Manners Matter

Sorry you're faced with this. My thoughts in no particular order:
- the odds are slim
- obedience brings blessings (study scriptures, talks that reiterate this)
- get a copy of "The Cokeville Miracle" and watch it
- if Samuel the Lamanite can be protected from arrows aimed right at him, your family can be protected, too
- read Holland's talk about angels (Oct 08 conference)
- "let your faith be bigger than your fear" (post this in your home)
- maybe this is just another way leaders are asking the members to increase their faith
- for all we know, leaders will quietly ask certain (trained) individuals to carry but this is a more organized approach of handling things in these last days
- if a person's mission in life isn't done yet, you'll be spared
- if something does happen and your family is affected, there's important work being done on the other side of the veil
- stop watching/reading the news (having faith and peace is easier this way)
- if the above doesn't help, I'd rather ignore policy than commandments (take sacrament regularly)
{hugs}

The Come Follow Me curriculum has made this easier.  I pick out one of the sacrament meeting talks that impressed me the most and write about my impressions of it.  The talks usually relate to the Come Follow Me topic for the week so I insert a photo copy of the CFM page discussing it.  So, I never run out of things to talk about.  I can't tell you if it is effective because I've never heard back (nor met) these sisters. 
 

These are good ideas. I'm gonna admit that my first thoughts are not about the Scriptures, but about how the Church as a whole is a positive influence in my life. To the OP, if you find some applicable Scripture for everything else you're saying, fine, but sometimes people, especially less actives, just want you to talk to them, as individuals,  and don't want Scripture thrown at them. Back when we had home & visiting teachers, I enjoyed talking to them about adult things and adult living, work, local happenings, maybe Conference, etc. I'm so glad we got away from telling the same lesson to each other all around the ward.  That said, some people just don't want to be bothered any more. I gather from Sunday School that can be difficult for some LDS to believe.

First, welcome to the forum.
You need to come clean about everything. The sooner, the better. It's the right thing to do. 
Oh, and find a way to get yourself and your son to church and make it a habit.

First, welcome to the forum.
You need to come clean about everything. The sooner, the better. It's the right thing to do. 
Oh, and find a way to get yourself and your son to church and make it a habit.

First, welcome to the forum.
You need to come clean about everything. The sooner, the better. It's the right thing to do. 
Oh, and find a way to get yourself and your son to church and make it a habit.

Something that might help with letters sent out or topics thereof is similar to what is done for subjects occasionally with Priesthood.
Go to the Conference Ensign talks and choose one.  Use that as the subject for one letter.  Next time use another talk.  Unless you write a LOT of letters, you'll probably have a new Conference Ensign come out before you get through all of the talks.

Scroll down to 'family life' - https://is.byu.edu/catalog/free-courses
As an aside - check your library for "The Child Whisperer" by Carol Tuttle. There's also a blog and podcasts (https://cw.liveyourtruth.com/podcast/).

Scroll down to 'family life' - https://is.byu.edu/catalog/free-courses
As an aside - check your library for "The Child Whisperer" by Carol Tuttle. There's also a blog and podcasts (https://cw.liveyourtruth.com/podcast/).

In a sacrament talk last week the EQ presidents wife said home is the primary learning place of the gospel, sunday school, primary and RS/EQ is secondary. 
Invite these inactives to sacrament only. They might like that idea.

1. Not a letter but rather: a personal invitation to: Ward Activity, Book Club, Sister get together outside of church, etc.
2. Not a letter, but rather did: Did you know the Church has wonderful videos you can watch online, Bible videos, Mormon Messages, quick pick me up videos. Provide some links.
3. Simply share a story about 'you' personally. Something special in your life. Send a picture of you. Maybe one of you and your family. Hi 'this is me'.

Just a couple of thoughts. Good luck and thanks for serving.

If someone leaves the Church because you stood for what's right, that's totally on them so I'd call out every single one of 'em. It could be that other women are thinking the same thing but not speaking up but will once someone else does. If this happens enough, maybe these guys creeps will get the message. Furthermore, other decent guys might appreciate your guts/candor and might be interested because of it.
With that said - some options for responses:
- Let Church leaders do the talking for you. Find some quotes about dating before things are final and post them as needed.
- You could say something along the lines of: Not only am I not interested in being a rebound girl, we obviously have very different standards as I don't believe in cheating. If you want a decent woman, you need to be a decent man so I suggest you delete your profile asap and come back here only after the ink has been dry for at least 6 months AND you've made a comprehensive list of what *you* did/didn't do that led to your failed marriage AND have started making changes to prevent it from happening again. Bye!

To me, every talk should reference Christ so I would start with unity in the Godhead and then touch on unity in the ward family (support ea other in trials, callings, etc) and then end with unity in our own families. And no, it's not 'too late' for them - they can start to encourage forgiveness, family get-togethers, traditions, common interests, regular phone calls, etc. Maybe also bring up how our family members on the other side of the veil are united in helping us come unto Christ (this would circle back to the beginning of the talk and wrap it up nicely). Hope this helps and that your talk goes well.

To me, every talk should reference Christ so I would start with unity in the Godhead and then touch on unity in the ward family (support ea other in trials, callings, etc) and then end with unity in our own families. And no, it's not 'too late' for them - they can start to encourage forgiveness, family get-togethers, traditions, common interests, regular phone calls, etc. Maybe also bring up how our family members on the other side of the veil are united in helping us come unto Christ (this would circle back to the beginning of the talk and wrap it up nicely). Hope this helps and that your talk goes well.

Oh, one other thing to keep in mind is that 'silence indicates acceptance'.

To my mind, there are worse things that could happen than for a predator like that to voluntarily withdraw from the community from which he selects his victims.

I've done this in the past, but I'm seeing it so frequently that I feel the need to let them know it's NOT ok on an LDS dating site. People get 
"ghosted" for so many reasons these days that ghosting them does not send any message.

Be brutal.  Examples:
”In thirty words or less—what does ‘THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT ADULTERY” mean to you?”
”In thirty words or less—what does “I’M NOT THAT KIND OF GIRL” mean to you?”
”Do you actually wait until you’re bored with your wife before you start cheating; or do you commit adultery even when you think your marriage is going well?”

- This guy obviously doesn't know about/understand *personal revelation*. I know of people who had their older kid/s vaccinated and saw the result so then prayed about whether or not to vaccinate their younger kid/s and got the answer not to.

- If people decide that anyone living in a house with a gun is a danger to society and if you have one (or more), you have to turn it in before your kid/s can go to school, what would you say about that? (don't have to answer, just putting it out there)
- How important is liberty? "Now they never had fought, yet they did not fear death; and they did think more upon the liberty of their fathers than they did upon their lives" Alma 56:47
 


 

Chiming in again because a couple more things came to mind (and your response confirms the need to share this). 
- You need to adjust your expectations. He's shown you what his strengths are (and what they're not) so expecting something else will only lead to frustration and disappointment.
- Gratitude! Think it and share it - this will help shift your focus.
- Happiness is a *choice*.

"What you feed, grows". If you keep focusing on your discontent, guess what will happen? Aside from reading the book suggested above (check your library), also read "It's Just My Nature" by Carol Tuttle. You may also want to consider:
- for gifts, set up an amazon cart or something and he can choose from that
- sit down with him and come up with dates you would enjoy, then you make it happen (it's time to throw out 'the guy should set it up' idea - it's not working in your relationship)
- google 'get to know you questions' and fill them out so he can know you better (focus on the solution - not everything needs to be complicated or his job - make it easy for him)
That's it for now but I'll chime back in if more comes to mind. Hope this helps and welcome to the forum.

Have both of you read the book "The 5 love languages"?  If not, that would be a good thing to do.

First, welcome! What comes to my mind:
- delegate! Who else can help with the remodel? Wedding plans? Moving preps?
- ask your ministering sisters to help - it could be a fun project for them
- simplify!
- to help with deciding what to pack/discard - check your library for "Spark Joy" or "Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up" both by Marie Kondo (they're quick reads)
- take one day at a time
- focus on what you want, not what you don't (post reminders on your mirror: "I've got this", "I'm a great step-mom", "I'll always have the money I need", "I enjoy eating what's best for my body"...)
Congrats on the wedding! Wishing you all the best!

First, welcome! What comes to my mind:
- delegate! Who else can help with the remodel? Wedding plans? Moving preps?
- ask your ministering sisters to help - it could be a fun project for them
- simplify!
- to help with deciding what to pack/discard - check your library for "Spark Joy" or "Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up" both by Marie Kondo (they're quick reads)
- take one day at a time
- focus on what you want, not what you don't (post reminders on your mirror: "I've got this", "I'm a great step-mom", "I'll always have the money I need", "I enjoy eating what's best for my body"...)
Congrats on the wedding! Wishing you all the best!

Thank you for taking the time to respond in such a kind way!! I do believe that there is some jealousy on her part. My sister likes to compare herself with others. She has told me in an irritated manner of the compliments that people have made behind my back. Our family is also financially more successful than hers even with both of them working.
I don't understand why she feels the need to feel jealous since she has many qualities that I don't have. E.g she is very eloquent and give some great talks. She's an extrovert and make friends easily. I am an introvert, take time to warm up to people before making friends. I have forgiven her a lot over the years over some of the way she has mistreated me, but at some point I feel tired of being treated like a child.
It is very likely that she harbors grudges over the fact that I have called her out a few times. When I sent the message "haters gonna be haters", I was trying to help my sister and brother-in-law understand that I know that they are reacting this way because of previous incidents where they got upset at me. If it was anyone else who had made the video, I know that they wouldn't have reacted this way.
I will definitely go to the temple and ask my heavenly father for forgiveness for not handling the matter in the most christlike way. Overtime, my hope is that she will see that her relationship with others is more important than overreacting and making herself the victim. Thank you again!