What changes when you're married?

[MrmnMommy]

I want to know what changes from inappropriate to appropriate as far as intimacy once youre married. (I've been married for 4 yrs and 4 months)

Is there any liturature by the church that may answer this?

[Winnie G]

Yes ask your Bishop, he has it

[hordak]

This has been discused on the open forums IIRC. General consencus is anything goes if you both like/agree to it and it's just you and yours spouse.

But if you really want to "invite" (metaphorically speaking) the bishop in you bedroom then...

see above

[FunkyTown]

Yeah. Church Handbook of Instructions basically says that's between husband and wife. It talks about maintaining an atmosphere of love and respect within the bonds of intimacy, which is huge, but that can mean a lot to a lot of people. You won't get specifics from the Bishop, but basically: If you feel it doesn't encourage respect and love, you don't do it. However, specifically, some people feel very different about what that might be.

[Hemidakota]

In another words, agreeable with both companions.

[Churchmouse]

:):):) Hopefully, your address:):):)

[Jbs2763]

I am still single, but from what i'm heard when i do eventually get married... i will be "reminded" to put the toilet seat down, and i;m sure i will not be able to sit around and watch cartoons or play nintendo near as much

[hordak]

and i;m sure i will not be able play nintendo near as much

I miss nintendo:(

[MrmnMommy]

This has been discused on the open forums IIRC. General consencus is anything goes if you both like/agree to it and it's just you and yours spouse.

But if you really want to "invite" (metaphorically speaking) the bishop in you bedroom then...

see above

That was what I thought. I just wanted to make sure.

I don't think I'll be doing that!

Thanks for the info.

Edited March 27, 2009 by MrmnMommy
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[NeuroTypical]

I want to know what changes from inappropriate to appropriate as far as intimacy once youre married.

Physical intimacy changes from "wait until you're married" to "now it's ok".

Not sure what the question is. Can you give us a few examples of 'appropriate intimacy' when you are unmarried?

LM

[Gwen]

Physical intimacy changes from "wait until you're married" to "now it's ok".

Not sure what the question is. Can you give us a few examples of 'appropriate intimacy' when you are unmarried?

LM

lol

physical intimacy changes from "i can't wait till i'm married" to "i have a headache".

appropriate intimacy when you are unmarried is all the things that stop when you get married (ie hand holding, kissing for the sake of kissing, foot and back rubs for the sake of foot and back rubs, talking,.....)

lol

[Moksha]

I want to know what changes from inappropriate to appropriate as far as intimacy once you're married.

You no longer have to feel guilty? Perhaps the husband's dreams of cup cakes will disappear?

[Guest missingsomething]

Wow I have to learn about this open forum.... hmmm ya'll hide it dont ya.

I can add nothing of note to this - but just that trust these folks - most of them are real smart cookies.

[Traveler]

I want to know what changes from inappropriate to appropriate as far as intimacy once youre married. (I've been married for 4 yrs and 4 months)

Is there any liturature by the church that may answer this?

For me - anything of an intimate sexual nature was not appropriate before marriage. After marriage I believe intimate sexual experience is exactly that – intimate. I believe this intimacy should be defined by two people that honor their covenants before G-d. For me that is why it is called intimacy. I believe both should be honored, respected and given the same opportunity for expression – both for what they enjoy and do not enjoy.

I also believe that a married couple should respect each other’s opinion in such matters more that some one that has written a book or article and does not know either of them. We should respect the wishes of our spouse at least as much as our own and much more than anyone else’s.

The Traveler

[applepansy]

Read "Between Husband and Wife: Gospel Perspectives on Marital Intimacy" by Douglas Brinley, Pn.D and Dr. Stephen Lamb

This book is very very good.

applepansy

DeseretBook.com - Search Results

Edited March 28, 2009 by applepansy
added link

[john doe]

Wow I have to learn about this open forum.... hmmm ya'll hide it dont ya.

Believe me, you're not missing anything in the open forum. If you do feel that you need to look though, PM a head moderator and swear upon a stack of bibles and copies of the Book of Mormon that you are over 18 years old, and we will give you access.

[peppermcqueen]

I have read several books on this topic, some of them have already been mentioned. The one I haven't seen anyone post about yet that I thought was helpful is called And They Were Not Ashamed by Laura Brotherson. I think they have it at Seagull or Deseret Book.

[prospectmom]

Nothing to add just enjoyed reading all your posts..... This subject is happily between me and my Hubby

i:D:ps

[Iggy]

Believe me, you're not missing anything in the open forum. If you do feel that you need to look though, PM a head moderator and swear upon a stack of bibles and copies of the Book of Mormon that you are over 18 years old, and we will give you access.

Oh, and don't forget to send the dues to Palerider.

[lusciouschaos]

You get to do stuff.

[jadams_4040]

I want to know what changes from inappropriate to appropriate as far as intimacy once youre married. (I've been married for 4 yrs and 4 months)

Is there any liturature by the church that may answer this?

What changes when you get married?

you have NO More money!:)

[lusciouschaos]

What changes when you get married?

you have NO More money!:)

And there is more hair in the drain and sink.