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Honestly, for me the biggest irked is when some people purposefully twist things to have that shock factor (the brothers thing being a classic example). I'm just a bigger believe in being factual: be factual about what other people ACTUALLY believe, even if you totally disagree with it. Any Christian does not need to rely of false sensationalism to "protect the flock". But, this article is about the good side: the many people are strong in Christ, willing to see others and acknowledge their relationship with Christ. While they are not as loud, I do find the they are majority and a increasingly large majority. And I celebrate with them, rejoicing from the bottom of my heart.

Living at home is becoming more common with Americans nowadays, with the cost of housing skyrocketing in a lot of places and (some people) not wanting to grow up. My own sister just turned 29, has a 4 year degree, works a full-time job, and lives at home rent-free. But she is actively saving money to buy a home and the situation does make financial sense (rent is insanely expense in her area). So my thoughts on the matter: Living at home does not necessarily = not being an adult. Many other cultures have multi-generational households, and all of the adults can indeed be adults. However, in such situations the adult children are contirubtuxing to maintaining the household, budgeting, etc. If a person is not working to better themselves (like becoming for financially secure, skills, education) and aren't taking care of themselves/household/finances then they are not being a functional adult. Note: none of that specifically has to do with where a person is living, but how they are living. As to what you (the sibling) can do about it: absolutely nothing. Which completely sucks (I'm actually going through that right now with a different sister who's failing to launch). But it is what it is. You parents could start charging rent (even putting into a savings account) or kick her out or have other requirements. But a sibling can do nothing.

Hey- that's my line!!! Us Wyoming folk shave that in common with Texans. Though I could NEVER move to Texas-- way way too hot and humid! I'm an LDS Christian lady married to a Baptist/Evangelical dude. My Baptist mother-in-law actually lives in the Fort Worth area. Welcome to the forum.

@Danno9775, congratulations on coming back to Christ and on the upcoming wedding! I wish you the best in love for Christ and love for your gal!

Howdy!

I like examples-- Mortal "Bob" and "Sally" get married. They are of course flawed sinful humans, and unfortunately divorce happens. But they both love Christ. They die and in the eternities are eventually are perfected in Him-- Sally is no longer a nagger, Bob actually does what he says he's going to do, Sally now knows how to communicate how she's feeling, Bob doesn't feel the need to hide, etc. In fact, Bob is so perfect, in fact he treats literally every person in his life just as perfectly as Christ would. Sally is likewise just that perfect. So, does a perfected Christ-like Bob and Sally want to be together? We don't know! Even Sally today wouldn't know because she's not remotely her perfected self and hasn't remotely met perfect Bob. By having the sealing done, perfected Bob and perfect Sally will have options: they can choose to be separate, or they can choose to be together again. It's their choice. God never forces any person in any way.

If you were a gal on the dating site: if a man asking you out is still married (divorce not final), then tell him to take a hike. If you're anyone else... honestly there's not much to be done.

Can't. But in the alternative reality I could, I would love to.

Howdy! The principle of food storage and preparation was always being on top of your earthly finances and in a position where you could take care of yourself & family, and hopefully help others. In the America's in the 1960-70's, the principle was manifested as was having (essentially) a large basement of food and stuff. Nowadays, with a truly global Church, the principle is manifested more as financial management: minimizing debt, building a good savings account, living within your means, and generally being responsible with your money. For example, the two fifth Sundays we've had this year Sunday School has focused on stressing this principle and giving tips. The Self Reliance classes are now out and really pushed as well.

1) We don't perfect ourselves. Christ does that when a person is His disciple. 2) Justice is freeing, sin limits you. 3) Each person will have 1000+ years of pobabion before the Final Judgement. Is that not enough? Do you think a person's heart is gig to suddenly change at year 500,435?

Your love language is words/thoughts of affirmation: you want him to have observed / thought of you when he does something. It's not about the gift- it's about the thought. What's his love language?

Seconding this. It sounds like he's trying to tell you "I love you" but missing your language of hearing it. And vise versa.

And that would be an example of a much worse person. I'm sorry.

I normally don't get involved in with these discussion, because I feel that it's a subject that's been beaten to death a million times over. But against my better judgement, here I go-- 1) "Modesty" is not defined as "what clothes you wear". Rather it is the attitude of meekness and humility, by which we carry ourselves and work with others & God. What clothes a person wears is part of that, but only one small part of the picture. While clothes should be talk about some, it should only be a small part of discussion, not >90%. 2) A disciple of Christ's first and foremost by modest because it is what Christ commanded them. The secondary reasons for yourself and proper self respect. The third-ary being mindful of interactions with people-- no you're not responsible for any else's thoughts or how they feel! But that also doesn't mean you have license to be complete jerk and oblivious to those around you. Let's just be reasonable and mindful of others-- basic courtesy type of things. 3) In the past, we've done a pretty poor job culturally teaching modesty. Neglecting majority of the picture, some downright awful lessons/teaching strategies, lack of personal responsibility, and a lack of focusing on God first and foremost. I'm speaking of general trends here, obviously some people/teachers were a lot better and some a lot worse. 4) Nowadays I do feel like the general trend of church culture has gotten a lot better about staying focused on the real focus and definition of modesty. With again, some folks being way better than the average and some way worse.

"Opt out" really isn't a good phrase here (as you yourself agree on). The Endowment is a saving ordinance and a covenant which ultimately all disciples of Christ (past/present/future) will join in. You can't "opt out" of it. However, the timing is up to a person. Sharing my personal story: I grew up in the church, but didn't serve a mission and my husband is not a member, and not being an adult convert there was no year-wait deadline. So all in all there wasn't a "you need to get your endowments for this event" moment in my life. It was just up to me. I wanted to be when I was ready, not before. So I spent a years doing extremely thorough study/praying/pondering on things before I felt ready and finally got endowed at age 30.

I cannot find such a statement in Handbook 2 (Section 21.1.42 Temple Clothing and Garments https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/handbook-2-administering-the-church/selected-church-policies-and-guidelines/selected-church-policies?lang=eng#title_number2)

--Addressing this big picture style-- If it's a place you (as a conservative modest Christian) wouldn't feel ok having your bras and panties visible, then it's probably not a good idea to place garments there either.

Actually lady here! Any dress you'd normally where to the temple is fine (white, modest). If you don't want to do something else, don't worry about it. And congrats!

First *take a deep breath* Second: just schedule an appointment with the local bishop. Think of it this way: if you were in a car wreck, would you hesitate going to the local bishop just because your records weren't there? No! Likewise don't hesitate when you're in a spiritual wreck to go see the local bishop. Third, welcome to the forums!

I have a sister that is pretty accurately compared to a porcupine: she's very warm and cuddly when approached from one side but the other sides... not so much. She'll try to bully family members, and have outbursts and generally reminds me of your description. I've learned that she does this because she is inwardly very insecure of herself. Her behavior is a poor coping mechanism for that insecurity and always flares up the most then. As for dealing with her, I've learned that I can't fix her, need to have thick skin, let her sins be between her and Christ and skip the drama. Sometimes this involves me just ignoring her behavior. Sometimes I walk away from her bullying (politely of course). Retaliating or smarty-pants responses never gets anywhere-- I believe the expression is "when you play with pigs, you just get muddy and the pig is always happy".

Useful article for tidbit of information for everyone: "What is a Marriage Bann?" It's a marriage announcement. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Banns_of_marriage Hi, I am an LDS Christian lady married to a Evangelical Christian dude. I'm excited to hear about your upcoming wedding to your LDS Christian fiancé. There is no requirement of Marriage Banns (aka wedding announcement) made by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. People just announce their wedding when and how they feel comfortable with, usually going along with the local cultural expectations in that regard. So do things however you and your fiancé feel like! In regards to licensing the wedding: such is done in accordance to your local governments laws, and following that procedure. I'd be happy answer any more questions, either on the public board or via PM.

Not at all! A kid is a person. For fun times, you go do activities (ideally) you both like. For example, my local art museum has a "family Saturday", to which my daughter (who is 5) and I both enjoy doing crafts at. You also learn to enjoy doing things simply because your loved one likes them-- for example, my daughter loves the board game 'Guess Who' right now, so we'll play it together because she's having fun (I won't normally play 'Guess Who' just for me). Sometimes I'm really not in a 'Guess Who' mood though, so I suggest 'how about we go on a bike ride instead'? Of course, parenting is not always fun and there is the "must do" list. Like i need to do laundry tonight, and it's daughter's job to gather laundry and help me sort (we're teaching her responsibility and she's capable of those chores). I spice it up by having the laundry gathering be a race and a "treasure hunt", but this ultimately something that just needs to get done regardless of whether or not either of us want to do it. And after we get the laundry chores done tonight, it's "Mommy and daughter cooking night!", which serves as a reward for both of us. Daughter picks the recipe she wants (subject to mom approval) and tonight she said she wants to make gingerbread cookies for one of her teachers. So we'll make cookies and a card for her teacher. We'll have fun, but at the same time will be practicing counting, cleanliness, speech, kitchen skills, writing, and caring for others. We take our time with it (breaks for sanity and cooking timers), and it'll probably be tomorrow night when it's all done. Note: by myself I hate cooking. I only cook with daughter, because she enjoys it so much and hence I enjoy it too.

You both NEED to get out of the house and hang out with people both of your ages. An activity at the local children's museum, a playdate at the park, visiting the splash pad, playing game you both like, etc.

In my experience/observation most addictions are fueled by something inside that person being broken. It could be broken from a big traumatic event, or maladaptive habit/view, or something else entirely. When that inward broken part is hurting, it's so easy to seek out a quick "feel better fix". A central key to breaking the cycle of addiction is to come to better know yourself: understand the inward thing that hurts, why/how you move to the quick "fix", and the damage that "fix" causes. Then learning how to 1) work on healing that inward hurt while simultaneously 2) developing better coping mechanisms for hurt.

@Alia, you went from: interacted with people, had a support network, felt inwardly confident, did things you enjoyed, and then came home to do things with your son you both enjoyed & were stimulated by. A good life. Now you've moved to: minimal with people, minimal support network, paralyzed by social fears, and just doing things like they are chores- you don't enjoy and aren't simulated by. Of course you're not happy! So how to address this: - Start doing things with your son you both enjoy and find simulations in. - Cultivate a sense of confidence and build that support/friend network.