MorningStar

I like the new forum except for the part where I couldn't log in or create a new account or contact anyone for help. Vort came to my rescue and then Pam came to my rescue! Thanks, Pam!

I think this would be kind of like a guy posing with his pile of money, expensive cars, etc. and asking, "What's YOUR excuse?" It's pretty annoying when people have an attitude of, "I can do it, therefore you can do it too!" No, that's not true. We all have different strengths, weaknesses, trials, genetics, health, etc. I can appreciate the message that there is a way to take care of yourself after you have kids, but it comes across as, "What's your excuse for not having this perfect body?" But I also know moms whose children have special needs and practically every waking hour is devoted to them. It's hard to imagine them even having time to eat, let alone do a great workout often.

My brother is a cop and used a taser recently on a man who is mentally ill. He was making a scene in a parking lot and when my brother got there, he reached into his pants and yelled, "I have a gun!" My brother was thinking, "Oh, crap. I have my hand on my taser." Thankfully everything turned out OK and the guy didn't have a gun. My brother was glad he didn't shoot him, which is what he would have done without his taser.

I think people should get married when they have the inspiration to do so. I know people who have waited a long time and they feel like they are too set in their ways to be married.

I stayed in Austria for 5 weeks and I remember the bathrooms smelling pretty horrible, probably because of the lack of water in the toilets.

No. I'm 21.

When I don't attend the viewing, it takes a lot longer for it to seem real to me. The first death I ever experienced as a child, I didn't get to see my uncle and to make matters worse, he had a brother who looked almost exactly like him. At first I wondered if someone was playing a cruel joke. I almost blurted out, "You're not dead!" It depends on how close I was to the person.

Happy Birthday!

I drown my sorrows in music - singing, playing the piano, listening to it, etc. :)

We should treat everyone the way we would want to be treated. There might be a loss of trust or confidence at times, but that's no excuse to mistreat anyone.

Maybe it improved? I can't remember hearing women complain about their husbands in RS.

It's the law in our state now to have carbon monoxide detectors. What a heartbreaking story.

I had a relative ask me not to tell anyone about her struggle with self-harm and I didn't tell my husband. I told him about 4 years later when she decided to let the whole family know.

Yes, my children aren't so busy that they would need a cell phone. They walk to school and then they walk home. For other activities, I drive them and I pick them up. I find out what time to get them in advance rather than, "Call me when you need to be picked up." I'm not spending money on phones when it's so hard to afford other things.

This is extremely bizarre. My guess was porn addiction too. Or his video game playing is creating the same crappy behavior. I'm sorry you're going through this.

I see mutual funds and something about farms.

My husband only has a cell phone provided by his work and it doesn't have Internet or anything. The rest of us don't have cell phones and my kids are becoming the only children who don't have them. It's annoying. If they want to go to a friend's house after school, they can call me from the school. Otherwise I expect them to walk straight home. I just don't by the whole, "What if you need to get a hold of them?" excuse. I made it through my entire childhood without a phone.

So if I were to advertise that I sing at weddings, I would be required to sing for gay weddings? How far can they take this? Can they require me to sing any song they want? Let's say one of the grooms wrote a song called "I Love My Big Gay Husband" and I don't want to sing it? Am I discriminating?

The way he is treating you is definitely a side effect of his addiction. Seek counseling before you decide you want a divorce. Also, consider the fact that your husband would most likely have joint custody and that would leave your kids alone with an him. So many kids first exposure to pornography was encountering their dads' stuff! Really weigh the pros and cons. I had a friend who left with the kids for a couple weeks to give her husband a wake-up call that it's a big deal and that he better do something about it. The hardest thing is that it's their choice and you can't predict what they will choose in the future. I'm glad you will be OK on your own if you make that choice. In fact, it might scare him good if you left for a while and he knew you were capable of being on your own. Every woman I know who has gone through this says the lying is the worst part. It makes you feel very unsafe, constantly wondering what else they did or will do.

So happy for you!

We just started watching the show Leverage and that's pretty entertaining. Ex-cons now con the bad guys to help people. We love Psych and have been waiting for new episodes. My husband loves to introduce the kids to old ones like Leave it to Beaver and we watched all of the Cosby episodes before it was removed. My kids loved that show! I wish they would get Little House on the Prairie.

Don't contemplate divorce until you try marriage counseling at least. Marriage is the biggest decision of your life, so it's hard to believe that this was mostly about pressure from other people. How long did you date?

I would say it is a sin because we are meant to endure to the end and let Heavenly Father decide when it's our time to go. Also because it severely traumatizes loved ones left behind. It's the worst feeling in the world wondering what you could have done to prevent it.

In my experience, people who check up obsessively on their spouse are actually the ones up to no good. Years ago I had a friend who was paranoid all the time that her husband would cheat on her, yet she didn't find it necessary to tell him that she kissed another man. She was a very toxic person and I found it necessary to cut ties with her. If I were you, I would have been gone before I knew he had the affair. I won't put up with abuse and I deserve to have children with someone who is not abusive. I couldn't bring kids into that kind of situation. Ask Heavenly Father what he expects you to do and go with that answer.

I never buy Fred Meyer olives. They had some on sale and they were so bad, I took them back. I don't know what they did to them, but it was bad.