mrmarklin

HAve you ever been to the DMV?
When has the government successfully run anything?

The bolded one is where the metal hits the pedal.  The government is not the only choice - nor is it a good choice.  You are supposed to help your loved one.  Not some nebulous, faceless entity out there who wields power.  So, here's the question - why does your family, neighborhood, community, etc., need the government to provide people with healthcare when you can simply organize it yourselves?  That is a simple question that has a simple answer - because you want to wield the government's power to force others to do what you want done.... or, you want to remove their agency to do what they will with their talent or money.
True agency is - I choose to eat 10 large pizzas with a 64-oz soda in one sitting every day.  If it makes me sick, then nobody else has to pay for my healthcare either.
Now, here's the flip side of that coin - the government can't even properly manage the education of children, illegal immigration, and even the simple task of taking care of the health of our vets... and you trust them with the entire population's healthcare????

I had no idea that one could buy a new car for $12.5K as recently as 2015. You are to be congratulated. 

Socialism always has good intentions. See where it leads in every case, so far. 

I would never own a car that I could not trust to take me across the US if necessary at a moments notice. 
If your car will not do this, get rid of it. 

Can’t believe three pages about a hypothetical that will never happen.🤡

Can’t believe three pages about a hypothetical that will never happen.🤡

Jmom
Seems like you have a fairly normal marriage with similar problems to most people. I don’t believe, given the circumstances of your situation, that you will find the grass any greener by leaving the marriage. It does no appear unsalvageable. 
You have a child, and the child’s welfare should be your main focus. For both of you. God would want the child raised in an LDS home as far as possible. And it does seem possible. Your husband has joined the church, so he has/is making some effort. You should meet him halfway. 
 
Try going back to counseling 

It was a paragraph where he revealed a lot about himself.  He said: "we always had power struggles...It seems that she is not to take any correction from me when I say to stop doing something that I dislike..She is totally against being so call subservient to the husband.. she feels like because I strongly feel that her suggestion or idea is not the best for our family - as I believe I'm the one to protect and provide for my family- that I'm not listening to her ... [she feels] that I'm treating her like garbage"
All that clearly reveals that he is trying to exercise power over her, control her, tell her what to do, and he feels it is his place to do so and it is her place to be subserviant to his decisions that he makes without getting her agreement first.  That is exercising unrighteous dominion.  She is pushing back and he is not happy about it.
He doesn't get to decide how she feels or even how she should feel.  He needs to back off his power trip and learn to counsel together with her as a couple should.
 

Married for two years and have a two year old son, wow, no moss growing on that stone.    Divorce is easy, marriage is hard.   When something is easily gained it is of no importance most of the time.   Those things we do in life that are hard are most often the most rewarding.   Dump the mindset that “I am the one to protect and provide for my family”.   It’s a team effort, regardless of whom is the primary breadwinner is.   
Married for two years, heck, you guys don’t even know each other yet, especially if you started life together pregnant.   I’m a firm believer people should not have kids until they’ve been together long enough to know each other’s less agreeable side, which we all have.
i wish you well, a good marriage is a wonderful thing, but it’s work, all the time.

C comes before D.  You have a two year old - you owe it to the child to at least try counseling first. 

I would say the only question to ask yourself is 'What is best for my child?'  This sounds harsh, but your personal happiness is secondary to your child's welfare.  If he is a good father, let you children have the blessing of a good father and mother who are still married to each other.  Work the rest out away from their sight.  The power of the atonement is real and changes hearts.  You can have a happy marriage.  Focus on the goodness of his heart, not on some checklist of behaviors you want.

Don't tell her until after you are married. Just my opinion. 

Nonsense, if you can't speak freely now you need to postpone the wedding.

Apple invented the Smart phone, and IMHO it's still the best.  Security is a little more refined.  More Apps are available.
 
Steve Jobs daily weather report is accurate.

In my experience so many people fib about tithing it's almost the norm.  I do tax returns. 
I don't do a lot of Mormons, but most of the ones that I do don't do 10%.  But that's MY definition.  There may be a lot of mitigating circumstances in their lives I know nothing about.  Some do over 10%.  Of course this is a very super small sample size.
 
Remember the Church is for the sick (sinners).  And they killed the last Perfect Man.

WOW needs an update.  The coffee and tea thing needs to go away. Totally obsolete. There are a lot of recent studies extolling the virtues of coffee and even Consumer Reports expounded on its benefits recently.  Tea has also been found to be beneficial  
Kind of like the reasons for keeping Kosher are no longer valid, we need a new revelation IMNSHO.

Why? She's not LDS. She has no ecclesiastical reason to go to the bishop, and since the bishop is subordinate to the stake president, it doesn't seem logical to go to him.
Look, I suspect the OP is simply nonsense. It is certainly possible that a stake president is stepping out on his wife, but the odds are low, and I don't take the word of a random internet newbie. But given the situation presented, going to the bishop simply does not seem a reasonable course of action.

Lets double down on this point...  It needs to be HER...  From anyone else it is gossip... and will be treated accordingly
 

WOW needs an update.  The coffee and tea thing needs to go away. Totally obsolete. There are a lot of recent studies extolling the virtues of coffee and even Consumer Reports expounded on its benefits recently.  Tea has also been found to be beneficial  
Kind of like the reasons for keeping Kosher are no longer valid, we need a new revelation IMNSHO.

You are active by the Church’s own definition. 
Dont let the naysayers of this forum discourage you. Your activity will increase gradually as you start taking your children to their classes. The very fact that you are trying is enough. The idea that you are becoming unworthy is from Satan. 
 
You are making progress , keep the faith. 

We think we are active, we have strong testimonies and they impact how we live our life. 

Welcome, @A Little Lost!  I'm so sorry for your struggles.  I'm sure someone smarter than me will be here before long to give you some advice.  All I can think is that you and your wife need the help of a counselor so that you can learn to speak each other's language (so to speak).

Update...I took your advice and walked in.  Beating heart, sweating brow ignored, remembering your advice and positivity and humming Handel to myself got me into the building.
This week was the week I was supposed to be there.
A warm welcome as soon as I walked in the door as the Bishop,  Relief Society President and  Exec Sec walked out of the bishops office and right into me. TBH I felt a little overwhelmed at this point, but found a quiet spot at the back of the chapel for Sacrament. Felt buoyed by the testimonies shared. A positive message from Sunday school and RS was a task which aimed on us getting to know our fellow sisters so that we can minister well, so a great introduction to the RS sisters. 
 
Such a positive experience, thank you for holding my hand whilst I took my first step.

It’s a good idea to help your kids. I did not do this sufficiently as I put myself through school with minimal debt.  I figured my kids could do the same  
It was a mistake. The biggest of my life  
Times have changed, and once the federal government got involved in education costs skyrocketed. So yes. You should do this.