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22. He's hungry (be hospitable)

I think MWS jumped the gun by promoting it so quickly. With the following they have, things should always be researched before putting something like this out to the masses.

I'm wondering if this might also fit with LDS bishops in some ways. Here are twenty things I believe are true about most pastors I know. I hope you will work together with your pastor for the good of the gospel! 1. He loves God and you a lot. (Be mindful.) 2. He is a painfully limited human being. (Be realistic.) 3. He probably has a pretty low view of his “performance”. (Be kind.) 4. He wishes he were a better preacher. (Be awake.) 5. He really does want God’s best for you and your family. (Be open-hearted.) 6. His work knows no time or locational boundaries. (Be patient.) 7. He hears much more negative information than positive. (Be encouraging.) 8. He has chosen a vocation in which few remain. (Be praying.) 9. He has chosen a highly leadership-intensive call. (Be lead-able.) 10. He needs help. (Be available.) 11. His God-given vision is bigger than himself and the church. (Be faith-filled.) 12. He wants to personally meet all the needs, but knows he can’t. (Be understanding.) 13. He’s going to say some dumb things every now and then. (Be forgiving.) 14. His family is patient with you, so be patient with them. (Be conscientious.) 15. He is greatly encouraged by your faithfulness. (Be there.) 16. He is passionate for God’s Word to be made practical to you. (Be hungry.) 17. He longs for church to be your spiritual oasis. (Be loving.) 18. He dreams for your and your family’s spiritual health. (Be receptive.) 19. He needs to hear that you prayed for him. (Be interceding.) 20. He’s just a regular guy. (Be real.) http://caryschmidt.com/2014/02/20-things-you-should-know-about-your-pastor/ M.

Not participating in the survey isn't going to make the results not come out. The best thing one can do, IMHO, is to make sure the orthodox wing of the Church is well-represented in its results--or, failing that, to answer in such a way as to confound the survey's managers (a black, Non-Mormon democrat female with a PhD in the humanities who thinks women should NEVER be ordained and that the Church will return to Jackson County in the next decade, for example. ) Vote early. Vote often!!

No, you would not need to confess for a one-off... Well, maybe if you enjoyed it... Seriously, you would be wasting the bishops time. If you have had a problem with that sort of thing in the past, then you clearly know the line that needs to be crossed. Did you go back for seconds? Did you sin further?

MWS isn't behind this. They thought a good idea until they found out who was behind it.

Most of the questions were fine, but I did feel the rest of them were "are you sure you don't have serious issues with the gender statuses? Are you sure? Wanna think about it some more?"

MusicHeart, I’m also married to a non-believer. I can offer some advice, Awesome!! Keep doing that. Admire the good qualities in him (like honesty, work ethics, he’s a good man, wonderful father, etc.). Love is how you will make it through this (and you will make it through). Something important to point out: your husband was open and honest with you about how he feels. That honesty and that bond is a very good thing (even if what he said was unpleasant news and it took him a while to get there). Fabulous!! Yes another good thing: he’s loves you and trusts you enough to lean on your judgment of child rearing, even though he’s questioning some things himself. You’re not alone!! You have the people here online, there are support groups, etc. Not to mention the Lord Himself. And you’ll actually be surprised how random people can be empathic and supportive, even though they might not have been in this exact spot themselves (or at least I was shocked at people’s abilities to show Christ-like love). Before this all happened, did you and your husband tell your children what you believe and what you think is right? Did you bring your most precious gems to the table to share with your children? If so, why should that change now? You (mom) tell them about what you love and believe in. Your husband does the same. Ok, so maybe a testimony of JS isn't among your husband's prized beliefs-- that’s ok, that's where his faith is now. He’s still a wonderful dad and can teach them the many other good things that make him such a great man. You sound like an amazingly brave person. I admire that and will keep you in my prayers. Keep it up: this can work, you WILL make it through. If your husband finds faith again, it’ll be all that much stronger. And if he doesn’t, you will be stronger still. Remember: God only put weak things in our life so that they can be made into strengths.

I took it, but I'm a man, so my answers won't count anyway. :)

One of the blessings of living the Word of Wisdom is that I don't spray coffee all over my screen when reading a post like this.

The sad thing is that so many people are willingly fighting to give up freedom, because they think that somehow by suppressing moral teachings they are increasing freedom to live a life of sin without judgment.

I'm thinking you don't have a pricing problem, but a "what to do with the money" problem. So set up your business as a not-for-profit corporation, intended to pour all profits into the charitable cause of your choice. Then go price things however the heck you want. If you wanna fail miserably at making profit, then your charitable cause will suffer. If you make profit, then hooray for your charitable cause.

21. He's heard it all before. (Be brave.)

This survey is ridiculous! They setup the questions trying to try and force you between their thoughts of how things should be and their view of how things operate in the Church. If they want to see how women operate in the Church they should attend our Ward Council and see how much input the wonderful sisters in our ward give and how much they shape what takes place in our Ward. Even a lot of the time we spend in our Bishopric meetings is dedicated to issues that sisters have brought to the forefront of the bishopric to help make our ward stronger!

Yeah basically. I picked up Chronicles of Prydain on Saturday.

One of the last good ones I watched was Black Robe. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black_Robe_%28film%29 Dances with Wolves was good as well, and I liked the authentic Lakota that was spoken in some parts of the movie. Both movies I watched synchronized on German TV (but with the original Indian languages in both movies), and Black Robe I watched on You Tube also in English. Here one of my favourite scenes: "I have still other greater things that I can teach you." And "Red Sun" with Charles Bronson, Alain Delon, and Toshiro Mifune. The German film title was "Rivalen unter roter Sonne". http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Red_Sun "I tell you what, we'll call it a draw."

One reason why I don't do religious surveys such as this.

"Are you sure of your selection?" "Really?" "You're really, really sure?" (Thinking of that Youtube video about Florida voting machines; but I just realized there's some salty language in there so I guess I ought not to link to it.)

Seeing the Bishop aside, what else are you doing to spiritually improve yourself after this?

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I'm not in your shoes but I found this group that might be helpful: https://www.facebook.com/groups/397658227006605/ Also, the way I see it since you were both on the same page going into marriage, he doesn't now get to complain to you about taking the kids, etc just because he's the one that's chosen a different path. You need support so I suggest you no longer delay reaching out to family/ward members. All the best - hugs

I don't know if the Faces East forum is still active, but it would be a good support for you. Faceseast.org

This is where our culture seriously fails. We believe in only two sides to every story. Either it's 100%, no-holds-barred, every-man-for-himself Capitalism, or it's Socialism. 100% Capitalism doesn't work (for the reasons you pointed out). Capitalism where companies are forced to be transparent and keep their products up to some kind of reasonable code, now that's a system I could really get behind. Just to be clear, what America is doing right now, that's not the kind of Capitalism I'm talking about. That kind of Capitalism is where companies own the government and make things really snuggly for their friends, and really uncomfortable for their enemies.

We rented Maleficent today too. Loved it as much this time as the first time I saw it. There is no bad language in it at all. Not one word. It can get violent, but not graphically so. No blood whatsoever. I did feel very close to the characters. I thought the story was well-told from Maleficent's perspective. I felt all of her emotions, as well as the king's slow slide into insanity and obsession. Aurora was beautifully portrayed I thought. All-in-all, I thought it was great.

I'm with JAG. Even the rich young man could not have been justified by selling all he had. Instead, the obedience would have demonstrated his faith in Jesus. Moses did not require giving up all the money. Jesus told him to do so, very likely to demonstrate that his faith was actually in his money.

Sinners are not justified. Only the repentant.

You forgot iii) It's not ok that people should be rich, despite others starving, or living in want. But using force (which the government is) to correct the problem is also fundamentally wrong

I think this is good summary of how I feel - I also think the warnings the Savior gave to those who are blessed with wealth are real and all of us will be held accountable for what we did with the things we are given. I feel when I vote for more welfare, I'm voting for the following - empowering the gun that is held against the head of each of individual by government - encouraging government dependence - securing the position and wealth of modern day slavers Abraham Lincoln also had this to say

I like what President Abraham Lincoln said. "G-d must love poor people because he sure made a lot of them.” Personally I have never liked the word fair because I believe it is misleading. I believe the proper question would be just. If we make broad judgments without understanding or considering the causes; then by definition we are pre judging or more commonly known as prejudice. Prejudice is not justice. We can no more justly condemn those that have wealth than we can justly condemn those that do not have wealth. One last point – the amount an individual has – has nothing to do with how kind compassionate or helpful they are. In scripture it is the widow that was willing to give of what she had that made her gift great. I can understand the idea that the wealthy should be more giving than the poor. But at the same time – to expect the wealthy to give without expecting the poor to give would be wrong. If we are all equal in the sight of G-d then that would mean that G-d expects all to give of whatever it is that we have. Those that believe money is the only asset or measure of wealth a person can – they are of all men the most foolish. What makes me sad about asking those at church to give is realizing the greatest giving will take place by those with the least to give. I believe this is a sad fact of life. Anytime we expect giving to be done; it will be on the back of the poor - not the rich simply because the rich can bare it more. We should be very careful when we ask for such things – especially realizing that when we ask for ourselves often those that give are just as or more needy than we are.

I am under the impression only GA's that aren't financially backed well enough to tend their own receive a stipend. You have to admit, this is much different than a paid clergy.