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Hey CG, Congrats on making it this far. I am sure the whole ordeal of him breaking the word of wisdom is eating you up. Don't stop going to the temple. Make sure to put his name in the prayer box and even feel free to fast for him (Just don't tell him you are doing these things) You can rest at ease and know because of your faithfulness your family will be protected. You have been sealed by the Holy Power of God. Your actions while your husband is struggling will keep your family together (EVEN if he dies in his sin) Understand the power of the covenant you made goes beyond the grave. Heavenly Father's Mercy is very powerful but DON'T take advantage of it, God will not be mocked. You can keep this with you as a gem to not get ulcers. God will bless your family for YOUR righteousness. Now the mission right now is to get him to stop lying to you. This is very detrimental to any relationship. Go out somewhere private, take a drive or a walk. Get a snack for him or something and then address your issues. Let him know that he can trust you. If he is addicted then help him enroll in a sobriety program and be with him each step of the way (go with him). Be supportive. Each time he messes up just let him know he can tell you. "Knowing is half the battle" if he has someone to be accountable to it will help A LOT. Also help him get to the Bishop, together with the power of the priesthood they will have success. Your husband sounds awesome. We all struggle with different things in this life C : You got this

Awww Mannn!!!! Lame C; lol

Thank you! I really enjoyed your comment. As far as The Book of Mormon goes I already know it is true. My old mentor is a polygamist and they are very proficient with the scriptures. They still use the original patterns of the garment, still use the penalties in their endowments and live the law of consecration . Needless to say I am getting a rather watered down version of things but I am okay with that. I would rather be authorized to do something than be doing it without The Lord. *And no they don't dress like pioneers, they look like everyone else. lol

Until you stop going then people actually come and visit (not home teachers 😖) Maybe they needed that extra person to clean the chapel? hmm lol I suppose I see what you are saying. Thanks for the input.

This is one of the most honest things I have heard a member say in a long time. I usually witness Mormons profess that the Church is the best thing since sliced bread. You get there, everyone one is super nice and then you become just like the rest of them and it turns into the same ol', same ol'. So I guess it's just like the non religious friends I have but version 2.0 (which is the Mormon guys believe in God too) Don't expect nothing and don't trust them around anything I hold dear XD I suppose I can live with that. Yes, it appears my expectations were too much. When I commit to something I really go at. On splits with the missionaries, You need a male? sure thing on my way. I feed them. I contribute my tithes and offerings. Drive and volunteer my vehicles if they need to go somewhere in a big group. give actual FOOD if they need it. Help clean up on the weekends... All I wanted was some friends in return [while I worship of course] The Gentiles are very good at having a brotherhood but of course they lack The Spirit ( I am an Israelite by blood) God has been very good to me. Especially acknowledging the divinity of His Holy Son. I suppose it is time to get back to work at church but this time make it official. Get the companionship of my Brother at [ALL] times. Savage Thanks for the input. I know once I go back and do this I am going to be placed at the front lines. It's what I do, it's what I was born to do.

Thanks Sunday. The temple grounds are very beautiful and usually invite a sense of calm and reflection to me too. I need to make the 3 hour or so drive to the one nearest to me to sit for a bit maybe.

Rip. I just realized that you said this. I was making Irish Oats with my daughter and I realized you weren't male x_x or maybe just a Teen (was going over the responses in my mind) uh.. you are Davetta Bednar X I nvm Lol

haha I am sure you are more ready than you believe. You seem to have a pretty good head on your shoulders *side note: I can only imagine the stress these Leaders go through. The whole WORLD is watching them and taking note for good and bad @..@

Yes. I agree. Thank you

- Thanks for the all the responses

Sup Felicity, sad day. Well I guess if you want to burn your holy garments you are going to have to use a holy hand grenade. Make sure to count not once, not thrice, but twice before throwing it. Wait, maybe it was thrice? Either way I really hope the garment issue was not the reason you left. I don't go because it feels very lonely there TO ME but I like camaraderie (and of course a few things mentioned in other posts) my wife and kids do just fine there. Also I would say God is very much in the teachings and practices of the Mormons. Not sure if you were just a troll or a genuinely frustrated member but I can echo the others by wishing you well on your next journey.

Thanks Becca!

Wow. A lot of stuff here. As far as keeping my children away from porn and explaining the b&bs, I just regulate what they watch. We don't have any boys as of right now so we just teach them that their bodies are special and no other person is allowed to look at them naked or touch them. If someone does scream at the top of their lungs, run away, kick punch, escape and come get us. Pretty much it. I encourage my girls to chat, chat it up with Dad and Mom. We have some of the funniest convos and it comes with a price. They often barge in while I am just chillin and start talking my ear off (I'd rather have that than them be afraid to talk to me) Oh and they don't go to public school. They also attend the Mormon church with my wife. Hope this helps.

Just go for it. Your life will change... for good and bad. Everything materially dear to me is now broken. Bought my wife a new 4k TV and it was cracked, the screen, the 2nd day. Bought her a new Touring mini Van and feet Mark's all over the leather seats. Put on my shoes to go to work and often get stabbed in the foot with toys. Not to mention getting slapped in the face A LOT. I have all girls and they seem to think it's so funny. There is a song the girls learned in primary "I'm so glad when daddy comes home" or something like that. They have me sing it so they can act it out. I remember the first time it happened. There is a part that goes "pat his cheeks and give him what?" I got the biggest slap instead of a pat XD but a sweet big kiss on the cheek for the next part of the line " a great big kiss" other than having material stuff destroyed I don't regret becoming a Father. I mean don't get me wrong, there is so much to it that there simply isn't room here. Work for one and see how you like it. Then go from there

Sup, How do you know the last time she visited? Sounds creepy. Glad to see someone new post. I still need to figure out the features here. I just found the online visitors. Only like 10 people log in and like 50 lurkers come in as guests but hardly post. On a staycation at the moment, so this is a new forum I am checking out.

Hey!, I Like the name. Teancum was a beast, full of justice and brave. Look, you sound really stressed about this and very upset. The answer is NO. His sealing is not privy to you and it indeed is his personal business now. You gave the information that the leaders needed to go before the Lord and ask what should be done. It is now out of your hands. Jane gave you some great advice about seeing your bishop and getting some professional assistance. I hope you find the peace you need to get through this trial.

Madame Mari, The Lord is with you and all of your pain and anguish, if endured well, will be a crown upon your head. Your posterity will look up to you and they will thank the Heavens for having such a wonderful Mother. May the Lord bless you with these things .. let's break things down and see them how they really are - Child Death -Medical Debt -Feeling uncertain about testimony -want relief from mental/emotional trauma 1. Your sweet child was brought into this world and grew/toiled in your belly and at some point died before reaching mature age. Do not blame yourself if you did everything in your power to raise up a healthy child. The sun shines on the righteous and the wicked. It also rains and storms on both in the same manner. Try reading this. It might give you some insight. https://www.lds.org/manual/teachings-joseph-f-smith/chapter-15?lang=eng 2. Medical Debt - You should contact family and friends to help with this. Reach out to the bishop and reach out to local programs that help low income families. You will find something for sure that will help alleviate the burden 3. Feeling uncertain about testimony - don't lose faith. Losing a child (as you know) is not a small thing. It would rock the soul of any loving parent. Remember that Jesus knows everything you are feeling at this time. He knows your sorrow and frustration. Continue to pray and read. Feeling empty after a traumatic event is very normal and with help can be softened and returned to joy that you once felt. 4. Mental and Emotional trauma - At this time it is very normal to feel anxious about your new baby. Congratulations! It is exciting once again to be pregnant I am sure. There does need to be some healing from your first pregnancy. postpartum and ptsd - Can very hard to cope with. I am not sure if you are diagnosed officially with any of the two or anxiety, depression, generalized anxiety disorder. Could be any. The point is it is very important to seek out a therapist that you click with that will help you cope with these sad AND exciting new feelings. Your body and mind are going through a roller coaster of a chemical changes (as mentioned by one comment) it is a normal process of child bearing. Also remember that you can go to therapy and pick out advice that doesn't make sense to you and keep the rest. If you are getting overwhelmed at church TELL YOUR LEADERS they will help accommodate you and even provide assistance I am sure. *I am not sure if your baby has been born yet. Feel free to message me directly and share with me any improvements (or not, may this not be the case) You will gain your strength back C :

Thanks for pointing that out and being kind about it C :