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  1. Hello everyone! My first post. I read the rules, so I hope this is all good in here! I have been dating a man for a little over three months. He is simply wonderful in every way. He came from a pretty bad environment, and has a hard past behind him thanks to circumstances caused by his family, yet came out a virtuous, honest, and loving man. He recently joined the church, and we have been attending together since. He's suprised me endlessly with his faith, loyalty, and dedication to both me and to God. After some intense prayer... I've found a strong inclination that this is the man I should marry. We've had a lot of discussion, ranging from our own personal preferences of media, hobby, and lifestyle to how we'd like to raise our kids and more personal matters such as personal relations (I am a born-in-the-church virgin, he is not, but I feel it's very important to discuss one's expectations with their potential spouse in an appropriate way so no one is blind sided by any sexual expecations or lack thereof). We match perfectly, and we get along so very well. So far, we have been doing great. I personally believe we have exceeded expecations thus far for control and respect of each other. He is, in all terms, absolutely perfect and patient with me. I had some issues as a young woman, due to a forced sexual encounter with a man who didn't respect my small sixteen year old self, that led to many years battling pornography and problems with depression and OCD. To this day I am a parasomniac, suffering from vivid nightmares and problems with "fall-asleep-everywhere" syndrome. Cars, floors, everywhere is a sleeping place. Luckily, my sweet boyfriend is respectful and caring when I have my "fits", and quietly holds on to me until I wake up. I couldn't ask for a more patient and loving potential spouse. The problem is, the wait... A year is a long time... it's how long we've got until he can get his endowments. And as someone who suffered from pornography years ago, I KNOW temptation is a strong thing. It's only a matter of time until it starts to try and creep. I've always been told to avoid long engagements for this reason. I also have an issue with the definitions of temple worthiness. I believe the temple is INCREDIBLY serious.... I fear if we wait until he can get his endowments, our minds won't be in the right place. Not that I see us not being worthy (I'm sure with enough incredible force, prayer, and mass fasting we could make it...) but I also don't want to rush. The temple sealing is an incredible commitment that even I as a lifelong member don't fully understand. I often don't feel worthy of such blessings, even though I haven't done anything wrong! I'm also concerned for his health... He is a type 1 diabetic, and I fear that if something happens to him in the next year, I won't be able to be sealed to him in any life... And just the thought breaks my heart... However, civil marriage brings it's own issues... My family, would, FREAK. They have always pushed the temple as the one-and-only, and they aren't wrong to do so. The importance of sealing ordinances and eternal families is BEYOND the importance of mortality. The year between our civil marriage, if we have one, would be a year of my family "rending their clothing" at the idea that I might never ever be sealed to them. While I'm personally not worried about his comittment (as the promise of an eternal loving family is really what caught him on the gospel in the first place), it might cause bitter ties in my family. They may even go so far as to wonder if we broke the laws of chasity. I've tried talking to the bishop... Actually, two bishops! My singles ward bishop is still green, new to the field. He gave rushed, textbook answers, not understanding that I have experienced powerful and spiritual feelings about this situation. I appreciate his love and compassion, but... He just didn't help. My old home ward bishop (the man who helped me through my youth) simply hasn't had a response. I texted him, since he's a bit far from me, and I suppose he just doesn't know what to make of the situation. We are urged not to delay the temple sealing, but some situations are just kinda wonky, like this. He told me he'd circle back when he could, but he is busy and may not know quite what to tell me! We also have some friends at the hobby store we met at who happen to also be LDS, who did the civil marriage and are waiting to be sealed... Everything seems well and good, kinda against everything I grew up being told about how temple marriages are THE ONLY WAY... It's starting to really chew on my poor boyfriend. I want to have this figured out before getting engaged. He is willing to fight for either way, and knows that God will give me the answers I need. But it hurts him to not be engaged, and he's very excited about the gospel and starting a life with me. And I admit, I'm excited too! So, what advice do you all have? A civil marriage would help us focus on the temple as a couple, get us going on our lives (and get him out of his horrible and less then kind parents' house), and also elliminate that long wait period that could cause risk for sexual temptations (as we are very attracted to each other... always have been for the year we've known each other, even before we were dating. We just have control and our respect and love outweight our lusts). But it could traumatize my family, and may spread negativity through my clan. A temple marriage would get us sealed right away, made to spend a wonderful eternity fighting reality and all that it brings together. My family would approve without a doubt. But it may be that doing so could be too rushed, without proper purpose and spirit in mind. It also puts the risk that if he gets very sick from his illness between now and then that we may never make it to that point (I'm not sure how likely or unlikely that situation is currently, and won't know until his next check-up in February. Last Check-up he had some kidney damage....). Not to mention the temptations a year-long engagement brings.... Any thoughts? Anyone here have a civil marriage first? Thanks everyone! Tl;dr. Civil or Temple?
  2. *First of all i don't know how to change the name of the thread, i realise it could have been worded better * I have wondered about this on someone elses behalf for a while. This is not my situation, but when i were asked i did not know how to answer it. She married a few years ago and her husband has three children. His ex wife is not an active part in the childrens life, other than rare visits in between months and contact via. email/skype/facebook. In effect of the mother of those three children not being there, she has become the motherly figure that takes care of them every day. It has been a struggle for her to adapt to this role of being in between, but as for taking care of the children and handling it, she has done a lot better than she gives herself credit. Anyhow, the question she asked me one day were about temple sealings. Their biological mother is not happy about the religion, and initially did not even want the children to attend church. They do attend every sunday now and has worked that out. Still she does not agree with the religion though and lives her life very differently, so it is doubtful that she would agree to anything with regards to sealings and such. Is it completely impossible for those three children, their father and their not biological mother to become sealed together? Also.. is it possible for two women in a situation like this to be sealed to children or would it have to just be one? Mind you not in a situation of polygamy, that is not something anyone here is interested in. If someone has thoughts on this they would be greatly appreciated.
  3. I been inactive for a while and now I am getting married to a Non-LDS member with two kids. I have been going to her church for the last year(her congregtion is about 20 people registered) She is moving to my state with her family and she is going to come to my church meetings and we agree that I will not force any memberhship on her and the kids. Now how would I explain this to the bishop and the missionaries? The kids are used to taking the sarcrement at the old church and how should I handle this with the ward? The kids has been to once lds meeting in their area and is excited to come to church but don't want to be members until they are ready. Any ideas and suggetions?
  4. I have been married for about four years. My wife and I have one child and another on the way. We have saved up money for a nice down payment on a house and are in the process of purchasing our first home. We're pretty excited, but when my grandparents found out, they hit the roof. My grandfather has been looking to start a business, but does not have the funds to get it going. When he learned of our down payment savings, he felt I should have invested that money with him, to help him (and my own parents) get the business going. My grandparents aren't exactly on the streets, but they are not in the best financial situation and were hoping this business would help them get somewhere. My grandmother apparently has been crying herself to sleep because she doesn't know where money to help them get going will come from and was hoping my wife and I would be helping start the business. My parents are also hurt by this. I would tell myself to just let it go, except I do come from a culture where generations are supposed to help each other, especially adult children helping parents. I have seen the business ideas, and I don't think it would work well. I want to provide a home for my wife and kids. I also come from a long line of people who are bad with money. I have taken classes since high school on managing my money and feel good about my money sense now. I hate the idea of dutifully giving thousands of dollars to my grandparents when I feel it will just go to waste. I suppose there is still time to back out of the home deal at mild risk if it really is best to help my grandparents. I also don't mind the idea of giving a few thousand dollars to them--but nothing near the size of my downpayment. We have savings left over after the down payment, but I don't want to give that up, either. Should I be helping my grandparents and parents with this? If not, how best to I diffuse everything? Things are tense with my family.
  5. A forum to share your love and appreciation for your fathers.
  6. Our ward is quite small, not in area, but in attendance (average of 80-90/Sunday). I'm a newly called EQP and my Bishop wants me to coordinate the logistics of getting 2-3 families together once a month for a combined FHE. This has been passed off by the SP. I'm at a loss... Though here are my thoughts so far (any others would be VERY helpful!) Pass around a list to see who is interested to participate (can't force), then identify who would be willing to Host the FHEs in their homes. Also, not everyone is available Monday nights (like my wife who works Swing Shift each weeknight), so I'd have people mark their availability on Sat, Sun and Mon for more flexibility. The assigned families would be asked to invite a LA/PM/NM family to attend. Each FHE would consist of a song, prayer, 10-min Lesson (taught by one of the Priests/Laurels/FTMs), then Activity and Treats. The activity and treats would be assigned by the Host family. Now the logistics of it all. Obviously there are cliques in all Wards, and some families simply will not associate with another. We also want to pair up the older families with the younger families as well. I don't want to be blamed for playing favorites or anything else like that, so I'm worried on how to assign families so it is fair/random. One of my counselors suggested pulling names from a hat. It's silly, but about the only way I can think of to do it at this point. So, there's where I'm at. Oh ya, and my Bishop wants to meet with me tonight to go over my plans. HELP!!! Thanks!
  7. Very "simple" problem. Have 4 crazy energetic children. Wife want's another. Youngest is 1 year. I'm done. I don't feel I can handle more. Moreover, I don't think she can handle more. I can't understand why she wants another when all she ever does is complain about the ones we have (they really are a handful and I don't blame her). We've talked about it off and on since our last was born. I really felt we were done and told her so. Eventually, I said we'd consider it later, when/if things mellowed out with our other children and if/when things got better in our marriage (having other issues that cause weekly fights). Anyways, we're struggling just to keep ourselves together and this topic came up again. I finally just said no, it's not going to happen. Now she's all a mess, tells me how selfish I am, how if I loved her I would not do this to her, etc. I know it sounds so selfish so her words really hurt. But I can't do something like this just to please her. I honestly feel like our marriage is so fragile that we couldn't handle yet another. I've even prayed to have God change my heart, but to no avail. What can I do? Do I just remain steadfast, and let her "morn?" She accuses me of being cold, emotionless, but really it hurts me to make her so sad. Have any of you had conflict with quantity of kids? How did you resolve it?
  8. I recently had the privilege to dedicate my home. It was a sacred experience and I blogged about it to encourage other single adults to build a Christ-centered living environment. Here’s an excerpt from my article posted on my blog: When Elder Richard G. Scott spoke last April about building a Christ-centered home, I was touched by his remarks and resolved to do my part to create such an environment. After pondering Elder Scott’s talk, I prayerfully considered how I could improve the living environment in my home. I felt impressed to dedicate my home, which meant giving it a special blessing to set it apart as a sacred place. In the same way that our chapels and temples are dedicated to set these buildings apart as a sacred place, the members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (also known as LDS or Mormon) have the opportunity to set apart their homes and invite the Lord’s blessings in their lives. As a single adult, I recognized that my situation was different from a traditional family. I was renting a modest home with two other Mormon roommates, but I still felt it was important to bless our home to invite the Lord’s presence more fully into our lives. Click here to read the full article!
  9. What does it mean to you to treat your girlfriend/partner/wife as a queen? I have heard the phrase several times, but I still do not understand it. Can you also please provide examples that happens in common everday life? I know the scripture refernces, but in real life it is hard for me to understand. I have been in two failed marriages and many dating relationships where the girls refuses to talk to me any more. For me, the word family has been related to insults and fighting. I have never had a stable,caring family as a youth so I really don't know what it means to be part of a family. Now I am in a realtionship where the girl loves me and her daughter adores me, and I want to make the relationship work. I am praying everyday to be strong, but I am lacking the true understanding of being a good boyfriend/partner and father.
  10. So it's been a while since I've posted here. Last time was over a year and a half ago and I have...thankfully...moved on to much better things in life. I do appreciate all the adivce I was given at that point. Now on to today's issue... I am engaged to be married to a wonderful man. I am also a graduate student, so until we are married I reside with my parents, as grad school and rent is expensive. I have mentioned to my fiance that I have been thinking about getting my ears pierced (I'm 28 and have never had it done) so that I could have the option of wearing earrings for our wedding. He has decided that is what my present is for Valentines Day...he's going to take me to get my ears pierced (though probably not tonight). I have no problems with this. The problem exists in my mother. I'm aware that I'm an adult and can make my own choices and all that stuff. I wanted my ears pierced as a little girl but when I asked my mom she always said no. She doesn't have hers pierced, my grandmother never had hers pierced, and so on. I mentioned it to her when I was about 22 and in college and she acted very disappointed. I know that it's been said over the pulpit that it's acceptable for women to have one set of piercings in their ears... but that doesn't seem to sit well with her either. So I guess my question is, what might be the best way to go about getting my ears pierced with minimal repercussions at home?I'd like my mom to be a large part of my wedding planning (since we are barely starting) and I'm afraid that this might make her upset or something. Advice? Sugestions? Sorry for rambling...
  11. I am sookmi. I am a lifelong member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I am married for 40 years to the same woman. We have had seven children, six girls and one boy. One daughter died at birth. We have 13 grandchildren, 9 boys and 4 girls, ranging in age from 1 to 16. I have served in many church callings small and large. I am currently without a permanent home, job and church calling. I do many things, I am mobile notary, Santa Claus, Income Tax Preparer, factory worker, courier and many other things. Most important I have and bear a firm testimony that Jesus is the Christ, the redeemer and savior of all creation. That by and through Him all things were and are created. That He has established His Church on the earth in these latter days which is the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. That the Church was established in these days by the Prophet Joseph Smith who also brought forth the Book of Mormon and many other things by and under the direction of Jesus Christ, The Messiah.
  12. Man, I'm so frustrated. What is it with girls now days? Most (not all) don't want big families! They want like 5 kids tops. That's not big. I'm talking like 10-12 kids. Do they not understand what multiply means? C'mon. It's just so frustrating trying to find a girl to marry when she wants only 2 kids. Any thoughts?
  13. I recently invited over my grandfather's brother, Uncle Doug for icecream cake to celebrate both my husband and my grandfather's birthday... This was on Facebook because he lives a state away but is currently nearby in their vacation home at the beach. No response except to put a post up on Harry Reid complaining about the tax hike and his Mormonism... I was a little shocked when I saw this Uncle Doug was recently diagnosed with bone cancer and told he has 18 months to live, he is a christian however, but my husband and our family are the only LDS members... the rest of my family are non believers or a mix of "yes we believe"... but don't go to any church. Its really sad that this could be one of the last opportunities we could have to get our families together, and he is refusing to even acknowledge my invite.
  14. ok here it is. first my mom never hits me. me and my bother got into a fight at mcdonalds we threw ketchup on each older im 15 he is 13. i got some ketchup on some woman clothes and my mom had to reinburst 45 dollars for the damage. my mom freak out on me told me i was a immature baby and my brother to in front of people in mcdonlads. Leaving mcdonalds she told us that she should get us some pacifers and some pampers and a playpen. people were looking at me. like she was right. she took away my x box and games and i pod i cant go out on weekends now. on the car ride home she is yelling at us telling us when she goes to wallmart she should buy us a cribs and rattles Can i turn her into CPS for abuse saying those things to me? isnt it slander or something saying lies about someone. saying i need pampers and making me look bad in public. just to scare her and For the record he started it my brother not me. its not fair now she is not going to let me take drivers ed in school. she told me that im to imature to drive that babies dont get to do grown up things. she saying all these mean things to me. I have a right to drive? cant they make her a better mom or something. this suxs so bad wut she did to me.
  15. With permission - wanted to share a poem from a friend of mine Yearning - A poem and a prayer I pray unto thee father the longing of my heart For one of thy pure daughters home and family here to start In my blessing thou hast said son find one worthy of thee yet oft the opposite I have asked grant one of whom I'm worthy In my singles ward there are thy daughters many fair yet when I prayed unto thee Lord thou said she is not there Where oh Lord bidst thou I seek I ask thee oft to show I can not find such on my own Oh Lord please let me know Impress upon my heart and mind When face to face I see A daughter holding within her soul the virtues you've put within me An equal to my heart and soul Who seeks to thee delight guide unto me Lord I pray let such find in me matched light I know that I'm not perfect though I seek to so become yet this I know assuredly it takes two to become one Man by his own can not obtain the highest lofty height Of thy kingdom heavenward in which I've placed my sight I'll love her with all of my soul And always faithful be I'll cleave unto her and her alone For all of time and all eternity One daughter fair I seek to find and in the temple wed eternally My worthiness to thee I've shown Please let me start a family As I close now this my prayer I send it to thee above In the name of my Savior dear Whose name is also love
  16. I love him still . with all my heart.he gave me no other choice. my heart broke into pieces asking him for a divorce. 18 years. i would of followed him to hell and back. he drank.he cheated on me emotionally with women he met on the Internet and skype. he passed out drunk at our daughters 8th birthday party(4yrs ago). we were always in debt. always lying abt money or borrowing it from family or friends. i dont think he ever payed tithing.Now that i am on my own i pay it regulary like clockwork. he took his best friends side when he defiled our home and our childs room. and i just found out his friend was looking at porn on our family computer in the middle of the day in the middle of our kitchen,my oldest son walked in on him.he wasnt always like this. something has changed him. he would come home,(his job has him moved away for now.)and just make me miserable, he was good sometimes tho, he never hit me or the kids, went to all the boys football games. we always had a roof over our heads. counseling was out of the question. we talked to our bishop a couple of times 3 yrs ago and he said he was all for counseling. but we never went. I know i did the right thing. but looking on these boards now i wonder if i didnt try hard enough. did i try everything? this is the man who i started my life with this is the man who gave me four beautiful children who cut their cords.who climbed into bed with me after my emergency csection and cried together because we didnt know if our baby was gona live. he was my best friend. he was my hero. and now that i have asked and we r in the process, 2 months ago. He has girlfriends, he visits and skypes and facebooks. as soon as i asked he was gone out the door.,.And i miss him. i miss my friend. i miss holding his hand.And he is angry and hates me. we cant be in the same house together. now i wonder reading this what the heck is wrong with me?but on the other hand he is my husband and i took vows infront of god to be with him for eternity. and i take my vows very seriously.He is not the same man. but i know that he is in there somewhere i know that he can be that man again. soo i just want some advice.Do i just let him go. do i fight for my family and marriage. I cannot make him change. and maybe he doesnt want to change. maybe he likes this new self. i was a good wife,I didnt cook all the time or put laundry away,i yelled at the kids. but i never once looked or thought of another person besides my husband . I am as loyal and faithful as they come. there are days when i just cry and then there are the days when i just cant beleive how blessed me and the kids are. its like we are living in this beautiful paradise and the only thing we are missing is him. I think how could anyone walk away from this, look at this home we have made. look at this family. who walks away from this without a fight?.. enough ranting. some advice please. thanks .
  17. My brother took his own life last Saturday. He and I are both members of the church. He had severe mental illness and my bishop showed me where it says that the Lord will look at this fact. Some people in my ward are telling me that feeing anger and grief right now is wrong because my brother is out of his misery. Others tell me that anger and sadness are normal and acceptable. Who is right? I do feel happy for my brother but I am also angry at him and I keep finding myself crying and then feeling guilty about crying. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. diane
  18. I just recently moved from Southern Utah to South East Idaho to become part of an Executive Team for a thriving company. Originally from Los Angeles, CA., I was fortunate to meet and fall in love with a wonderful girl whom I married. Laura and I have 3 amazing children who are a very big part of our lives. Over the last several years Laura and I have become even more deliberate about teaching our children who they are, who they can become and who God knows them to be. This is no small thing, as we are faced with many challenges from day-to-day which constantly fight against that which we know to be true. However, it is in how we choose to view these challenges that makes all of the difference in the world, for ourselves, our children and for those around us. I firmly believe that productive goals and ambitions are motivating and important in a person’s life and we as a family set them together. It is important to note that in order to set and reach any worthwhile endeavor we must first establish our pattern, a guide of principles that allows us to remain on course. One of my greatest passions is understanding and protecting principles of freedom and liberty. This is not only essential to individual growth and prosperity, but also vital in building any successful community however large or small. I have found through personal experience that adhering to principles, life is no longer left to chance. The Founding Fathers knew and understood these principles and a dear friend of mine and I have outlined them quite simply as The 12 Principles of Liberty. My wife and I continue to educate our children and those around us on these principles in how we live, continually striving each day to improve. As an avid reader and student of the Founding Fathers, I have come to love and appreciates the freedoms, liberties and opportunities that are available to all men and women. In addition to religious and civic responsibilities throughout my history, I have sought to cultivate a strong “Can Do, Will Do” attitude. I firmly hold to the belief that every individual is important and within them contain great achievement once their unique abilities are unlocked and developed. It is this philosophy and mindset that drives us as a family to stretch yet even further. The Lord has blessed me with specific talents and unique abilities which are undeniably creative in their nature. As an artist, designer, teacher, songwriter, and poet, it’s my life experiences I leverage which foster an environment for creative thinking and innovation. This affords the wonderful opportunity to connect with individuals from all walks of life for the sole purpose of lifting those around us over whom we have influence. I’ve been fortunate to accomplish many things in my life. But my greatest accomplishment was being smart enough to recognize that my future bride would change my life for the better, and now I just work to live worthy of the blessing she truly is. There is so much more I could say about my family and the incredible gift they are, and through my posts I am sure you will come to understand why I feel the way I do, but I hope this gives you a bit of insight into who I am. Joe Olivas __________________________________________________ Not generating enough leads? 50+ Leads/Day for YOUR Business! Free Weekly Training: Click Here
  19. What if you are the ONLY person in your family who is (edit: "active") LDS? As in nobody in your family is interested (parents, brothers, sisters, spouse)? Who could you possibly get sealed to? And since its not your fault that nobody else is interested, would God go easy on you in the afterlife? This is my situation, so I was just wondering. Everyone in my ward is trying to push me to move up in the church, and eventually go to the temple, but... They don't really understand that none of my family members or friends will ever be going. So I'm just wondering what I should say to them about that?
  20. hello!! im new to these forums, im not a Christian but would like to learn more about Mormon beliefs as it sounds really interesting :) I am also going to college soon, and I am a naturist. Naturism is not so well known where I live and I still have to tell my parents that I am a naturist!! I like playing the sport of cricket, i believe in GOD, i am a Jain ( a small religion) and I like to learn about different cultures, languages, countries, religions and faiths. I also LOVE travelling, and my whole family is bitten by the travel bug Cheers :)
  21. Hi all, It has been awhile I have been so busy with work and 2 grandpas living with us and our garden that I haven't written in awhile. Last Sunday my house burned down and luckily all made it out safely. My ward and community have been awesome I will write a blog about it. My question is has any of you faced family disaster and how did you cope and recover.? Mabey there are some good suggestions out there to help me and my family. I am so blessed with a great family and I was so lucky my son was on leave from Iraq. Anyway I look forward to hearing from you all.
  22. Just signed up and am now doing the whole intro thing. This looks like an excellent forum for sharing our interests and beliefs as they relate to the church and the gospel. I was "born into" the church. My parents became reactive again just about a year or two before I was born. They lived in Alaska at the time. I really wish I could remember that, we moved to Idaho when I was 5. Oh well, someday I hope to go back to Alaska and tour around. Since then I've lived in Idaho, Utah, and Nevada. I'm currently working on a PhD at Utah State University, which I hope to finish soon. I've been in school forever it seems. My wife and I have 5 wonderful children who keep us super busy. We love to see them learn and grow. It's great!! One of my passions is board/card game design. I love creating new ideas for board games, trying them out, refining them, and over and over again. Recently I have been focused on LDS/Mormon themed games. I think that games based on the gospel can provide a great teaching and learning opportunity, especially with children. Anyway, I find that there really aren't a whole lot available right now. So, I decided I'd like to help change that. I've got a blog where I talk about such things: Mormon Game Design. It's a lot of fun writing about these things and finding out what others think. I really enjoy it. I'd love to get a group together on here that are interested in games. Any way of connecting with others and sharing ideas, it's fantastic! So, there's the "what about me and who I am." Mike
  23. Do you think an LDS mother could be happy marrying and moving a distance away from her young adult children. The thought of not being close wrenches my heart. The prospect of having love and a good marriage is pretty enticing, but the compromise in location is hard to cope with. ...None of us would have much money for making very many trips back and forth. ...just wondering if anyone has had any similar experience or words of wisdom.
  24. My Brother married a woman that can be very mean sometimes, but then again so can my brother. Here is my problem. My Brother and his wife have 5 kids. Since the time they were born my husband and I have offered to babysit for them whenever they want and always for free. We love those kids with all our hearts and have loved spending time with them. We have also offered to help my brother and sister in law with what ever else they need help with. We know that the only reason they have called us or invited us to things is so that they would not feel guilty when they use our services and that is fine with us however over the years they came to expect us to be at their beck and call. Sometimes not even giving a thank you for things we have helped with. Well the last time they asked for some help finishing their basement I went to help them and spent two hours working on it. I then had to leave because I had some things I needed to do before the stores closed. Well my brother told my mom that I had come over and ONLY helped for 1 hour. I was very hurt by this. He should have been grateful that I showed up at all for one and for second...I spent 2 hours there trying to help him not 1. Well here is the thing. Over the years because we were babysitting for them a lot, they would invite us to the kids birthdays every year. Well now that the oldest is old enough to babysit the younger kids we don't get asked to babysit anymore and they have also stoped inviteing us to birthdays and no longer invite us over at all! This has hurt my husband and I to the core. We adore those kids and have tried very hard to be firends with my brother and sister in law and have always tried to do nice things for them and now they have just kicked us to the curb because they don't need us anymore. They do not call us at all. Please give me your sugestions on what I could do to fix this situation. By the brother and I are not very close. I am actualy closer to my sister in law than I am with my brother and my sister in law does not like me. Both of them do not really like me. They think I am weird and they also do not think that my husband and I are cool enough. Well heres the thing. I am not sure if this is the only reason but I have a feeling that the main reason they are no longer inviting us to birthdays and over for dinner or anything else is because My sister-in-law does not like that the kids love us so much. I get the feeling that she resents little things like that the kids will always come running to me and my husband first and then go over to her side of the family last or that the kids will mention us in their prayers but forget about her side of the family. I have gotten little hints here and there from her that these little things bother her. I don't know if this is the only reason why she no longer asks us over though. I know She does not like our side of the family at all. My husband and I are always very loveing and kind to the kids and very careful to say and do the right things around them and set a good example and what not. We are also very careful not to get in the parents way or undermine their authority. So I think the main issue is that she just doesn't like how close her kids are to us. So the problem do my husband and I continue to have a relationship with the kids if she doesn't want us to see them? It breaks my heart that she could be so unkind to us. After 12 years of free baby sitting and us being there for them for anything and everything. And she knows how much we care about them, and then to just dump us like a piece of trash.... I am at a loss. What should I do? By the way...My husband and I do not have any kids of our own, so yeah we do love these kids like they were our own.
  25. im working on a book for my family and the awesome temple stuff. And am finding everyone who comes from this awesome town fancy farm is very possiblly related to me. anyways if you know or you are mail me.....:)