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I have a 13 year old Kirby. My sister has a 30 year old Kirby. They last forever. No plastic parts. I work next to a vacuum store and the guys there say Dysons are the most overrated. They are made from cheap plastic and rarely last more than 4-5 years. You can find used Kirbys too. I paid $100 for mine. Best part is that you don't need to deal with their sales pitch when you buy used. haha

I think you should state the facts without making it personal. They are asking why you divorced and you need to tell the truth. Don't sugar coat it. Cancelling a sealing is a huge deal. She didn't take her covenants seriously when she was sealed to you and the church needs to know that so they can make sure she realizes that she is making those same covenants again.

Honestly, I would consider getting a divorce in this situation. He is not remorseful and there is no way to have a marriage with that kind of dishonesty. You are now in a position to take care of yourself. Don't let him make you take care of him while he is out with other women. I know some will question you about why you had a sexless marriage. That doesn't matter anymore. Even if you were the coldest, most frigid woman on earth, it doesn't excuse his infidelity. He had other options and he chose the coward's way. You are not to blame for his cheating. You may have some blame in a bad marriage but you did not make him cheat. That is all on him. Take care of yourself. Protect your inheritance. Even if you are in a community property state, that is all yours until you spend it on something you jointly own. See a lawyer ASAP.

Just remember that if you leave your husband for this other man, the newness and excitement of that relationship will die off as well. Normal life will come and there will still be a house to clean, bills to pay, kids to raise...... It may not be the man you are in love with. It may be the excitement of something new. We all go through the fun of dating and being newlyweds. Then reality kicks in and it always does. Try treating your husband as though he were the new and exciting man. Don't devastate your children over something exciting and temporary. You have something beautiful and eternal and you deserve it.

Part of the repentance process is making restitution. I don't think you can do that without confessing this to your husband. He has to be given the opportunity to forgive you or not. The sooner you come forward with remorse, the easier it will be for him to forgive. The longer you wait, the longer the betrayal will seem to him. Do not put this off if you have any desire to save your marriage.

My opinion - let her go now. Let her find someone who wants to be a member and support her. My husband promised me he would be active and go to church so I married him. He actually did go to the temple with me. Then he decided it wasn't for him. Now he just loves that I am raising our kids in this great church and how well they are turning out. He makes sure I get them to everything. I love him but I am so full of resentment and anger about it all and I am completely miserable. I never say anything because I just want to keep the peace so he thinks life is great and we are the happiest couple on earth. I almost left him over it early in our relationship but he promised to always go to church with me and I fell for it. I wish I would have gotten out then and found the kind of man I really wanted.

I make my own soap all the time and I buy lye with no problems. I live in Portland and get it locally at a soap making supply store - just happens to be right across the street from DI :) Call around. You can still get it. I love homemade goat milk soap.

This situation happened to my sister. She had a child with her second husband before she had been granted a temple cancellation with her first husband. When she, her second husband, and their child showed up to be sealed, they said the child was already sealed to her and was BIC. The temple president explained that the child was sealed to her and would automatically be sealed to anyone she was sealed to so the ordinance didn't need to be done. He said that the only way the child could possibly wind up with the first husband for eternity would be if my sister and her second husband both broke their temple covenants. It will all work out. The Lord is loving and kind and wants us to be together.

I have never been asked when I have done temple trips. How embarrassing. I can just see the other kids saying, "Check it out. Jane is only doing confirmations. Must be her time of the month." I would never go to the temple again.

If it is this bad, I would talk to the landlord and find out how much it would cost to break the lease. Sometimes, it is just a matter of paying the rent until new tenants move in. If you live in a decent place, that might only take a month or so. There is no way he can keep finding people to bail him out for another 6 months. You need to get out now before you have an eviction on your credit. I am so sorry you have to deal with this. I live with an addict but not such an expensive one so at least I can pay my bills. I think the hardest part is knowing that they love something more than they love us.

I take my scriptures including the J.S. manual, my purse (and what is normally in it,) and a diaper bag which has a coloring book, pencils, doll, spiral notebook, some kid books, and a snack for my 3 year old. My cell phone is a pocket pc so I enter any important dates when they are announced. I can take notes on it, but I never do. I can't imagine lugging my laptop to church.

You don't have to be a rocket scientist to know that if you make $4000 a month, you cannot afford a $2000 a month mortgage even if it is a good investment. Sure the lenders were sharks, but anyone who takes out credit on something that siimply cannot afford is accountable for their own decisions. No one held guns to their heads and if they read their loan docs, they would have known.

I would try to find out more of what she means. There were many converts who came from Europe to live closer to the Saints, but the church was founded in the U.S.

It won't be because Heavenly Father promised it would never leave the earth again once Joseph Smith restored it.

I didn't realize salt and sugar were now considered "drugs," but you are right. They should be avoided in excess.

Not caffeine, just drinks containing habit forming drugs, which would include caffeine like coke, pepsi, etc. My mom also said that there was something published in a church magazine, but it was long before I ever existed.

My parents were instructed to not drink caffeinated sodas on their mission. It was not an issue since they have always followed that counsel since the church first advised against it.

ITA. I have posted about it before. If you don't follow the counsel of your leaders, you are not sustaining them. I would say that not sustaining your leaders is a sin.

A few years ago a man told my cousin that he was present when my grandfather had his calling and election made sure. It was long after my grandpa had died. I wonder if he went through a temple ordinance related to it. He never told anyone. My mom said she never knew until this man told my cousin what he had witnessed.

I loved it. I have always been a fan of the bandso it was especially interesting. It really shows that LDS come from every background. What a great example he was for our church.

So true and something I have to constantly remind myself of.

My sister married a guy who had been sealed to his first wife. She broke her temple covenants but nothing that would require excommunication so technically he is still sealed to her. I loved my sister's attitude since I am too jealous and possesive. She said that she knew her husband loved this woman at one time and the woman must have some good qualities. If, the woman repents and makes it to the celestial kingdom, she would probably be the type of person you would want to be around. So even though the 1st wife is horrible now and has caused lots of grief for them, my sister still has a forgiving heart and accepts that she might share her husband with his 1st wife. We know that polygamy is probably going to be around. I just try not to think about it and hope I can deal with it better when I am in my perfect state. LOL

There is nothing wrong with living with a family before marriage unless you are sharing a room and having sex. My roomate abandoned me a couple of months before my wedding and I couldn't afford to pay rent alone so my husband's family took me in. I had my own room far away from my now husband's. His father was the Bishop at the time too. The leaders probably are not doing anything about it because nothing bad is going on. I am not sure what the Bishop said that was an insult but he should be responding in a compassionate way and trying to help you understand since you are a new member.

Single women have no business intentionally having children. It doesn't matter how they do it. I can't believe she found a doctor to do this. I wonder if she went to Mexico.

My mom had many miscarriages and asked her leaders. They told her that it was one of those things that we just don't know and each situation is different. They told her that she should keep a record of the dates in her journal though. BTW - My husband and I were married for 3 years before we were sealed. I refused to try to get pregnant until we were sealed because I wanted to make sure that there would be no need to worry about temple ordinances for miscarriages. I knew I would spend the rest of my life wondering if I had lost a child that would have been mine for eternity.