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On 7/6/2018 at 4:54 PM, Lee said:
I think we are active in the gospel I live by the standards and use the gospel to guide me. I use my priesthood a good amount and that is my favourite part of being LDS. I don't do all the detailed things I should but that doesn't mean I am inactive.
Your splitting hairs, if your lying to your Bishop your not living the gospel standards, if your not accepting callings and serving your fellow man your not living gospel standards, if your not regularly attending your meetings to participate in the sacrament your not living the gospel standards.
Sure things could be much worse, you exercise your priesthood, and have a testimony but they could be better.
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On 7/6/2018 at 5:11 PM, MormonGator said:
Just hang in there bud. Take it at your own pace.
This is great advice, peaks and valleys most members go through this....eventually a leveling off occurs.
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On 7/4/2018 at 4:15 PM, Lee said:
My wife and I were talking and she told me that we need to be more active now because she thinks that once the baby is born she can see us becoming inactive. I tried to claim I was very active but my wife pointed out lots of things that made me realise we may not be doing too good spiritually. Do you think these are signs of becoming inactive:
- We haven't paid a full tithe since being married
- We never wear our garments except to church and to the temple
- We haven't been to the temple in 5 years except for 2 family weddings and we live 30 minutes away from one
- I deny every calling I am given (my wife doesn't but she doesn't enjoy them)
- I never bother to watch general conference
- I still haven't heard a single thing Prophet Nelson has said since becoming the Prophet
- We have attended one ward event in the last 2 years
- We have never had a family home evening since being married
- We only attend church on alternate weeks now (due to circumstances out of our control)
- When I attend church I often skip out after the sacrament meeting
But I still feel like I have a desire for the gospel and we haven't broken the word of wisdom intentionally during our marriage. So I don't think we are at risk of becoming inactive because we want to keep our covenants. Do you have any advice on how we can make sure we stay active?
Bad news @Lee Your inactive.
This does not mean that you don't have a testimony, or feel close to Christ or live in a manner becoming a member of the church you're just not an active participant in the gospel. How can you be when you don't accept callings, pay your tithing, lie to your bishop, etc. etc.
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14 hours ago, CACO12 said:
Hello! After receiving my mission call I made a terrible mistake and engaged in unchaste relations with my girlfriend. I approached my bishop to speak to him about it and then met with my Stake President who ultimately concluded that I would not serve at that time and would wait a year to be able to fully repent before going on my mission. Years later it is troubling me weather or not it is visible on my church records. I was not disfellowshipped or anything. Would my current leadership be able to see that my mission call was postponed for a year and for the reason? Would there be an annotation on my record?
You have nothing to worry about.
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Just now, NeuroTypical said:
Key learnings:
- Go to public college.
- Don't do private loans.
- Don't fall for the statistic that says poor people are undisciplined fools. If you qualify for a pell grant, know truths about money and borrowing.Other learnings:
- Work your rear end off to not go into debt, and it's totally possible.The most eye opening and number one reason to save to put your kid through school is that on average 76% graduate with debt.
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On 7/3/2018 at 11:38 AM, anatess2 said:
My husband graduated with a Bachelor's degree at the University by working full-time at $35K/yr and taking 12 credits a semester. No debt.
Exception not the norm, but thanks for pointing out the exception again.
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3 hours ago, MarginOfError said:
In this case, speaking with the Elders Quorum President or Relief Society President (depending on your gender) would also be acceptable. If either of them suspect your path of repentance requires the involvement of the bishop, they will refer you to him.
There is no path to repentance....he has nothing to repent for
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2 hours ago, Vort said:
About how he's feeling and the guilt he's experiencing. The bishop holds the keys of leadership. He is the perfect person to talk to. Whether the OP "has to" talk with the bishop is irrelevant. It's appropriate, and it's a good idea.
Your missing my point the OP should feel no guilt. There is no sin. What sins transpired in the past washed away with his baptism. Like most people he just needs to get out of his own head.
OP your Bishop is a busy man, I am sure that he would love to meet with you and discuss anything you want, but you don't need to see him to resolve your feelings.
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Talk to his bishop about what?
@Tobin52 you have nothing to feel guilty about. Think about you lessons with the missionaries and think about what happened when you were baptised.
If you want a sounding board ok I guess you can talk to your bishop but you can talk to a friend in the church or the missionaries or anyone for that matter.
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Start saving now, average cost of 4yr university in state school is around 20k/yr.
So just a 4yr degree runs about 80k.
You can save, do a couple of years at community college, and live at home so maybe you can cut that in half.
The reality is that most kids aren't going to earn 40-80k working summer jobs.
Starting real life looking up at a mountain of debt is no way to go.
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46 minutes ago, mirkwood said:
I've been asked to speak this Sunday.
My topic: my feelings about the country.
No. Other. Guidance.
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Terrible topic, I have always been of the opinion that our sacrament meetings should be Christ centric. We are the church of JESUS CHRIST of latter day saints. When a stranger attends sacrament meeting they should hear about Jesus, not the 4th of july or family history.... we can discuss that stuff in Sunday School.
I would discuss Christ coming to the Americas and its importance in our religion or the forthcoming of the Book of Mormon and Christs role in laying that foundation.
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19 hours ago, vitaminwater120 said:
Random church member: "Did you serve a mission?"
Me: "No."
Them: "Are you leaving soon to serve a mission?"
Me: "No."
Them: *proceeds to look at me as if I have two heads*
Any advice on how to deal with conversations like this?
FYI, I converted to the church after the cut-off age for men to serve a mission so I have a legitimate reason for not serving.
Yes the conversations should go like this:
Random church member: "Did you serve a mission?"
Me: "No, I am a convert and I joined after the cut-off age for men"
Your one word responses lead them to ask the next question to which you respond with one word again. Then you have a problem with the questions? It is OK to string more than one or two words together when talking to someone.
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21 hours ago, anatess2 said:
A noble statement but irrelevant to the discussion. Marriage requires sacrifice whether one likes it or not. You can't sacrifice FOR your wife. She is required to sacrifice just as much as you do - and that sacrifice is not something you can take away from her (unless you plan on being a doormat). If she's willing to leave you alone in England because she can't sacrifice Costa Rica, we are left to wonder what else can she not sacrifice for your marriage? Will she run back to her parents at the first sign of marital trouble?
Like, I said... it's a red flag. But hey, I'm just some random girl on the internet.
I seldom agree with @anatess2 but she hit the nail on the head. Once you are married you are her family. Not her mommy or her daddy. If she is unwilling to be where her husband is you need to reevaluate your decision to marry because things only get harder.
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12 hours ago, Latter-Day Marriage said:
I don't consider either of them to unrepentant, so I don't see them as limiting anything to just unprecedented sins. How can somebody become as all knowing as God is without knowing everything? And if they know everything, they will know what your sins were just as God knows what they were.
I wasn't going to address it, but they are speaking about the unrepentant. I agree in a broad sort of way that Elder Oaks and Elder Faust are probably not unrepentant in a general sense, but I don't think anyone ever accused them of walking on water of raising the dead either. What I am saying is that we all have our little peccadilloes, yes even members of the 12.
Do you remember every sin you ever committed? not likely...
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12 hours ago, Latter-Day Marriage said:
The OP has repented of breaking the Law of Chasity yes, but her misleading her husband, by omission or by active lying, is not something she has repented of and she needs to address that. Repenting of that requires her to confess to him, ask his forgiveness, and make amends so they can reconcile. If she doesn't, if she takes the bad advise to hide it the rest of her life, it will be shouted from the housetops and he will know then when it is too late for her to do anything about it.
I am in mdfxbd's camp. I think you are misinterpreting what the brethren are saying, but no point in arguing that.
I don't think that it is bad ADVICE to not tell her husband because she didn't do anything wrong. If anything it is a lie of omission, and I think that if he asks she shouldn't lie to him, but certainly should not volunteer it. Volunteering the information out of the blue? Nothing good will come of it.
If at judgement day I am being judged on a lie of omission and that is my gravest sin.......I'll take it. Celestial Kingdom here I come!!!!
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16 hours ago, Overwatch said:
Does it burn you that I am displeased by the brethren taking so long to give the blacks equal rights?
Doesn't burn me, you can think that, but the brethren didn't give blacks equal rights.....God did.
16 hours ago, Overwatch said:Does it displease you that I do not advocate early age marriage?
Nope I don't advocate it either I think early age marriage is a mistake. I also don't think that the Brethren advocate it either
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19 hours ago, Overwatch said:
That is good to know that they don't care if they make some members uncomfortable. Then they shouldn't care if I walk out or pick my children up from primary if their teachers have visible tattoos. Not what I want for my babies.
How very christian of you
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23 hours ago, Maize said:
So I understand that my body is a temple and should be treated so, however, I am having a hard time accepting the overall LDS stance on tattoos. I know my body is a temple but there is engraving on the temple (many arguments against tattoos are that you don't see graffiti on the temple (I do not believe that tattoos are graffiti. I have recently gone through some very trying times and want a tattoo that says "and it came to pass". I am just having a hard time understanding why the church is against tattoos even if the tattoo is scripture.
(I do not want the tattoo as a reminder of these hard times but that there will always be hard times and that they will pass that I can get through anything)
The fact that you are trying to draw parallels to the temple tell me that you are trying to justify something that you know inside of you is wrong or incorrect.
Take a woodshop class and make a sign that says the same thing, hang it someplace you look everyday
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4 hours ago, Makia said:
After he left for work, I felt sick and said a few prayers myself. Did I tell him the right thing? How much detail needs to be shared with the Bishop?
Did he forget about the act with the animal or purposely leave it out? I think there is a distinction. If he purposely left it out then yes he should mention it. If he legitimately didn't remember I would say that it is covered under the umbrella of his repentance process.
As a porn addict since the age of 12 it would be impossible to tell "everything" so that's just nonsense. He couldn't possibly remember every moment of sin and every moment of self abuse. If he remembers something later does he have to go through the same process all over again....I don't think so.
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17 hours ago, Latter-Day Marriage said:
For a sinner, the point in going to their Bishop to repent of a serious transgression is to become clean from the stain of sin and to find healing for their soul. At the end when everything is revealed it can go one of two ways, a person has their sin revealed along with a lifetime of hiding it and not being repentant of it, or a person has their sin revealed as well as the pain of their regret and all they did to repent of it and change and become clean again. It will be a tragic story of person's fall and self destruction, or a glorious tale of a person's redemption.
I think you are misinterpreting the scripture that you hold to so dearly, or you don't understand the atonement.
I sin, I repent, I am clean, it is remembered no more otherwise what's the point?
17 hours ago, Latter-Day Marriage said:Now in this specific case, she has no need to go see the Bishop about it. Her sin is lying, deceiving, tricking, misleading etc her husband and whether it is by commission or omission doesn't make any difference. That is something she can repent of without going to the Bishop but there is no way she can repent of that without going to her husband and confessing it to him. She can't hide this and be cleansed of it and she will not have peace and emotional security in her marriage knowing that she is hiding a bomb that could go off any day.
How is this a bomb that could go off any day? unless she tells him, which she shouldn't.
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16 hours ago, JayKi said:
yes i sure we get married in 33 days and hopefully she will live with me for few month or week at least.
I wouldn't marry someone who was not committed to living with me. You need to really think about this.
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On 6/14/2018 at 7:25 AM, Lost Boy said:
The right thing to do is certainly not always the easy thing to do and sometimes it outright sucks to do the right thing.
My wife told me she was a virgin when we got married. Found out later when her blood work for her pregnancy showed markers for VD... Then she fessed up. It sucked. It hurt. But I still loved her and still do. It isn't something we talk about. That was a long time ago.
Problems, your wife started out with a lie a big one. This is vastly different from the OP who volunteered her lack of virginity. I am glad things have worked out for you.
Personally I don't see what people are getting so wound up about. So the OP made some mistakes once she repented it's over, forgotten. If her future husband asked about past sexual relationships she should be honest. In this case it sounds like she volunteered information. There was no lie unless you consider her not volunteering all information about past sins a lie. She had sexual relations with 2 people SO WHAT? what if it was 10? or 20? repentance is repentance.
Medically I can understand why he would ask or why she would volunteer information. Otherwise if they are worthy to be married in the temple it shouldn't matter.
Do you think this is acceptable to do with fiancee?
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Nonsense, if you can't speak freely now you need to postpone the wedding.