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You may be confusing forgiveness with tolerance. You need to recognize him as an imperfect child of God whom you are required to forgive. But the middle of an abusive situation is a hard place to forgive from. You know how to forgive him, but you are in a bad spot right now.

That's some pretty evil stuff, if you ask me.Yeah. Evil. I said it.

Here's the 6 page pamphlet the CDC just issued to U.S. medical facilities and personnel.

Your husband is definitely abusive, and has already been said, forgiveness is not acceptance for what he has done or is doing. You do not need to accept his abuse. However, exactly what physical steps to take will be your decision. At the very least, as he is giving such abuse I would leave. This will show him that you do not accept what he is giving you and will not allow him to keep attacking. Now apart from that, no matter how you move forward, I believe you will be a happier person if you can learn to turn this over to God and drop your attachment to it. If you stay, no doubt this will be an on going effort as he throws verbal barbs and you must learn to not let them stick. If you do not forgive, you in some sense allow his words to harm you either by holding on to them so you can build up anger, or believing them and internalizing your pain. Neither is healthy. The first step is to pray for him, which you have started. As Jesus said, "Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven". Ask Heavenly Father to change his heart. When anger or sadness start to enter in because of his words don't fight back or internalize. Instead turn to God. Use all that feeling and that hurt and pray that God will soften his heart. Then pray that he will strengthen you to be able to withstand the attacks and see him as God does. Over time you will change and he may also if you pray in sincerity. I have seen it happen in my own life. If you stay with him, and when the Lord begins to change your heart, start to do kind things for him. They do not need to be large but they should be sincere. By doing this you will be returning his anger with kindness. Over, and over, day after day, year after year. This is the process. No doubt you are already a good person, but if you can do these things you will grow. I cannot imagine what a beautiful person you will become. Full of love, slow to anger, resilient, humble. I wish the Lord's blessings upon you in this difficult journey.

Seriously. Why are you still married to a guy who has told you he plans on abusing you forever?

perhaps or perhaps not- it depends on the person. the fact that backroads is pondering that it was something more than mere coincidence would lend credence to me that there might be a more to it than absolute coincidence. (that and we are to acknowldege God's hand in all things, and i believe God tries to communicate to us throgh means that we'd accept and would most likely motivate us to act). whil not being a seer, i could guess that it could mean a couple things- go to the temple, cut back on the caffiene and or artificial sugar (new research just came out that heavily suggest that artificial sugars have a big hand in causing certain types of diabetes), or perhaps something else in your life that I am not aware of. If i was in Backroads shoes I'd be taking it as a sign to do more to be temple worthy and probably having to cut back on caffiene. If in the end this causes you to be more righteous then i would def say it was the work of God. Might i share a part of a new convert's experience- he had recently recieved the book of mormon from the missionaries and had kept it in his briefcase that he took with him in all his business. One time coming home it had been raining and somehow his csae came open and dumped the contents out on the sidewalk and in a large puddle. according to him and his wife the Book of mormon was the first thing out of the case and ended up splayed faced down in the puddlewith everything else on top of it and around it, and that when they got to thte book of mormon and pulled it out, it was both clean and completely dry and everything else was soaked and muddy. The convert came from a catholic background, and his wife was a practicing Catholic both of them took it as a sign and were really amazed by it more so his wife.

all the sex and violence.

probably the more concern for me is having this happen simultaneously with the ISIS and iraq fronts.

I'm thinking it means you need to keep your recommend in your wallet. Or it means that they should use colored paper to print the recommends. Or it means you don't have enough stuff in your purse.

C is not like Java. Java you have one set of source code which when compiled into bytecode will run on anything that can run the JVM. With C and it's variants, you will have to have port it to each OS, as each OS will have different libraries you have to access. The the same code will sometimes do different things on each OS as well, optimizing the code will be different for each os and etc... If they decide on a rewrite to C (I understand some of the console ports are written in it) I have my doubts that anyone at Microsoft, or Mojang for that matter, is going to burst a vein keeping their code easy to port to Linux, or doing any porting to Linux. It being crossplatform was just a side effect of being written in Java in the first place.

Somewhat related, I never tell a girlfriend anything that I'm not comfortable with her passing on to her husband. I may not have as close a relationship with him as I do with her, but I will never ask her to keep anything from her husband. I have a friend who has asked that of me once or twice, and I was really uncomfortable with it. I trust that my friends aren't going to go blabbing the details of our conversations to their husbands, but when I decide to share something, I decide that I'm okay sharing it with both my friend and her husband.

I wear that title proudly!

That if you have an opportunity to commit adultery and then murder to cover it up that you might want to pass on it.

Thank you all for your replies. The farewell talk went great! :)

Former pre-Vatican II Catholic here. I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to make the Sign of the Cross or how many times I've wished for a kneeler in the Celestial Room so I could kneel in contemplation of both the issues I've brought to the temple and my experience in the temple. I'm finding a fair amount of LDS intellectual thought. Right now (yes, still) I'm reading Hardy's 'Understanding the Book of Mormon.' Not for those who don't like to think. I've also enjoyed 'Joseph Smith, Jr.: Reappraisals after Two Centuries.' I'll admit looking at some Catholic stuff every now and then. The woman who founded the nuns who taught me in prep school was canonized a few years ago. That's fantastic to me, so I look at her stuff (and the order) on occasion. I still have a warm place in my heart for the Virgin Mary, in terms of the whole mother thing. I will play old hymns on YouTube, but I play MoTab as well. Catholicism was a huge part of my life for a long time. It gave me a wonderful education. It made me not be afraid of hard work (actually, to almost seek it out). That said, thankfully, I was not able to con my parents into letting me go into the convent in high school. : ) I think it's OK if you miss some of your Catholic rituals and behaviors (oh, those plain LDS chapels!). It was a big part of who you were before you converted. Plus, I don't see what's wrong with reading what the popes have written, same thing as reading works by the Dalai Lama or Thích Nhất Hạnh; we can learn from many worthy people.

The temples are a "whole 'nother world" compare to our weekly sacrament services. You've probably noticed that Church policy doesn't even allow a picture of the Savior in the chapel. In the exterior hallways, foyers, etc., you'll find artwork with him in it, but never in the chapel. The symbol of Christ there is the sacrament. Our meetinghouses are pretty plain. Then you go to the temple. If you haven't been endowed yet, visit a temple that has a visitor's center and take a tour of the grounds. When I was a new convert, I toured the Washington, D.C. temple grounds with a guide who described the architectural details. It was amazingly rich in symbolism. For example, each of the six pointy spires is slighly different in height and they represent the offices of the priesthood. The doors have bronze seals on them that represent different dispensations. The temple is oriented based on celestial north, not magnetic north, indicating that our personal orientation is celestial, not earthly. Most temples have a "Moroni" on top, but very few members ever ask why that's the case. In Jewish tradition, the Feast of Trumpets represents the call to repentance. It precedes the Day of Atonement (judgment) and the Feast of Tabernacles, when God's presence returns to his people. The day that Moroni gave Joseph Smith the plates in 1827 to begin the translation was the Feast of Trumpets in that year. Moroni symbolizes God's call to the world to repent and accept the Restoration. Obviously we can't discuss the temple ordinances, but they are also symbolic. The use of repetition in the temple is God's own pedagogy that assists individuals in memorizing over two hours worth of information and instruction. It's beautiful and fulfilling. Yes, the temple is where the OP needs to go to find the ritual richness he is longing for!

I understand, I have been a member for 36 years. I am a cultural Baptist, but a doctrinal Mormon. Three months ago I buried my mother. She was 81. I spoke at her funeral, the pulpit in which I had began we sang hymns that I remembered with great fondness, and it was like being young again. To love your new faith does not mean you must hate your old faith. :)

I wonder where all my wondering will get me and us?

Where oh where oh where is Suzie....where oh where oh where is Suzie.....where oh where oh where is Suzie......way down yonder in the paw paw patch......ooopppssss. I couldn't resist. Lol!!!

Gramps just answered a question regarding this yesterday. http://askgramps.org/29425/lives-predetermined-foreordained-lord