Do you believe in being "destined" to be together?

[Guest fadedleaf]

I think of The Adjustment Bureau.

[Still_Small_Voice]

I know someone who has a very special blessing in their patriarchial blessing. she is told that when her and her future husband see each other, they will know that they knew each other in the pre-mortal existence and that they are supposed to be together. it's a very beautiful blessing.

I have never heard of that in a patriarchal blessing before. I was talking to someone I knew at church and he told me of a patriarchal blessing he read once. At a first glance it was so short he felt sorry for the person. But reading the blessing he said it was very powerful. It stated he would become a general authority though I cannot recall what position he said. When I read thru my blessing I know it is inspired. How could anyone know me so well and know what trials I would face in the future?

[Still_Small_Voice]

I know someone who has a very special blessing in their patriarchial blessing. she is told that when her and her future husband see each other, they will know that they knew each other in the pre-mortal existence and that they are supposed to be together. it's a very beautiful blessing.

I have never heard of that in a patriarchal blessing before. I was talking to someone I knew at church and he told me of a patriarchal blessing he read once. At a first glance it was so short he felt sorry for the person. But reading the blessing he said it was very powerful. It stated he would become a general authority though I cannot recall what position he said.

When I read thru my blessing I know it is inspired. How could anyone know me so well and know what trials I would face in the future?

[Still_Small_Voice]

Every time I see this thread, I start hearing in my head, "I've seen that smile somewhere before. . ."

Gag! Saturday's Warrior is such a joke to me. It portrays the Gospel like a poorly written, awful movie to me.

Edit: Maybe I should remove this post as I know it is bound to offend someone :)

Edited August 22, 2011 by Still_Small_Voice

[skippy740]

Every time I see this thread, I start hearing in my head, "I've seen that smile somewhere before. . ."

I've heard your voice before...

It seems we've talked like this before.

Ugh!

[Penstress]

I got a blessing so powerful about my now husband. . It said the lord held back and reserved him for me.

[Guest LiterateParakeet]

Why does everyone seem to suppose it is an either or kind of thing?

Perhaps there are some who were promised to each other before this life, and others who choose here. I too, know of someone whose patriarchal blessing says he will marry someone he contracted with in the pre-exsistence. So I know it does happen, but I have always imagined it to be rare, not the norm. In the end though, does it matter how you met? I don't think either way makes marraige easier or more special. There is work involved in marraige, no matter how you come together.

About pre-destination, what about callings? Whatever you wish to call it, we do believe that Joseph Smith (and others) were chosen to do here on earth what they did. So by the same token, it seems possible to me that some may have a partner chosen before this life to help with something they are asked to do here.

[NeuroTypical]

The other thing I'm training my kids in: Ok, let's say God have made a match for you in heaven. It might have been so you will know the depths of frustration in amounts equal to the highs of love.

[Backroads]

I don't believe in soul mates, but I do believe in promptings that may occur when someone good for you shows up in your life.

[Vort]

My original answer still reflects my feelings on the matter.

[BrendaM]

I don't believe in "soul-mates". I tried to convince myself one time (well, more than once)....that my eternal companion is a stud-muffin king who was born during the dark ages, had a very spiritual side and we will meet up in the millenium.

Then I came to my senses!

[ericdav]

all i know is im scared to death to make a wrong choice if it is destiny or pre-destined im screwed if i make the wrong person, my patriarchal blessing literally says god has chosen her for me already and she is being prepared which isnt good news for me because I DONT KNOW WHO SHE IS, GREAT IF GOD KNOWS BUT IF I DONT CHOOSE RIGHT im gonna be cast out of gods kingdom. it says i need to find her but great there are millions of women and i dont even get a clue, let alone a map, i need massive help because this literally has caused me to be depressed, suicidal, confused, anxious you name it and ive felt it. any comments will help. im 23 and no job no direction, no clue where to look.

[ericdav]

i have no idea where to look for my companion.....yeah..says thje lord has prepared her and im like a deer in headlights ive prayed numerous times still nothing i know its about faith but at least give me a hint.

[Grunt]

13 minutes ago, ericdav said:

all i know is im scared to death to make a wrong choice if it is destiny or pre-destined im screwed if i make the wrong person, my patriarchal blessing literally says god has chosen her for me already and she is being prepared which isnt good news for me because I DONT KNOW WHO SHE IS, GREAT IF GOD KNOWS BUT IF I DONT CHOOSE RIGHT im gonna be cast out of gods kingdom. it says i need to find her but great there are millions of women and i dont even get a clue, let alone a map, i need massive help because this literally has caused me to be depressed, suicidal, confused, anxious you name it and ive felt it. any comments will help. im 23 and no job no direction, no clue where to look.

If she's been chosen for you then you'll be brought together.  Don't obsess.  Date.  Find your match.  

[ericdav]

i dont know who to date though, out of all the lds women my age or around my age out of every country its impossible for me to know. the only surety i have is she wil be able to help me with my anxiety issues, other than that no idea.

[Just_A_Guy]

9 minutes ago, ericdav said:

 the only surety i have is she wil be able to help me with my anxiety issues, other than that no idea.

That’s an awesome promise, but . . . what will you do for her?

I don’t mean this to sound the way it’s going to sound, but . . . Do you enjoy the company of women?  I ask that because I’m an introvert and really didn’t like just being around people (let alone women) for a lot of my single life.  I dated, not because I found it an enjoyable way to spend time; but because I knew it was a preliminary step to marriage and I knew that I planned to be married at some point in the future.  It was some years before I began to like being around women, became a better conversationist, and starts to enjoy dating for its own sake—and that’s when I met the woman who wound up becoming my wife. I didn’t see her as a potential mate at first; just as a quirky specimen of humanity who I was interested in knowing better.  

I hope you’ll pardon me for saying that I see a lot of my past self in you.

[ericdav]

yes i like being around women too much honestly, i hate being around men, but how does that help when there are millions of women to choose from? should i just date 1 million women?

[Grunt]

1 minute ago, ericdav said:

yes i like being around women too much honestly, i hate being around men, but how does that help when there are millions of women to choose from? should i just date 1 million women?

No, you date 1.  Then you date 1.  Then you date 1.  

[BeccaKirstyn]

3 minutes ago, ericdav said:

yes i like being around women too much honestly, i hate being around men, but how does that help when there are millions of women to choose from? should i just date 1 million women?

I mean, date as many as you want. You'll know when you find the right one. But you can't find her unless you're going on dates with women. 

Edited June 2, 2018 by BeccaKirstyn

[ericdav]

that will take forever to find though thats alot of women to date

[ericdav]

my pat blessing says i have to find her.........i feel like even if i date every women i find theres no way i can find her cause i dont know where to look

[Guest MormonGator]

8 minutes ago, ericdav said:

that will take forever to find though thats alot of women to date

People take dating so deadly serious. Lighten up! Have fun! Go out with different girls. If it works, great. If it doesn't, you move on. That simple. You are bound to find someone you are compatible with soon enough. 

Edited June 2, 2018 by MormonGator

[BeccaKirstyn]

3 minutes ago, MormonGator said:

People take dating so deadly serious. Lighten up! Have fun! Go out with different girls. If it works, great. If it doesn't, you move on. That simple. 

Ugh...I wish more men thought like this. My generation is really screwed up with this whole dating thing. 

[Guest MormonGator]

Thanks @BeccaKirstyn! 

Religious people seem so determined to find a spouse that it seems like they've lost how to have fun in the process. 

[BeccaKirstyn]

@MormonGator, agreed!! 

I recently chatted with a man who said he refused to take women out on first dates if he isn't good friends with them beforehand. He's willing to "chill" with these girls he doesn't know, with his "bros". But he won't go on a first date with them because "getting to know them is so boring in a date setting". I was just like....*facepalm*. That's the whole point of the date! And you're doing it wrong if you think it's boring. 

@ericdav, don't take dating so seriously. Don't approach it as this quest to finding "the one". Approach it with enjoying getting to know these women, seeing if they have qualities you like, and if there's one that seems to stand out from the others then start to more seriously date her. Then start bringing in The Lord as you start contemplating serious courtship and marriage. The Lord has prepared many women to be a future wife and mother.