omegaseamaster75

We don't have inconsistent and misleading doctrines. Frankly I am not sure why you would think that, are you able to point to some examples for me?

Tough break. From my side of the desk I get not talking to the bishop, you have not committed sin your husband is the one who needs to discuss his issues. If you want a less worldly counsler the bishop can recommend LDS people you do not need to tell him (the bishop) your problems if you don't want to. Honestly, I'd go and sit down with an attorney, protect yourself and your family before things get out of hand.

You make it seem like being successful is a sin if you live a better lifestyle than others and that your excess should go only to the betterment of the kingdom of God. While I think that someday we will live the law of consecration that day is not today. How do you feel about out church leaders many of whom are very wealthy and live what some would consider to be opulent lifestyles?

This is a good idea with exception to the email part. Discuss this with him face to face email is a cop out.

You have to many callings you need to have a frank discussion with your bishop. Ward Mission Leader alone is enough to occupy all of your time if you do it right, but you are in school and that should come first. Again a frank and open conversation, I understand how your bishop feels, you fill a lot of slots for him from an administrative stand point he does not want to lose you. You can't pray and fast your school assignments away. I served in Mexico city on my mission, My mother is Latina and I am married to a Mexican. I understand perfectly well were you are coming from. This is a difficult situation and not one you can do much about in the short term. You need to be a little philosophical and think long term about it. You are afforded opportunities that others are not, educational opportunities and business associations that they will never have. This creates envy. You mission is to be humble, do not be ashamed of your/parents success embrace it help when you can and be humble. Keep going to the activities you are Mexican and Mexicans come in all shades and colors. This is what most members want, but we do rely on faithful members to attend and serve, you know that we do not have a paid clergy and without the service of our members things would be difficult. You need to look at each calling that you are extended and analyze where you are in life and how that calling will affect your education, work and family before you say yes to it. Like I said I previously served in Mexico and retention and activity rates are very, very low. Most are former Catholics and like you said previously " I sometimes just want to be a normal Christian who attends Church, reads the Scriptures, preaches occasionally" this is what the culture of Catholicism entails (not the preaching) so it is a huge cultural religious shift for most new members. You don't know that he hasn't talked to his 2 counselors, you are not in that circle. Remember these people like you are volunteers, they have families and other outside interests. The Stake picks a member out and with no training make him Bishop this is a big calling and can be overwhelming. Jordi, buena suerte y espero que sigues fiel en el envangelio.

Wonder Woman Gal Gadot played Wonder Woman....was there even anyone else in the movie?

Just because they have crap rates doesn't stop the banks from calling them "high yield" You can go to Wells Fargo and get a "platinum" savings account I think you can earn .06%APY, really the OP should go to a credit union they have the best rates, I earn 2% on my checking account.

529 plan would be best as you can add to it as you go keep in mind there are restrictions on how the money can be spent, a CD locks the money in, you can withdraw early and pay a penalty (the penalty is tax deductible)it is an above the line deduction, so not really a penalty at all. I say go for a high yield savings account, you have instant access to your money since it seems like you will be paying as you go.

Your examples are juvenile and not relevant. The answer to all of them is that if Jesus were here he would not participate in any of those actions and those who would do such things would hear his word and repent quickly of their sinful ways. D&C 101:24-25 24 And every corruptible thing, both of man, or of the beasts of the field, or of the fowls of the heavens, or of the fish of the sea, that dwells upon all the face of the earth, shall be consumed; 25 And also that of element shall melt with fervent heat; and all things shall become new, that my knowledge and glory may dwell upon all the earth. Point of fact is Jesus is not currently here in body, he has left us to tend his sheep, no we should not help heroin addicts shoot up, nor drive women to abortion clinics, but some of your points are ridiculous. Example: bless the tobacco farmer...just silly and yes I would pray for him so that he could avoid bankruptcy pray tell where lies the sin in growing tobacco? So someone owns a casino so what? is that person not allowed to provide for his family? Attend a homosexuals wedding all day long I would. We should be compassionate towards others. Being compassionate does not mean we condone or agree with the sin, but we are to be examples of a better way to do things a beacon on a hill for those who wander in darkness. How can we do that if we shun all with whom we disagree? 37 Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:

The Average family unit is 3.14 persons total not kids. As LDS we tend to extrapolate our small world view and apply it to everyone. I live in CA and aside from the LDS families, I don't know anyone who has 3 kids let alone 4 or 5 most have 1 or 2. There are only 6.3 Million LDS living in the USA, and 70 million Catholics. You can throw the LDS number out we are so small as to not even count. There are 326 million people in the US and Catholics are 21% of the population. If they were organized they could make a real stink, but they have lower levels of activity than we do.

The proposal is to eliminate the personal exemption, and double the standard deduction. so MFJ would have a standard deduction of 24k regardless of the number of kids you have, this is an advantage for all but the largest of households, Under current law if you are MFJ and have 4 kids your deduction would be (assuming no itemization) $36,600.00. Really they are trying to eliminate the itemization of deductions. Considering that the average family unit in the US is 3.14 persons most people will come out ahead or break even. This is all speculation and proposals at this point who knows if they are going to really accomplish anything.

Aside from mental wellness issues or worthiness issues, which I can safely rule out since you passed interviews with both your Bishop and Stake president you will be called to serve. If you have disclosed a mental issue with your paperwork ( you don't mention that you did) you can rule that out as well. There is a list of items which preclude you from serving outlined in HB1 and maybe even HB2. These items would have been covered in your interviews. You have nothing to worry about.

I disagree, Since 1830 new doctrine has been accepted six times. They have followed a three step process to add Official Doctrine: 1. It requires the approval of the First Presidency, 2.The concurrence of the Quorum of Twelve Apostles, 3.It must be accepted in a sustaining vote of the entire membership. 1. 1830, Bible and Book of Mormon were officially accepted with the organization of the Church 2. 1835, Doctrine and Covenants, first 103 sections were officially accepted 3. 1880, Doctrine and Covenants additional 32 sections were accepted along with the Pearl of Great Price 4. 1890, Polygamy was repealed (Official Declaration) 5. 1976, D&C sections 137 & 138 were officially accepted 6. 1978, The priesthood was made available to all worthy males regardless of race (Official Declaration 2) Everything else is policy subject to change if needed via current revelation to our leaders. My favorite example is the WOW. Our current practice of it is a matter of policy not doctrine. The Doctrine about the WOW we find in Doctrine and Covenants, the policy of how to practice it is subject to leadership inspiration.

Kolob may or may not be a real place. It may be symbolic. I fall into the camp of thinking it is not a real place.

We have a winner!

My vote is for Christensen, but I have a bias he was my mission president.....

Great advice. I have had to do that. Why would we take something that in already difficult and stressful and compound the injury by getting married and having kids before we are able to financially support them?

You will see parts highlighted by me. I bet they liked seeing that college degree when he wanted to be a VP. Sorry to disappoint but your example is the exception to the rule. That's what I thought you meant, which is why I made my statement. Fundamentally I think that I can agree with you, if you are ready to be married you should be ready to bring children into this world. I will follow it up by saying that if you think you are ready to get married you should look hard in the mirror and ask yourself if you are in a place where you can support a family.

I am happy it worked out for you. Would you or your wife give your daughter the same advice?

The OP stated that they were both going back to college so it is the path that they have chosen. There are always exceptions and a piece of paper on the wall does not make you any smarter than your mechanic or plumber but if you want to be in the white collar world it opens doors for you. There are always exceptions to the rule you mentioned Rush Limbaugh, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson, Dave Thomas, Larry Ellison......so can you be successful without college absolutely but you shouldn't live your life trying to be the exception to the rule. By your logic they shouldn't be married.

This is just not good advice. You will have a greater chance of long term happiness if you check a few things off the life list first. 1. College education for both of you. One never knows what the future will hold, and while in a perfect world your husband will be an earner and you can stay at home with your kids the world throws curve balls at you sometimes. What if he gets hit by a bus? or gets sick? or gets a girlfriend and leaves you? 2. Get real jobs (after graduation) with real benefits. These are the things that you should be seeking spiritual guidance on and praying about don't put the cart before the horse.

If he is the monster that you say he is you need to speak to an attorney ASAP. Living in the same home with him can and probably has done irreparable damage to your kids. Reconcile yourself to the fact that you will have to sell the home and move, you will split the proceeds 50/50 most likely he will pay child support and alimony.

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You can feel good knowing that you are doing the right thing and being true to yourself. Most people would live the lie. I commend you.

No they are not all like that No it is not, you should have set expectations. These are all crap tests that (some) women do to see how far they can push you or get you to change. The reality is that you accommodate to keep her happy all the while building up resentment towards her for giving you a hard time about hanging out with you friends or spending time with your family. I don't know you or your wife so I cannot comment as to whether or not you choose well. Based on what you have told us there are signs of trouble and while they may seem small now multiply it by 20 years and a few kids and they will be a BIG deal.