TIM0THY Posted August 20, 2018 Report Share Posted August 20, 2018 This came to light when my wife asked him if he had been able to renew his temple recommend after church and he told her that he hadn't. She then asked him why he hadn't and he explained to he that he had confessed to our bishop that he had been molesting our 7-year-old daughter. My wife revealed this information to me later this evening. This has been devastating. I feel like a failure as a father for failing to protect my daughter and for failing to teach my son how to control his urges. I'm also unbelievably angry at my son right now. I'm also confused as to why our bishop didn't see the need to inform us of what our son told him in the temple recommend interview. On top of these concerns I'm worried about what this will do to my marriage. I believe that I have a legal and social obligation to report my son to the authorities. But at the merest hint of this my wife went into hyper-protective mode- she's convinced that we can handle this on our own and that we have no obligation to inform anyone. She then proceeded to tell me about how she endured this kind of abuse at the hands of cousins and even her own brother, and since both she and her brother have "turned out fine" our children will as well. I remain unconvinced of this and I'm feeling torn between loyalty to my wife and fulfilling my obligation to society and to my daughter to report my son to the authorities as a sexual predator. My wife's interim solution is to keep my son under constant surveillance. Clearly this is not a long-term solution, and while she admits as much this does nothing to assuage my fear that my daughter and he sisters will not suffer additional abuse at the hands of our son. So I've come here to see if anyone can help me sort through this mess. What are my legal obligations in this situation? What repercussions will I potentially face if choose not to report my son? How do I balance my legal responsibilities with my responsibilities to my wife and my son? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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