don't have a testimony, or feel close to Christ or live in a manner becoming a member of the church you're just not an active participant in the gospel. How can you be when you don't accept callings, pay your tithing, lie to your bishop, etc. etc.

Bad news @Lee Your inactive.
This does not mean that you don't have a testimony, or feel close to Christ or live in a manner becoming a member of the church you're just not an active participant in the gospel. How can you be when you don't accept callings, pay your tithing, lie to your bishop, etc. etc.

Bad news @Lee Your inactive.
This does not mean that you don't have a testimony, or feel close to Christ or live in a manner becoming a member of the church you're just not an active participant in the gospel. How can you be when you don't accept callings, pay your tithing, lie to your bishop, etc. etc.

Why does he need to disclose something to his bishop that he's repented of and worked out with a previous bishop years ago? 

Yes the conversations should go like this:
Random church member: "Did you serve a mission?"
Me: "No, I am a convert and I joined after the cut-off age for men"
 
Your one word responses lead them to ask the next question to which you respond with one word again.  Then you have a problem with the questions? It is OK to string more than one or two words together when talking to someone.
 
 

Talk to his bishop about what?
@Tobin52 you have nothing to feel guilty about. Think about you lessons with the missionaries and think about what happened when you were baptised. 
If you want a sounding board ok I guess you can talk to your bishop but you can talk to a friend in the church or the missionaries or anyone for that matter. 

https://ticas.org/sites/default/files/pub_files/Debt_Facts_and_Sources.pdf

Your missing my point the OP should feel no guilt. There is no sin. What sins transpired in the past washed away with his baptism. Like most people he just needs to get out of his own head. 
OP your Bishop is a busy man, I am sure that he would love to meet with you and discuss anything you want, but you don't need to see him to resolve your feelings.

Your missing my point the OP should feel no guilt. There is no sin. What sins transpired in the past washed away with his baptism. Like most people he just needs to get out of his own head. 
OP your Bishop is a busy man, I am sure that he would love to meet with you and discuss anything you want, but you don't need to see him to resolve your feelings.

Yes the conversations should go like this:
Random church member: "Did you serve a mission?"
Me: "No, I am a convert and I joined after the cut-off age for men"
 
Your one word responses lead them to ask the next question to which you respond with one word again.  Then you have a problem with the questions? It is OK to string more than one or two words together when talking to someone.
 
 

I wasn't going to address it, but they are speaking about the unrepentant.  I agree in a broad sort of way that Elder Oaks and Elder Faust are probably not unrepentant in a general sense, but I don't think anyone ever accused them of walking on water of raising the dead either.  What I am saying is that we all have our little peccadilloes, yes even members of the 12.  
Do you remember every sin you ever committed? not likely...
 
 
 
 
  

Did he forget about the act with the animal or purposely leave it out? I think there is a distinction. If he purposely left it out then yes he should mention it. If he legitimately didn't remember I would say that it is covered under the umbrella of his repentance process.
As a porn addict since the age of 12 it would be impossible to tell "everything" so that's just nonsense. He couldn't possibly remember every moment of sin and every moment of self abuse. If he remembers something later does he have to go through the same process all over again....I don't think so.

Yes the conversations should go like this:
Random church member: "Did you serve a mission?"
Me: "No, I am a convert and I joined after the cut-off age for men"
 
Your one word responses lead them to ask the next question to which you respond with one word again.  Then you have a problem with the questions? It is OK to string more than one or two words together when talking to someone.