B.cole2

Ditching institute/YSA for family wards, bad idea?

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Hi yall, I'm 18, turning 19 soon. Got my first 2 semesters in the institute/YSA , while I have some cool friends and people there, I'm not really looking into dating anyone right now really. 

I wonder if anyone here had decided to go back to their family wards. 

Is it awkward? Will I get nagged every Sunday to return to institute/YSA?

Thank you!!

 

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14 hours ago, B.cole2 said:

Hi yall, I'm 18, turning 19 soon. Got my first 2 semesters in the institute/YSA , while I have some cool friends and people there, I'm not really looking into dating anyone right now really. 

I wonder if anyone here had decided to go back to their family wards. 

Is it awkward? Will I get nagged every Sunday to return to institute/YSA?

Thank you!!

 

Hi @B.cole2. I don't know if you're sharing the same account as mother/daughter, but it would be a lot easier to keep track of your online persona, questions, challenges, advice, etc, if the 2 of you used different accounts. At 18, I think you're old enough to handle your own email address and ThirdHour account.

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1 hour ago, B.cole2 said:

Hi yall, I'm 18, turning 19 soon. Got my first 2 semesters in the institute/YSA , while I have some cool friends and people there, I'm not really looking into dating anyone right now really. 

I wonder if anyone here had decided to go back to their family wards. 

Is it awkward? Will I get nagged every Sunday to return to institute/YSA?

Thank you!!

 

I imagine it all depends on a variety of factors such as your proximity to a YSA ward, local leadership, your local membership dynamic and so on. I stayed in the family ward until I went on my mission and returned to continue going to family ward for an additional 2 years post mission. The nearest singles ward was an hour drive and I preferred a five minute walk to church. There were still other eligible singles in my ward too. However, I did ultimately end up meeting my wife in a singles ward and she lived in a city (about an hour driving the speed limit away) and they were strongly encouraged to go to the YSA wards. As for me, my family ward was happy to put me to work in various callings and never hinted at the idea I should be anywhere else. I ultimately decided to go to YSA because my youngest sister really wanted to go, but didn't have a ride, so I took the opportunity to drive her in to the next city. The next thing I knew I had a carload of girls wanting to ride to YSA with my sister and I and then I was assigned to home teach most of them simply due to proximity. In any event, I only felt very supported in my decision to be at family ward or singles ward, the only thing that would have been frowned upon is if I had been jumping from ward to ward. As long as I was consistent, which I was, leadership was happy and no one else ever said a thing.

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I went to a YSA ward a couple times after high school graduation. I didn't really like it. I preferred the age variety of a family ward--learning from the experience of the older ladies in Relief Society as well as the bright, young testimonies of the primary-aged kids. I stayed in my family ward. No one ever pestered me about going to the YSA ward that i can recall. It didn't feel awkward to me, but I was a bit of an odd duck. I never gave much thought to what anyone else thought of my choice. I think family wards are very benefited when young single adults chose to stay. I had a calling as primary pianist.

I think it just depends on what you're looking for and where you do your best learning. I have lots of family and friends who love their YSA ward and benefit greatly from meeting and serving with people their own age.

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My life would have been much poorer without the opportunity to make friends with young married women, and loser sisters. Attending a family ward allowed me to see positive examples of married life. Also as a teenager, I had seen many positive male role models. The ability to see men treating their wives well was invaluable. 

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15 hours ago, B.cole2 said:

Hi yall, I'm 18, turning 19 soon. Got my first 2 semesters in the institute/YSA , while I have some cool friends and people there, I'm not really looking into dating anyone right now really. 

I wonder if anyone here had decided to go back to their family wards. 

Is it awkward? Will I get nagged every Sunday to return to institute/YSA?

Thank you!!

 

(I forgot to actually answer the question!)

Which type of ward you go to is completely up to you.  Do what works best.  My sister LOVED the local ysa ward and found it to be a ton of fun.  I hated it-- church just wasn't church without screaming babies in the middle of Sacrament meeting.  So I went to family wards to listen to that music, no one ever bugged me about it. 

You can choose not to date and attend a YSA ward, and you can choose to actively date being involved in a family ward.  Do what works best for you.  

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16 hours ago, B.cole2 said:

Yes, good catch... we are sharing an account together. 

Please set up your own. I was about to alert the admins that there was a troll who couldn't keep their story straight. 🤭
Welcome, btw.

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As the admin of this site, I would prefer you each have your own account.  In fact, I insist upon it. 

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35 minutes ago, B.cole2 said:

Ok. this is the mother: she'll make one for her own.. everybody can rest in peace now.. lol

Oh thank goodness, my anxiety level was shooting through the roof ;)

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22 hours ago, B.cole2 said:

Hi yall, I'm 18, turning 19 soon. Got my first 2 semesters in the institute/YSA , while I have some cool friends and people there, I'm not really looking into dating anyone right now really. 

I wonder if anyone here had decided to go back to their family wards. 

Is it awkward? Will I get nagged every Sunday to return to institute/YSA?

Thank you!!

 

Definitely stay in the YSA. You may or may not get nagged, but YSA and institute are made to help young adults grow in the gospel and offers real growth and opportunities to serve. 

You have experiences and strengths that are best served around those your age.

Going to a family ward as a YSA you will likely be out in primary and become stagnet there for a LONG time.

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Is there some reason you couldn't go to the family ward and institute?

Thinking back, I didn't really do much dating during my time in institute and singles wards.

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23 hours ago, SilentOne said:

Is there some reason you couldn't go to the family ward and institute?

Thinking back, I didn't really do much dating during my time in institute and singles wards.

Yes. A person can still take institute classes if they are attending a family ward. That's what I did.

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47 minutes ago, Connie said:

Yes. A person can still take institute classes if they are attending a family ward. That's what I did.

Same here.  You can also attend a family ward Sunday morning and go to any/all midweek YSA things.  It's really whatever combo of things you want to do.

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On 4/3/2019 at 6:18 PM, B.cole2 said:

Ok. this is the mother: she'll make one for her own.. everybody can rest in peace now.. lol

I'm not ready to rest in peace yet.  I have too much still to do in this life.  :P   

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