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"praying to God to change my girlfriend...." You have a lot to learn. as pertains to all of your previous responses regarding marriage, adoption, etc...https://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng&old=true please click on the link and read. If you have a testimony and support our prophets, seers and revelators, then you will agree with the link as posted.

Junior, 1. You need to break up with her right now or marry her. Choose one, but do it now. Don't be a monster. 2. You are paying 1/2 of her medical bills? Wow bro. you need to do better than that. like it or not she is the mother of your child. 3. Bishop doesn't decide if you are forgiven. He is the facilitator through which you are guided to forgiveness. He needs you to do the things he has asked and meet with him when scheduled. Not keeping your commitments is an indicator that you are not repentant. 4. If you keep on this path you en-route to disfellowship or excommunication. 5. Do not go live with your girlfriend/ex/baby momma after the kid is born unless you are husband and wife. Don't be ridiculous. Part of being a grown up is taking responsibility for your actions. Doing what is right even when you don't want to. You have made decisions that impact the lives of 3 human beings. Time to man up.

You should only stop wearing your garment if advised to do so by your priesthood leader (bishop), otherwise keep it on. Remember it is a reminder of sacred covenants between you and the Lord. You have also covenanted to wear the garment both night and day as instructed in the endowment. Do not break your covenants.

Go to church. If your son is fussy, go to the cry room or foyer. Take the sacrament. He will be eligible for nursery in 1 month.

2nd Mrmarklin. If your brother in-law is an adult, then he needs to figure his own life out.

OP just read through this thread. Nothings going to change until you are ready to change. 6 pages of whining. It's time to make a decision. Don't do it for yourself. If you truly love your son like you claim you do, then do it for him. Once he is 18 and out of the house you can go and ruin your life however you want.

Not outdated, but often misunderstood. Read this: https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2015/04/the-gift-of-grace?lang=eng "The prophet Nephi made an important contribution to our understanding of God’s grace when he declared, “We labor diligently … to persuade our children, and also our brethren, to believe in Christ, and to be reconciled to God; for we know that it is by grace that we are saved, after all we can do.”31 However, I wonder if sometimes we misinterpret the phrase “after all we can do.” We must understand that “after” does not equal “because.” We are not saved “because” of all that we can do. Have any of us done all that we can do? Does God wait until we’ve expended every effort before He will intervene in our lives with His saving grace? Many people feel discouraged because they constantly fall short. They know firsthand that “the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.”32 They raise their voices with Nephi in proclaiming, “My soul grieveth because of mine iniquities.”33 I am certain Nephi knew that the Savior’s grace allows and enables us to overcome sin.34 This is why Nephi labored so diligently to persuade his children and brethren “to believe in Christ, and to be reconciled to God.”35 After all, that is what we can do! And that is our task in mortality!"

I don't like the ROTH but it stems from my general mistrust of government in general to look out for our well being, remember these are the same guys who said social security would never be taxed.

Um.....See my previous posts. Get out a little. You do not need this. Leave her and find someone better. Believe me they are out there. Plenty of attractive girls who would love to be with you.

She led you to believe she was somewhere doing some specific thing, plans changed and she did not advise. She chose to spend that time with another man (not you). Enough said. Time to cut her loose. You are dating her. There is no commitment. Let her go. You are twisting yourself in a bunch of knots for a girl when there are tons of other girls out there.

She led you to believe she was somewhere doing some specific thing, plans changed and she did not advise. She chose to spend that time with another man (not you). Enough said. Time to cut her loose.

OP You need to dump her. She is playing you. It is obvious. Boys and girls can't really be friends. Those that say they are are the 1 in 1000 exception. Don't live your life by exception. Find a girl that is loyal to you only. There are lots of them out there.

Your brother needs to be sure he is going into this with eyes wide open. Anyone who has been twice divorced with two kids has by definition struggled with broken families, because they have two of them behind them. Statistically it will be difficult for him to make a successful marriage. A lot of it depends on the circumstances of her prior relationships and her role in the divorces. How having an Apostle of Christ go through the same experience is irrelevant, simply because statistically it is almost impossible to make a success of this. If an apostle made it successful, well all I can say is I hope your brother is an apostle.

As stated above, we are only getting 50% of the story, so I am going to move forward with the premise that only 50% of what you are saying is true. Even if 100% of what you are saying is true, my advice doesn't change: Both of you together visit your Bishop and ask him for advice. He should send you to a qualified marriage and family therapist. He will ask you if you are living the gospel, reading the scriptures together and individually, praying together, and keeping your temple covenants. Be ready to answer this truthfully either you are or you are not. He cannot "make" you feel, you choose how you feel. Remember you cannot change him, you can only change yourself. Is he providing for you? Is there a future plan for you and your family 5 yrs, 10 yrs? What are you doing to bring yourself closer to him physically? Flirting, kissing, cute outfits? It's a two way street. Your husbands participation is key in the above. If he declines to participate, then that is an indicator that things aren't going to work. But only an indicator. After you have visited and counseled with your bishop, after you have visited with the MFT (more than once) and taken both of the advice of both, and after you have looked in the mirror and evaluated yourself honestly, only then are you ready to make any sort of decision for divorce. Please ignore all the advice above about Porn, and how the Savior taught that divorce is OK.

1. This shouldn't weaken your testimony. Remember the patriarch is just a regular guy, and mistakes happen. Regular guys get nervous, and flustered. Forgive him. 2. On occasion the church gives permission to have a blessing re-done. Perhaps at the juncture where the patriarch realized his mistake, he should have re-scheduled with you rather than try to do it again while flustered. Again, he's just a guy who makes mistakes. Talk to him, or your bishop about having it re done. Patriarchal blessings are amazing, and I would encourage you not to be upset, or lose testimony over this. What has changed? You didn't have a blessing, you went to get one, a mistake was made, and you essentially don't have one now. So what has changed?

weird. how do you even get there? I'm not sure the OP has provided enough information to make this kind of inference.

Then you are bad by your own admission. I think you need to learn a little more about forgiveness before you make the statement you just made.

Wow, just wow. If what you are stating about this guy is true, then I would run the program with my presidency as we deem appropriate, and hopefully get released......

Do your calling to the best of your ability. Talk to your presidency about his guidance. If you guys come up with something different tell your bishop. If your bishop approves, then don't worry about it, and proceed as planned. The Stake president has no business micro managing something under the Bishop, and YW presidents stewardship.

Fence sitting doctrine? Fine, if you don't want to be out of bounds with your comment, I will modify to wrong. Yeah, you can do lots of stuff without holding a temple recommend, as if holding a temple recommend was some sort of barometer of righteousness????? Last I checked Tattoo's are not one of the temple recommend questions.....do you know different? Yup God sees everything, and man will have to answer for sins which have not been resolved in this life. What does this have to do with Blacks and the priesthood? We are a Theocracy, that means whatever the Lord says is correct. The "voice" of the membership is irrelevant if you are a true believer. I read The Family: A Proclamation to the World, not sure where you are getting this advocacy stuff from. Maybe you can quote the Proclamation and prove me and the Prophets wrong? Everyone is actively sinning. Some you can see, some you can't. Your point?

You can still do lots of things at church while not holding a temple recommend: Primary President, Relief Society President, Sunday School President. Even those who are not exemplary members of the church can at times participate in saving ordinances i.e. baptism at the Bishops discretion. Lots of people who commit sins hold callings in church. Yes, if you are drunk at church you would probably not be allowed to teach. Yep, no coffee at church. What's your point with all of this? Out of bounds with this comment. Do some research. You can be displeased by the brethren. I don't care, but don't take a change in policy for God's inattentiveness. Pretty sure there is no advocacy for early age marriage. We are counseled to not delay. Different........

The scripture in D&C 1:3 is quoted by and explained by James Faust. He explains: "Because we live in a morally desensitized environment, we find it hard to say to ourselves and to others that our actions are not right." Dallin Oaks quotes D&C 1: 3 which states: "And the rebellious shall be pierced with much sorrow; for their iniquities shall be spoken upon the housetops, and their secret acts shall be revealed." The scripture references in that passage of his talk are also Mormon 5:8, and D&C 38:7 in addition to the above. Both speakers are directing their comments to the UNREPENTANT. Those who do not repent of their sins will be subject to the humiliation of having those acts shouted from the roof tops. I think we found something we agree upon here. Both of the Apostles understand the scriptures and atonement better than you. Neither of them reference Luke 12. The reality is that once we have repented of our sins they are not remembered. D&C 58: 42. Speaks directly to the REPENTANT. I will quote myself from a prior post "I am not taking D&C 58: 42 too literally. The scripture says nothing about forgetting, or God's forgetfulness. It says "I, the Lord, remember them no more." I take this to mean the Lord actively takes the stance that once forgiven, he will not bring it up, or hold it against you, or remind you or anyone else about it." It is unfair to compare someone who has repented of their sins to someone who hasn't. The repentance obligation to clear things up with priesthood authority has presumably been met by the OP. Further disclosure, or discussion of those items is completely up to her and at her sole discretion. There is no outside obligation to 3rd parties (including her boyfriend/fiance/husband) for those forgiven sins prior to her relationship with those parties.

You know they paint the temples as well right? What does that have to do with a Tattoo? If you went through hard times, why do you want to remember them the rest of your life or be reminded as if you would forget?

So a person can confess, find forgiveness, yet still have their sin revealed? This is pursuant to your interpretation of Luke 12:2-3? I am unfamiliar with that teaching. I am not taking D&C 58: 42 too literally. The scripture says nothing about forgetting, or God's forgetfulness. It says "I, the Lord, remember them no more." I take this to mean the Lord actively takes the stance that once forgiven, he will not bring it up, or hold it against you, or remind you or anyone else about it.

D&C 58:42 Behold, he who has repented of his sins, the same is forgiven, and I, the Lord, remember them no more. Luke 12: 2-3 2 For there is nothing covered, that shall not be revealed; neither hid, that shall not be known. 3 Therefore whatsoever ye have spoken in darkness shall be heard in the light; and that which ye have spoken in the ear in closets shall be proclaimed upon the housetops. There is a problem here. Based on your interpretation, somehow the husband is going to find out about his wife's transgressions. However, if she has repented, then the Lord will remember them no more. If the Lord remembers no more, then Luke doesn't apply. Add to that Luke is referring to hypocrisies in teaching directly to his Disciples. For me, what would be the point of confessing to my Bishop, receiving forgiveness from the Lord if "all will be revealed" at some future date? Unless OP lied to her future husband about guy #2, then she has no reason to disclose, or feel guilty. You are correct, we are not going to agree on this. I do agree with Omega somewhat in that OP will need to be careful if she discusses with her bishop this issue because he might tell her to tell her husband, and that would constitute bad advice. However, I will qualify that her bishop may be better informed than any of us on this presuming of course she tells him the full truth. In that event the advice to disclose to her husband may be correct advice. maybe.