Airing my dirty laundry (a rant)

[Jamie123]

Actually now I've got the rant out I feel better - even though no one's read it. I deleted it as it wasn't very charitable about a certain person (who has admittedly given me a lot of grief).

Sorry for the non-topic. I'll add an Adrian Plass quote instead. He's talking about how he shared his cheese and pickle sandwiches despite the fact that he wanted them all for himself:

"Life is mainly a choice between what you don't want and what you really don't want. I didn't want to share my cheese and pickle, but I really didn't want to be a follower of Jesus who didn't share his cheese and pickle. Every day you get these choices, like little tiny Gethsemanes, and the decisions you make are crucially important."

Edited May 14, 2023 by Jamie123

[Vort]

D'oh. I need to be on guard 24/7 for Jamie's stealth posts.

[Carborendum]

4 hours ago, Jamie123 said:

cheese and pickle.

This must be a British thing.  Kinda like my kim chee and chocolate combo.   

[NeuroTypical]

@Jamie123, hope you're doing ok.  There can be power in writing letters that are never sent.  There can also be power in using your voice, reading the letter out loud, even to an empty room.  

Not sure what's going on, so maybe that advice isn't helpful.  But there you go anyway.

[SilentOne]

I've made myself cheese and pickle sandwiches before. But I guess it could just be my British heritage expressing itself.

[SilentOne]

I was just reminded that what i call a pickle is known as a gherkin in England, so maybe I haven't ever had cheese and pickle sandwiches.

[Carborendum]

18 hours ago, NeuroTypical said:

There can be power in writing letters that are never sent.

As I heard it, Abraham Lincoln used this method quite often.  It would get things off his chest, and allow for the ideas to be expressed in a more logical manner.  And in the end, he often felt like after he had done so, his reasons for being upset didn't seem so important anymore.

I wonder if that is why social media tends to bring out the worst in people.  Because it is to "nameless masses" we tend to think of people online as "not real people".  And with the therapeutic tendencies of getting things off our chest, it feels good to do so.

But when even writing it down on a computer becomes suspect, to whom do we vent?   The difference is only which button we press at the end (delete or send).

Edited May 15, 2023 by Carborendum

[zil2]

2 hours ago, Carborendum said:

As I heard it, ...

This is one of the reasons keeping a journal is a good thing - it goes in there to die rather than out into the world to kill (figuratively).

The problem with social media is that it's too fast.  Nothing slows you down long enough to think.  With handwriting, you have to slow down.  This gives you time to think.  (Some people complain that they can't write as quickly as they think - that's the benefit - slowing thought so that you can really think about what you're writing - rather than speeding writing so you can record your thoughtless spewing of words.)

Just yesterday (I think, maybe Saturday), I saw a Jordan Peterson video where he suggested there should be a "cost" to posting on social media, even if the cost was that you have to wait 5 seconds and confirm that you really want to post.  I don't think that particular cost would help much, but yeah, that's the issue - there's no cost, nothing to encourage clear thinking, and nothing to discourage thoughtless spewing.

Edited May 15, 2023 by zil2

[Traveler]

On 5/14/2023 at 7:52 AM, Jamie123 said:

Actually now I've got the rant out I feel better - even though no one's read it. I deleted it as it wasn't very charitable about a certain person (who has admittedly given me a lot of grief).

Sorry for the non-topic. I'll add an Adrian Plass quote instead. He's talking about how he shared his cheese and pickle sandwiches despite the fact that he wanted them all for himself:

"Life is mainly a choice between what you don't want and what you really don't want. I didn't want to share my cheese and pickle, but I really didn't want to be a follower of Jesus who didn't share his cheese and pickle. Every day you get these choices, like little tiny Gethsemanes, and the decisions you make are crucially important."

I think you have it wrong – it is the cheese and rice that you must partake of yourself.  Anyway that is what I think --- Hmmmm maybe my AI voce to text wrote it down wrong.  

 

The Traveler

[mikbone]

Some of us are interested in the story.

Let it out.

[LDSGator]

3 minutes ago, mikbone said:

Some of us are interested in the story

Some? All of us love juicy gossip bro. You should hear what @mirkwood got caught doing. 

[mikbone]

5 minutes ago, LDSGator said:

ome? All of us love juicy gossip bro. You should hear what @mirkwood got caught doing. 

Do tell?!

[LDSGator]

6 minutes ago, mikbone said:

Do tell?!

He was caught listening to this: 

nuff said. 

 

[mirkwood]

The part of the story @LDSGator is leaving out was he said, "let me sync your earbuds to my iPhone and you can listen to my cool playlist too."  My ears still hurt.

[askandanswer]

12 hours ago, mirkwood said:

The part of the story @LDSGator is leaving out was he said, "let me sync your earbuds to my iPhone and you can listen to my cool playlist too."  My ears still hurt.

In the pic isn't that @LDSGatoron the left dressed in drag and wearing a wig?

[mirkwood]

1 hour ago, askandanswer said:

In the pic isn't that @LDSGatoron the left dressed in drag and wearing a wig?

No, @LDSGator is blond (see other female.)

[LDSGator]

3 minutes ago, mirkwood said:

No, @LDSGator is blond (see other female.)

At least I still have my hair!