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As a beginner, not knowing anything and starting from zero, I was wondering why I saw over and over to store 50 lb. buckets of wheat and beans. I remember telling my husband; "What would I do with 50 lbs. of wheat?" and "The kids don't even like beans." So instead I did what of course what came naturally; buying extra of what we already used. Instead of 50 lbs. of hard red wheat, beans and rice I bought extra peanut butter, crackers, pasta, canned foods and granola bars. Fast forward about 15 years. I TOTALLY store wheat now... and yes I know to use it. Anyway - I enjoy prep - although we don't have much money to do it on so it's a strict budget, little by little gets the job done. Although I've taken baby steps over the past 16 years, I got serious about it over the last 5.

If you don't want to ask any questions about it, then just go on with your friendship exactly as you have been before he left.

This. My husband can't read minds (obviously) but he also doesn't seem to have any skills in facial hints, body language or even tone of voice or insinuation. You literally need to tell him exactly, precisely what you want/need (and probably write it down, take a picture, explain in detail... and he'll still get it wrong or just "forget"). LOL. As for extra kindness for your husband OP: it really depends on his personality and interests, his job, his schedule, his ability to handle things.... what one of our spouses would like or enjoy may not mean anything at all for yours. Examples: Yesterday was about 90 degrees out. My husband was outside mowing the lawn. I grabbed an ice cold can of sparkling water and brought it out for him but he was mowing 'away' from me and didn't see me. Good! I set the can down at the top of the drive right next to his tool kit where he would see it and snuck back in the house. Little and no big deal to me but apparently it was much appreciated on his end. He actually brought it up at dinner last night and thanked me for doing that for him and surprising him with it. When I make up his lunch for work the next day and have it ready in the refrigerator for him to grab at the last second. Buying him a special treat or new 'something' when I'm out doing the shopping and I leave it where I know he will see it; but I don't tell him ahead of time. Sometimes it's as simple as his favorite candy bar left on the coffee table in front of where he sits every evening, another time it might be a new pair of work pants or new shirt left on the bed where he'll see it when he gets home and goes in to change.

Say she does give up this man she loves.... because he is currently in a job that only makes 30K a year. And she remarries a year from now, a guy who is making 50K at only 25/26 yrs old and has a great job so she and her parents just 'know' he's going to be continually making more. She doesn't love him like she did her first husband (he'll always have a special place in her heart), but she knows she can stay at home with future children if she is married to this guy. He's a better catch so-to-speak. And she starts her family with him. And they have oh, let's just say 3 kids in the next 5 years. He isn't as loving and faithful as her first husband was... he's fine, but work and church seem more important than spending time with her. But she tells herself that's ok because this one makes more money so it was worth giving up a loving marriage for the security and being home with kids. And boom. The job market falls for his particular skill. He is laid off. He struggles to find a job in his field. They start to struggle to pay bills. He still can't find a job in his field so after a year, in desperation, he takes a job that pays 30K. In the meantime... that first husband (whom she loved and he loved her) has slowly but surely moved up in the ranks and is now happily remarried with two children and makes a comfortable 80K and has a job that is pretty secure. Those tables sure flipped. You just never know what the future holds for you.

My mouth literally fell open reading this. It makes me so... sad, I guess. Disappointed. And thinking how it's possible that someone who proposes to 'love' someone and even is sealed to them, could so easily divorce them just because he hasn't made the amount of money she and her parents thinks he should. I get that she wants to stay home with future children - but there are options and ways of making things work and who knows what blessings are yet in their future? To throw love and marriage away based on money is so so wrong.

Pondering: What about the thousands of other people every single day that come to the hospital and are severely traumatized by what has happened to them? Don't they also deserve 'free' care then? What about other similar situations? Theater, school, bank or dance club shootings? Is that the new standard then? Everyone who is hurt due to a shooter is 'traumatized' so they get free medical care. Now we can argue that being traumatized is a personal reaction. What traumatizes one to the point of mentally checking out may not effect another and they go on with life with a different attitude. It was a nice thing to for the hospital - and a big part is simply for the free news coverage they get from it - but now it's arguable that others are just as deserving or even more deserving of the same.

That's actually a very good point Just_A_Guy - one I hadn't given thought to until you pointed it out. Once the song is released, bought and paid for... they really should have no right to determine who plays it or how someone listens to it. But there is a lot of gray area here (just like EVERYTHING today has legal gray areas anymore). Just because a band/singer doesn't believe the same thing the candidate does, they don't want their song played by that person because people will think they support that candidate and their choices. Hmmm. Something to ponder. But today, in our litigious world, every issue, topic, accident, word, phrase, situation (etc) has become a wire. Able to be bent in whatever direction attorneys want to bend and present it.

I have read it was 10 tubs... but you know how information gets changed through the years. Many saw signs posted the week of May 17th (this year) saying effective immediately, white clothing is to be worn for initiatory ordinance. Shields are discontinued. This was discussed a lot on "LDS mommy forums" and all over Reddit the last part of May, early June.

Genetics... culture of their family... introvert verses extrovert. Similar to these boards. Some are content to read posts for years and never feel the need or want to jump in and 'speak'. Others feel content to jump in and say something on almost every post. Posts are conversations; some take part and some are happier to listen, thinking things in their own head they don't feel the need to express out loud. Really this question goes hand in hand with 'communication' in any setting; groups, church, standing in line at the grocery store, marriage. Some people are vocal and can't understand how others can just be happy to remain quiet and not jump in and talk. Others are quiet and can't imagine being the kind of personality that wants to talk all the time.

Just a couple weeks ago there was a news story splashing all around the headlines about hot coffee and tea causing cancer due to temperature. I think it was something like any hot beverage 150 degrees or hotter if I remember correctly. That story was all over for about a week and then seemed to disappear as many health/medical stories do.

While I think there are many who have experiences due to the circumstances with medication in their body at the time, and others who lie about it for the attention, to write a book, personal gain in some way; I do believe there are still others who truly do have experiences that interact with another realm or spirit world including those who have passed over before us. However, I don't think people who truly have those experiences usually talk about it except to those close to them and not much. My Grandma was one and although I was on the fence before that (I have read some incredibly believable stories but wasn't really ready to believe them 100%) after November 2007, I believe some do.

Ahh... I kept reading and reading - waiting for this question and answer. Makes ALL the difference. Take a step back. Breathe and let him breathe. Stop talking about it for now and let a little more time pass. Even if it's just 6 months. The difference between 2 and 3 is pretty big. In another 6 months it's possible your husband will feel less pressure, start to enjoy the kids a little more (MANY guys do not really bond and enjoy the kids until they are 3 or so - it's not uncommon!) and it also gives him time to work through some exhaustion and depression which also go hand in hand a lot of times. My husband also adds; for some reason the thought of a 3rd child scared him. Not only was he exhausted, but he said for some reason he felt more financially scared supporting a 3rd child; although there was no reason for the fear. Why would a family of 5 be much different than a family of 4? It shouldn't really; We already had a girl and a boy. We had baby furniture, bedding, car seats, etc. and clothing for both sexes so really, the 3rd child wasn't going to be the financial investment the first 2 were. But he was scared of the financials. In the end we did nothing for a few months... just 'wait and see' and then we started to 'not not try' and when it happened it was great. We knew it was time.

... and for SO many different reasons it's silly to try to say "why" people leave the church. There are a thousand. Just like there are thousands of reason people don't. It's so personal for everyone and involves so many things.

I chuckled in agreement when I read this. Being perfectly honest, this would probably be me too... I have never had to be in that situation so I can only guess based on a couple other minor situations and I found no matter how 'ready' I thought I would be, I ended up being shook up by it more than I thought I would.

This. As a Mother I can tell you there is a deep, undeniable, instinctive, overwhelming urge to protect my babies. I don't know what I would have done in that situation, I can only guess or 'say' I would have done this or that. And for the record, I did feel bad when I read the article (not here, I read it a couple days ago on my own) that it seems he was probably homeless and had squatted there before. But again - as a Mother, it's a deep, natural feeling to instinctively protect my child. And this is a stranger... a man... in her home. Her personal space. Her child's bedroom no less. If you break into my home... I'm not going to take time to discuss it with you. I'm going to protect my family, my home and myself.

I actually know of 3 families that used the named Jagger.

I had the same question as Anatess - I read your question as he is able to take you and both children with on the trip? When we were able to go with my husband, we accepted he was there to do business and I was basically on vacation with the 3 children by myself until he was 'free' - at which time he would join us for the activities he could. A 9 year old and newborn is fairly easy since the 9 year old can do so much themselves and newborns are so portable. Just consider it a vacation for you and the kids when it's just you and the kids; and a 'family' vacation during the time your husband can join in! Enjoy!

I remember reading about this as well (a couple years ago I think). I am also thinking that as Muslim culture comes to be more accepted in America the child-bride issue (accepted and justified pedophilia) comes with it.

I've been at a funeral where they stopped the music as the family and casket were brought in/entering and it was uncomfortable... too much silence. Every little cough, shuffle, movement. Having the music continue to play quietly in the background is much more comfortable. But, I would think you could ask the family what they prefer or if there is a special song they prefer at that time....

I agree with this... (but absolutely do not agree with writing checks when the money isn't the account, believing they will somehow be covered). When our kids were tiny and I looked at our income and outgoing in a spreadsheet, the math didn't add up as outgoing was more than incoming. But we existed, we lived, we paid our bills, we made it. However that was of course due to me paying the 'important' bill, putting off one or two until the next paycheck, robbing Peter to pay Paul so to speak sometimes... but it all worked out in the end. Just not on paper. LOL.

In the article it does say they had a doctor and 2 nurses with them; and that she received medical assistance immediately " The trek also included a doctor and two registered nurses."

Over the past week there have been numerous stories re; the guy that sold a $40 printer... to a habitual 'lawsuit filer' and now, 6 years later the lawsuits are still coming in and the amount was up to $30,000 in 'damages' from a printer the habitual lawsuit filer (it's how he makes his living) claims to have suffered due to a printer that didn't work. Crazy but true. Our system is sooo messed up.

I have never known anyone over the age of 13 to ever play spin the bottle...... that totally caught me off guard.

First, we need to examine the specific references to the woman named "Mary Magdalene" recorded in the Gospels. She was one of the women who accompanied Jesus and the Apostles: "The Twelve accompanied Him, and also some women who had been cured of evil spirits and maladies: Mary called the Magdalene, from whom seven devils had gone out, Joanna, the wife of Herods steward Chuza, Susanna, and many others who were assisting them out of their means" (Lk 8:1-3). (The Gospel of St. Mark confirms that our Lord had expelled seven demons from Mary Magdalene (16:9).) Mary Magdalene also stood at the foot of the cross during the crucifixion (confer Mk 15:40, Mt 27:56 and Jn 19:25). She also witnessed Christs burial, and on Easter was the first to discover the empty tomb and then the first to see the risen Lord (confer Jn 20:1-18). Given the specific references to "Mary Magdalene," the second step is to examine whether Mary Magdalene may also be the penitent woman found in the Gospel of St. Luke (7:36-50). Remember the penitent woman entered the home of Simon the Pharisee. She wept, and her tears fell upon our Lords feet. She anointed His feet with perfumed oil and dried them with her hair. Simon the Pharisee said to himself, "If this man were a prophet, He would know who and what sort of woman this is that touches Him that she is a sinner," an obvious reference to her being "untouchable" because of such a serious sin as adultery, fornication, or promiscuity. In the end, Jesus forgives the penitent woman. Lastly, the book cites several individuals who have accused the Church of "a smear campaign" to discredit Mary Magdalene so as to disempower a powerful woman. Oh please! What greater honor could the Church grant than by recognizing Mary Magdalene as a saint and a model for every sincere Christian who struggles for holiness? This scene is part of Jesus ministry in the area of the Sea of Galilee. Also, right after the declaration of forgiveness in the seventh chapter of the Gospel of St. Luke, Mary Magdalene is mentioned by name as a follower of Jesus and identified as the one "from whom seven devils had gone out" (Lk 9:1-3). Keep in mind that Magdalene is derived from Magdala. Magdala, located along the Sea of Galilee near Tiberias, was a wealthy city known for its prosperous fisheries. The Romans destroyed the town because of its moral depravity and its participation in the Jewish revolt. Interestingly, in the Talmud, from the word Magdalene is derived the expression "curling womens hair," which means "adulteress." Even though the penitent woman of Luke 7 is not specifically identified as the Mary Magdalene "from whom seven devils had gone out" of Luke 8, one could easily draw the conclusion, as did Pope St. Gregory. Moreover, the early Church tradition has also upheld this connection. The third and more difficult step to the investigation is to see if Mary Magdalene could indeed be Mary of Bethany. Following Luke 8, the gospel in the ninth and 10th chapters relates such stories as the miracle of the multiplication of the loaves, the Transfiguration, the exorcism of a possessed boy and teachings about discipleship. Our Lord then traveled to "a village" (i.e. Bethany, although not specified by Luke) to the home of Martha, who "had a sister named Mary" (confer Lk 10:38-42). There Martha prepared a meal for our Lord. While the Gospel of St. Luke does not specifically identify Mary Magdalene with Mary of Bethany, the Gospel of St. John helps resolve the issue. In John 12:1-11, Jesus arrived at Bethany, "the village of Lazarus whom Jesus had raised from the dead." Martha served a meal. Mary anointed our Lords feet with perfume and dried his feet with her hair. Keep in mind this is a different scene than the anointing by the penitent woman in the home of Simon the Pharisee in Luke 7; nevertheless, the same kind of action in both scenes helps suggests the same actor, namely Mary Magdalene. Moreover, in John 11, the earlier scene where Jesus raised Lazarus from the dead, the Gospel reads, "There was a certain man named Lazarus who was sick. He was from Bethany, the village of Mary and her sister Martha. This Mary whose brother Lazarus was sick was the one who anointed the Lord with perfume and dried His feet with her hair" (Jn 11:1-2). Here Mary is identified as "the one who anointed the Lord." While some speculate that this identification in John 11 refers to the subsequent anointing in John 12, why would John need to make such a reference when the story of John 11 flows right into the story of John 12? More likely, the identification refers to a previous action, namely the story at the home of Simon the Pharisee. If this argument holds, then Mary Magdalene, the penitent woman, and Mary of Bethany are the same. http://www.catholiceducation.org/en/culture/catholic-contributions/mary-magdalene.html

The metallic taste is just because the air has hit the honey exposed to it. It's not really harmful but it obviously doesn't taste good. My personal thoughts (if it were me) is I would transfer all of the honey into smaller glass mason jars - and it's up to you if you throw out the small amount of honey exposed to the air that has a metallic taste, but if you have a whole gallon of honey basically, I'd probably just mix it all together knowing the small amount with the off taste would be incorporated into the larger mass - mix well and separate into my glass jars with lids and put into the pantry. You can warm the smaller jars to use the crystallized honey or just scoop it out as crystals and use it if it's going to be warmed, added to a warm beverage or used in baking/cooking where it doesn't matter. You can also add a bit of hot water to the amount you need and 'melt' it into liquid honey again.