John11111

Just buck up and get it done, it will only get worse when you move out and no longer have structure in your life if you dont set some boundaries for yourself. I still have problems with this its not the work that bothers me once i get started on something ill work on it all day and night till its done its actually starting thats hard lol.

We got invited and what was explained to us was that they invite a wide variety of different couples. Couples with kids, couples without, rough marriages, great marriages, couples with non member spouses/spouses who have to work sundays, couples new to the ward or old, newly weds and 20+ years married. The idea is to bring a wide variety of backgrounds opinions and experiences to the class to better help everyone.

My bad then maybe its a different forums know I heard that from somewhere...

Mebmers who have been inactive on the forums for a while will show up as banned but they are not banned. Someone else could explain it better but its what I read somewhere.

White and quiet as well.

Ive woke up to my wife punching me in the shoulder because she had a dream I cheated on her lol. I woke up all confused and wondering why I was getting punched. She apologized afterwards but it was still pretty funny to me.

I remember hearing something about getting blessings over and over and over again. Something about needing to have faith that the one blessing is enough and by requesting blessings over and over again for the same thing we are showing a lack of faith. We do not believe that the original blessing/s would help us to get better/ get over whatever it is we needed the blessing for in the 1st place. Our part is to have faith in God. I dont know the explanation was worded alot better and made a lot of sense maybe someone else heard the same thing or something similar and can expound on it further.

I trick or treated till I was 16 after that too many people told me I was to old and wouldnt give me candy anymore so I stopped. I remember going out as soon as possible and staying out as late as possible amassing like 6-8 pillowcases full of candy by time we finished. We would bring extra masks and capes with us so when we found a good house we would switch costumes and masks and stuff and hit it over and over till they realized it was the same kids lol. As soon as I had kids tho was back on the beat snagging candy again. I dont have a sweet tooth now and once you figure out its easier just go to the store and buy a bag of whatever candy you want it loses its excitement but the kids love it and I still remember the fun I had brings back memories.

I got pulled over for passing a cop going 1 mph over... seriously they dont have better things to be doing? I was pretty irked almost made me late for work especially since cops go slow all time sometimes 5-10mph under. I dont ever speed I always go speed limit only been ticketed once for going 25 in a 15, speed limit on that road was always 25 but they changed it for some construction on the side of the road. I had turned on to the road from a side street and the ONLY posted speed limit I found later by going back and trying to find it was hidden behind a construction sign. I took pictures and took it to court and the judge dismissed it. I wont even start on all the times I been pulled over for imo rediculous things...

I dont know where you live but im pretty sure its not allowed to accept personal gifts from patients. I know a lot of the male patients I have at work are much like that hungarian patient. They can be pretty sexually inapropriate with the female staff. Is she in a longterm care setting or was it a shortterm like hospital and the patient has kept in touch with her? I have even had female patients hit on me or be sexually inapropriate, grabbin my butt or trying to kiss me, I go home and tell my wife about it and we share a laugh (I work with mostly older patients tho so... could be different situation depending on her patients). It could be your wife is too polite to refuse the gifts and comes home to tell you because she thinks its funny or maybe she is giving you a hint and wants YOU to buy her gifts? Id sit down with her and tell her how you feel and see what she thinks about it maybe its nothing or maybe its something. Communicate with eachother and come to an agreement on how she should handle situations like that in the future.

I got into a lot of fights back in school but not because I was bullied but protecting other kids from getting bullied. Id confront them and tell um to leave the kids alone and when they didnt and got in my face I made them pay for it. I think I spent as much time in suspension as I did in class, Im pretty sure the only reason I wasnt expelled was because I was standing up for people lol.

Where is your husband at with all of this? Does he ignore it? Is he sorry? Is he willing to work on the marriage? Counseling? What kind of support do you have at home parents, family, friends? I would continue to investigate your husband, he has obviously shown that he cannot be trusted. Operation Investigate - Marriage Builders® Forums All the stickied posts there will help you and give you the advice and tools you need. If hes willing to work on the marriage I would suggest maybe going over the emotional needs questionaire if you know his needs it will be easier to focus on the important ones. Maybe he can start meeting your needs as well if he dont know what they are he probably wont do them. Emotional Needs Questionnaire Try and keep positive keep your focus on improving yourself either way things go if you work on yourself you will come out better for it in the end.

For Newly Betrayed Spouses - Marriage Builders® Forums 1.) Step 1 investigate 2.)Confront your spouse that you know 3.)Expose, Expose, Expose - THE strongest weapon you have at your disposal to smash the adultery. 4.)Plan A You know about Love Busters, Disrespectful Judgments, etc. If the confrontation didnt end the affair and exposure hasnt either, Plan A gives you the opportunity to work on yourself and the marriage to show the adulterous spouse what a marriage with you could be like. 5.)Plan B - May last as long as 18 months. (How to Plan B CORRECTLY - Marriage Builders® Forums) 6.) Plan D- Protect yourself and your children you deserve better time to move on. Seems like you are on step 4 make sure to read that forum post I linked in depth as it goes into detail each step listed.

It seems you are still struggling with understanding the whys this was a big step to overcome for me. I HAD TO KNOW why, how could it happen, was it something I could have done, etc. Knowing this was a big step towards getting past it all. Steps to Recover from an affair/infidelity in marriage Keep reading the marriagebuilders site read ALL OF IT not just the parts you think you need to know about. Go back through often and reread try to focus on the areas you feel you are currently at. Is there anyway you guys can get the other woman out of the picture entirely? She needs to be out of your lives completely what is the situation with that now? Is she a coworker someone who goes to your ward? Where is your husband at now with all of this? Is he willing to try marriage counseling or work on the marriage? Also on the marriagebuilders forums Operation Investigate - Marriage Builders® Forums affairs thrive on secrecy and those secrets need to be brought to light.

Yes there is limits placed on Plan A its not just all self sacrifice. If we continue to say well hes not meeting my needs why should I meet his needs, he will say she is not meeting my needs so why shoudl I meet hers. This cycle goes around and around and around and it doesnt end and the marriage suffers someone has to break that cycle and start meeting those needs. Marrige builders explains that meeting your spouses needs without having your needs met as well for too long can be very damaging to the relationship and ourselves. Thats why we say to go read the marriage builders site It is pages and pages and pages long. These short posts we are making are only showing a tiny part of the whole and hardly do the marriagebuilders site justice. This is why to those of you here who have only read these snippets we posted think we might be a little nuts =p. I like to reference the site so much because I have used it extensively and it has done wonders in our marriage it may not be for everyone but I dont see how the advice listed there wouldnt enrich and uplift anyones marriage.

Plan A is more specific, you make sure to do everything in your power to make your spouse happy to make them come back to you of there own will not through harsh words or coercion or negative feelings. If you are providing all there needs what need is there for another? Also she may have een hanging in there and trying to be a good wife but she needs to make sure she is meeting ALL of his needs which are found on marriagebuilders site The Most Important Emotional Needs Once she has done this for a while and he still doesnt turn around THEN it is time to move on to plan B. At least then she can feel comforted in knowing she did ALL she could to try and save the marriage. You may not think it but meeting 9/10 of his needs might not be enough that 10th need may be his greatest need and is whats keeing him away. This is how it was with my wife I thought I was a great husband and was doing 9/10 but that 10th thing was what she needed more then the other 9 things and she found someone else to meet it for her. If he still doesnt turn around during Plan B then is nothing else she can do, she cannot force him to change she can only change herself. We can only pray that the lord will soften his heart and open his eyes to the hurt and pain he is inflicting on one of our Heavenly Fathers daughters. Stillstanding hopefully things will turn around for you as they did for me hopefully your marriage can be saved and you guys can be truly happy again. Stay strong and may the Lord bless you with the strength you need to get through this trying time. It will not be easy even almost 2 years later for me I have trouble sometimes but in the end it will be worth it.

Its good to see you be so strong, really get into that marriagebuilds site it explains so much and brings so much to light to help you get through this trying time. I knwo without the marriagebuilders site and the guidance of our heavenly father especially I dont think I would have made it through my wifes affairs. He needs to cut off ALL CONTACT with the other woman period no if and or buts if it takes moving to another state to do so id say do it. Its possible he needs a wakeup call many times an affair continues because he is gettings all his need met by 2 people. He continues to have an affair because the other woman is meeting one or more of his needs that you are not meeting...Now read on! This may sound like I am blaming his affair on you I am not but it is one of the problems you will have to adress to fix your marriage. Often times it is the victim of the affair that has to start the process of repairing the marriage and not the adulterer this seems unfair and it is but someone has to break the cycle. In marraige builders forums there is some very detailed plans on couples having trouble ending infidelity they are What Are Plan A and Plan B? Plan A.)- Doing everything you can to meet your spouses needs and be loving and caring (this is very hard because being the victim often times this is the last thing you want to do and what yo expect the adulterer to be doing for you.) If plan A fails it will be time to move on to Plan B.) Complete seperation NO CONTACT - this plan opens your spouses eyes and lets them see now that you are gone what they are missing the adage of "you dont dont know what you have lost till its gone" applies here. Once your spouse sees that the other woman is not meeting all of the needs you were providing they see how crummy they really have it with the other woman. It also smacks them across the back of the head that there situation is serious you are not just throwing out empty threats and that there marriage is actually at risk. You have a very difficult road ahead of you I will tell you now it will not be easy no matter how things turn out. Pray for strength and guidance from our heavenly father he will always be there for you.

Untill you have been through it you never know how you will really react. I always thought id divorce also but I am still with my wife and happy now so... Marriagebuilders is a wonderful resource and full of information and great advice it helped me so much to get through what is such a terrible experience. Start there, exposing the affair is one of the 1st steps in getting them to stop. I know you probably dont want to let other people know and want to save your spouse from embarassment and hurt but its necessary, affairs thrive on secrecy. Marriagebuilders will expound more on that so read through it and follow the advice given. Again sorry you have to go through this but it can get better it seems you are willing to put the effort into saving your marriage hoepfully your spouse will also in time.

Ok anyone who wants to can get a gun illegally very easily. I have a good friend who ive known for many years, he grew up in really bad neighborhood whos friends and uncles and even brothers were in gangs. He explained to me how easy it was to get a gun, people sell them from the back of the trunks of there cars, you can get an ak47 with ammo for 50 bucks.... Im pretty sure that being able to print guns will have no real impact on the accesibility of arms and ammo to criminals.

DO NOT feel bad about having those feelings just DO NOT ACT on them, make absolutely sure not to place yourselves in a situation where those feelings can be acted upon and you should be ok. I cannot stress enough that there is absolutely nothing wrong with having those feelings as long as you continue to live the law of chastity and withhold acting on those feelings until after your married. Continuing to harbor guilt and shame and feeling bad about feeling that way coud lead to problems with intimacy down the road once your married. Maybe try reading book called "And They Were Not Ashamed." by Laura Brotherson together its a great read.

Yep, free agency as much as he wants he cannot force us to do what he wants it would be against the whole plan set up for us to come here in the 1st place.

A winning lottery ticket, I know money isnt everything but it sure would be nice not having to worry about bills or going to work and just being able to spend more time with the family, travel together etc. Then to help extended family and friends with whatever they needed as well. My mom has a lot of medical bills that would be awesome if I could help them pay that off. I could go on and on but yeah could really do with a winning lottery ticket lol I guess since I dont ever play I wont ever win though which is fine because pretty happy with what I already have.

Leave the poor guy be, I know your excited and all but I wouldnt write more then once or twice and leave it short and simple hi doing good, things here are great hope things are ok. He needs to focus on his mission and serving the lord, also the spirit can be very strong and emotions can be confused I would hate to see you get hurt because of mixed feeling or seeing something there that is not. Best advice is to let him be and let everything settle if in 9 months you still feel strongly then after his mission you can talk about your feelings and maybe dating. Focus on yourself for now on your personal growth and healing you went through some terrible things recently and you need make sure you are whole as a person and feeling good about yourself and your place in life before you invite someone else into it.

Sounds like a compliment to me how is it an insult o.o? Just because you didnt recognize her doesnt mean she was ugly before imo, she could have been beautiful before and still looks beautiful just not like the same person. I thought this was a joke at 1st and people responding were just messing with the op lol.

We know a lot more then we used to know is why. Recent advances in the medical field, all the research done on growth and development. Knowing these things has led us to make changes that reflect these discoveries helping us to become a more civilized and learned people or something o.o...