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I have a 13 year old Kirby. My sister has a 30 year old Kirby. They last forever. No plastic parts. I work next to a vacuum store and the guys there say Dysons are the most overrated. They are made from cheap plastic and rarely last more than 4-5 years. You can find used Kirbys too. I paid $100 for mine. Best part is that you don't need to deal with their sales pitch when you buy used. haha

I think you should state the facts without making it personal. They are asking why you divorced and you need to tell the truth. Don't sugar coat it. Cancelling a sealing is a huge deal. She didn't take her covenants seriously when she was sealed to you and the church needs to know that so they can make sure she realizes that she is making those same covenants again.

Honestly, I would consider getting a divorce in this situation. He is not remorseful and there is no way to have a marriage with that kind of dishonesty. You are now in a position to take care of yourself. Don't let him make you take care of him while he is out with other women. I know some will question you about why you had a sexless marriage. That doesn't matter anymore. Even if you were the coldest, most frigid woman on earth, it doesn't excuse his infidelity. He had other options and he chose the coward's way. You are not to blame for his cheating. You may have some blame in a bad marriage but you did not make him cheat. That is all on him. Take care of yourself. Protect your inheritance. Even if you are in a community property state, that is all yours until you spend it on something you jointly own. See a lawyer ASAP.

Just remember that if you leave your husband for this other man, the newness and excitement of that relationship will die off as well. Normal life will come and there will still be a house to clean, bills to pay, kids to raise...... It may not be the man you are in love with. It may be the excitement of something new. We all go through the fun of dating and being newlyweds. Then reality kicks in and it always does. Try treating your husband as though he were the new and exciting man. Don't devastate your children over something exciting and temporary. You have something beautiful and eternal and you deserve it.

Part of the repentance process is making restitution. I don't think you can do that without confessing this to your husband. He has to be given the opportunity to forgive you or not. The sooner you come forward with remorse, the easier it will be for him to forgive. The longer you wait, the longer the betrayal will seem to him. Do not put this off if you have any desire to save your marriage.

My opinion - let her go now. Let her find someone who wants to be a member and support her. My husband promised me he would be active and go to church so I married him. He actually did go to the temple with me. Then he decided it wasn't for him. Now he just loves that I am raising our kids in this great church and how well they are turning out. He makes sure I get them to everything. I love him but I am so full of resentment and anger about it all and I am completely miserable. I never say anything because I just want to keep the peace so he thinks life is great and we are the happiest couple on earth. I almost left him over it early in our relationship but he promised to always go to church with me and I fell for it. I wish I would have gotten out then and found the kind of man I really wanted.

I make my own soap all the time and I buy lye with no problems. I live in Portland and get it locally at a soap making supply store - just happens to be right across the street from DI :) Call around. You can still get it. I love homemade goat milk soap.

This situation happened to my sister. She had a child with her second husband before she had been granted a temple cancellation with her first husband. When she, her second husband, and their child showed up to be sealed, they said the child was already sealed to her and was BIC. The temple president explained that the child was sealed to her and would automatically be sealed to anyone she was sealed to so the ordinance didn't need to be done. He said that the only way the child could possibly wind up with the first husband for eternity would be if my sister and her second husband both broke their temple covenants. It will all work out. The Lord is loving and kind and wants us to be together.

I have never been asked when I have done temple trips. How embarrassing. I can just see the other kids saying, "Check it out. Jane is only doing confirmations. Must be her time of the month." I would never go to the temple again.

If it is this bad, I would talk to the landlord and find out how much it would cost to break the lease. Sometimes, it is just a matter of paying the rent until new tenants move in. If you live in a decent place, that might only take a month or so. There is no way he can keep finding people to bail him out for another 6 months. You need to get out now before you have an eviction on your credit. I am so sorry you have to deal with this. I live with an addict but not such an expensive one so at least I can pay my bills. I think the hardest part is knowing that they love something more than they love us.

I take my scriptures including the J.S. manual, my purse (and what is normally in it,) and a diaper bag which has a coloring book, pencils, doll, spiral notebook, some kid books, and a snack for my 3 year old. My cell phone is a pocket pc so I enter any important dates when they are announced. I can take notes on it, but I never do. I can't imagine lugging my laptop to church.

You don't have to be a rocket scientist to know that if you make $4000 a month, you cannot afford a $2000 a month mortgage even if it is a good investment. Sure the lenders were sharks, but anyone who takes out credit on something that siimply cannot afford is accountable for their own decisions. No one held guns to their heads and if they read their loan docs, they would have known.

I would try to find out more of what she means. There were many converts who came from Europe to live closer to the Saints, but the church was founded in the U.S.

It won't be because Heavenly Father promised it would never leave the earth again once Joseph Smith restored it.

I didn't realize salt and sugar were now considered "drugs," but you are right. They should be avoided in excess.