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The valve in the photo is in the off position.

So this was released today: https://www.thechurchnews.com/members/2019-10-10/safety-guidelines-lds-meetinghouses-shootings-emergencies-163930

Stealing thunder from @mordorbund, but I think this topic deserves its own thread. Our beloved Prophet, President Russell M. Nelson said So how do you plan to "Select your own questions? Design your own plan. Immerse yourself in the glorious light of the Restoration"? As of now, I am planning on coming over all the doctrines restored in these latter days and pondering on what life would be like without each individual doctrine.

Sigh. Anne Sacoolas is operating on self preservation. It is wrong. She needs to face the music and let UK justice (as unjust as they can be) play out. That said, Trump is the President of the USA, not the King of England. His duty is to his citizens, not the Brits. He is not the "moral arbiter" of America. He is the Executor of LAW. Sacoolas has legal foundation to invoke diplomatic immunity. It is, therefore, the President's duty to protect his citizens within the bounds of the Constitution. Now, let's say Prince Andrew raped an American teen-ager in Epstien's New York apartment. He invokes diplomatic immunity and flees to his Windsor castle. Trump, as the President of the USA, will be fulfilling his duty to the American teen-ager which may include yelling at Boris over the phone or invoking diplomatic sanctions on the UK if necessary to bring Andrew to justice. Boris - if he's a good PM to his Queen - will be fulfilling his duty to Prince Andrew and do everything in his power to protect his legal rights. These duties between Nationalist Countries is exactly what is called DIPLOMACY.

Maybe it bucks the trend of the other responses, but I will offer this. Without knowing exactly how much alone time you really have or how much more "me" time you want, I would venture to say that dads (and moms, too) all deserve a reasonable amount of "me" time. What constitutes a reasonable amount depends on the person and the family, and I don't think we on this side of the internet have any way of knowing exactly what that looks like for you (that's probably where a neutral 3rd party counselor could really help). It seems clear to me from this thread that you need (or at least think you need) more "me" time than you are currently getting. One of the things I learned from Dr. Harley's His Needs Her Needs (mentioned earlier in the thread) is that if meeting your wife's needs causes you pain or causes you to sacrifice your important needs, you will eventually develop some kind of aversion or resentment towards meeting her needs. Do you like country music? Pull up "Too Cold at Home" by Mark Chestnut, and think about what it must be like to not want to go home. I expect it doesn't take a lot of searching to find men (and women) who will hang out at the bar, the golf course, take on extra work, etc. all so they can avoid going home. IMO, we don't want to become that guy who avoids going home because his wife won't let him have a little "me" time. We are only hearing your side of the story, and even then it is a very incomplete picture of what's going on. It sounds like you might as a family just be in a difficult time of life, where you have extra demands at work/school which limits the time you have for everything else and you need to balance that limited time/energy between yourself, your wife, and your family, and that gets to be difficult. I think a good marriage has to find a workable balance between Work's (both Dad's and Mom's) time, Dad's time, Mom's time, couple's time, and family time somewhere within the constraints of the limited time that we are given. It appears to me that you are in the midst of discovering just how hard that can be. I wish I had a concrete answer for you, but I don't. Maybe some intense and careful introspection -- how much of what types of personal time do you really need (and how much of what you want can you really do without)? Where are the work and other outside demands on your time coming from and can you change them (say no to a project at work or delegate more to coworkers)? Anything else that your introspection leads you to consider? Your wife probably needs a similar exercise. Then come together (I can still see value in having a neutral 3rd party present for some of these conversations) and figure out what you can do as a family to balance everyone's needs. I really wish I had more to offer.

@Junior, get marriage counseling.

Hi All, I joined this forum to ask this question. I understand this is somewhat a group of Christians of the LDS variety. I will briefly describe what I believe is a common problem that occurs (unfortunately for me also..) and then asking how to solve. Probably to pray is one of them... but looking for ideas that might not be common and from the perspective of this group. Some of the stuff I have tried does not work yet. Problem is after 15 years of marriage wife is bored, or doesn't respect, or doesn't admire or or, and so on. Have kids, etc... no terrible vices.. well coffee.. Probably root/root cause is/was lazy husband (me) on a few different levels. Some of them not ok to discuss in a family forum probably. Not doing anything wrong, just not enough right things.. So I move us to a new venue (location) to try to improve and insert some excitement. And o boy, it worked but not like I had hoped. In the new venue girl (wife) is attracted and flirting to several other younger guys as the lifestyle is more active. Got bad enough to get to the I love you but not in love with you conversation... Walking on egg shells and so on.. no happy home.. My self analysis of issues is that I am not being a good enough man to keep her interest... and therefore she can not be a good wife. So I find something called red pill marriage, you can find it in reddit. Lots of practical advice and tones of writings that EXACTLY fit my case. Really scary stuff. And scary how close it fits. I have read and understand all that stuff...and decided to try the solution suggested. That involves all self improvements, heavy lifting, meditation and emotional control, dressing/grooming improvements and a few other stuff. One of the last things on the list of actions to do was/is to start flirting other girls to prove to wife that I have value to others... I get the point of this as it will lead my interest away from her and she will either follow after me or we will separate. I so far have refused to take that step as I much prefer some other way. I have compliance now in the home, but I prefer to have desire. Compliance is empty. I don't know for sure if she is faithful, I strongly suspect not and have much circumstantial evidence but no proof so I can be wrong. I want her to come home in spirit/heart/interest. How do you achieve that to happen from your viewpoint ? I still lead the family in prayer at night.. Thanks for the ideas you have. I know how to filter or consider ideas even if they sound crazy or over the top. Bring them, I will like to hear.

I watched the entire video and thought it was excellent. Thanks @Sunday21 for sharing it.

Remember it this way: Generally speaking, valve handles "point" in the direction that they allow flow. So a valve handle pointed along a pipe shows that it allows water to flow along the pipe (i.e. the valve is open), while a valve handle pointing across the pipe "allows" water to "flow" across the pipe—in effect, it stops water flow (i.e. the valve is closed).

@Grunt Thanks for your comment! I did not know if the valve was letting water out or if the valve was turned off!

I am more curious what he meant by "Select your own questions. Design your own plan."?

Nations have the right to prosecute civil crimes (war crimes are handled differently) that are done by/to their citizens regardless of the crime's location. Most of it is handled through international agreements and extradition treaties. The perfect example of this is the case with the Catholic Priests. Priests have Vatican citizenship. The Priests committed crimes outside of the Vatican. The Vatican tried to invoke their prosecutorial rights of their own citizens... it failed - not because it isn't legal but because the outcry was too great such that the Vatican couldn't keep back the pressure. On hypotheticals - let's say, for example, an American couple went to vacation in the Philippines where the husband becomes suspected of killing his wife. The Philippines wouldn't bother with this case as none of its citizens are involved. The US would try the husband in a US court. Now, let's say the husband is American, the wife is Filipino. The Philippines now has a vested interest in the case. If the husband is caught in the Philippines, he would be tried in Philippine court. The US also has a vested interest in the case. The US would most likely send a delegate to ensure the husband is getting a just trial. If the husband manages to enter US Embassy gates before he got caught, the dynamics changes and the Philippine Law Enforcement job becomes more difficult. Now, the Philippines will have to work with the US Embassy to plea for extradition which would require law enforcement to present enough evidence worthy of such. Now, let's say the husband is Filipino, the wife American. The Philippines wouldn't bother with this case as there's no Filipino victim to defend. The US State Department would now be working with the Philippine government to request extradition to try the husband in a US court even if the crime happened in the Philippines. And then there's the additional layer of Diplomatic Immunity. The TV Show - as described - does not go into why the government lets a person with diplomatic immunity go. But, usually, in these cases - a diplomat committing civil crimes not related to their duties gets away with diplomatic immunity because there are assets/relationships/alliances/and yes, even corruption the victim's country wants to protect/maintain/hide... or, in other words, the reason for the resolution of the case usually does not have anything to do with the crime committed.

I would make two suggestions: 1. Pretend that you have been called to give a 15 minute talk on a subject of your choice. Start preparing now to do exactly what you would do to get ready for your conference talk. Write out our talk - make as many drafts as you think necessary. During the sessions of conference you may find it interesting how many talks presented during the sessions touch on your material and quote the same scriptures. 2. The Thursday before conference - fast and pray with and for our general authorities. They will be gathering for a preparatory fast and testimony meeting that Thursday and you can spiritually join with them. The Traveler

I almost made a thread based on this question yesterday. This seems like a far more exciting topic! Me? Not sure yet... so far I think I will just study doctrines unique to our religion and how they effect my life.

Follow up question: What are you doing to prepare for the 2020 April General Conference?

I don't think we should expect the sealed portion to be revealed. I don't think the sealed portion will come forth until after Christ comes. I see this happening because Moroni said that the Jaredite plates were published after Christ came. If 3rd Nephi represents the second coming perhaps what will happen with the Jaredite narrative will be the same--when Christ comes again. It makes sense. It also makes sense that after the publication to the Nephites, the Nephites became so wicked that they destroyed themselves. I think this happened because they had more light and knowledge than ever before.

So, my experience is that reading/studying (and yes, even video gaming) and caring for a non-mobile infant are not mutually exclusive. The schedule overall does sound really tough, but it also sounds like that won’t be a permanent thing. Similarly, your baby will eventually do better at sleeping through the night; which will make those early-morning hours even more productive for you. What does concern me a little, is your wife basically making it impossible for you to get more than five hours of sleep a day, while she herself is (presumably) getting, or at least has an opportunity to get, much more than that. That’s just not sustainable for any length of time, IMHO. But, she apparently doesn’t want to change this (or several other facets of your marriage you find unsatisfactory). There’s no silver-bullet verbiage you can use that will finally make her “get it”. The fact is that you are both very young. You’re not perfect, and neither is she; you’re both being kind of self-centered in your own ways. Each of you will eventually grow out of it—or you won’t. You’ll find a way to live with her demands, or she’ll quit making them, or you’ll start ignoring some of them and she’ll accept that . . . or your marriage will end. Those are really the only four options here, long term.

Preliminary reactions: 1). Beware of the red pill marriage thing. A lot of it doesn’t seem to be rooted in the sort of Christlike husbandry Paul teaches in Ephesians. 2). Specifically, the flirting bit. There’s no aphrodisiac quite like loyalty. 3). You need to get to the bottom of your suspicions on adultery; whether that means a frank conversation, a PI, or something else. 4). https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2000/10/agency-and-love-in-marriage?lang=eng

Looks like a type of ball valve.

What time do you *start* work? (How many hours per day are you working, versus home?) If you’re working 8 AM to 10 PM - that’s a rough schedule, bro; and I hope you have a long-term plan to get out from under that. If you’re doing 8 hour workdays and home most of the rest of the time - I think it’s normal to want maybe 30 minutes to an hour of primarily “me” time per day (certainly that would include scripture study), and reasonable to ask a spouse to accommodate that (with maybe very occasional additions for additional hobbies/friends/other activities). But that “me” time might be in early mornings before she’s awake, or some such thing. You’re going to have to be willing to stretch some to make it work. When we marry, we become primarily “family men”; and our identities and interests and pastimes will necessarily morph in that direction. It has ever been thus. With that said—based on some of your earlier posts, your wife does seem extraordinarily . . . interested in facets of your life that don’t necessarily concern her as much as she seems to think they do. I stand by my earlier suggestion that some of what you’ve written raises domestic violence-type red flags. But as I said, it’s your call what you do with that info.

Each session from different historic locations. Saturday AM session: Palmyra. Saturday PM Session: Peter Whitmer Farm. Priesthood session: Kirtland Temple Sunday AM Session: Far West Missouri Sunday PM Session: Nauvoo

Have you tried playing a video game together? Try and find one you both enjoy.

In Doctrine and Covenants Section 122 the Lord talks to Joseph Smith about Trials and why they happen, why he allows them. We can learn a lot from this. The first thing we can learn is that the Lord used words like Tribulation and Perils. He did not use words like Party and Celebration. Therefore we should expect it to push us, to try us, and cost us things we hold dear. Or to use the vernacular its going to suck. As much as we might want it to be easy that is not the plan for when the Lord has Trials for us. (We also can bring Trials upon ourselves but that is a different discussion) The plan is as the Lord says in verse 7 While we might not understand the why and the whats of our Trials the Lord does and no one should expect to be able to avoid or remove the trial. It will end when the Lord has accomplished his purpose. And his purpose is listed in verse 7 above and in Abraham 3 :25 Given the Lord's reasoning and purposes we should not be Surprised when President Eyring in a recent conference said how he found about half the families he would visit would be in the middle of some kind of trial or crisis. (Remember that next time you think someone else has a perfect life) Thus we should expect such trials to happen often, they will hopefully be different, and some might last longer then others, but they will happen. Faithfulness, Obedience, Spirituality, Prayer, Scripture Study and all other standard church answers... do not get us a pass on the Trials that God has ordained for us (but they can help us through them). When we are in the middle of such a trial is normal and natural to desire as Christ did for this 'cup to pass from us.' Less commonly for us to we follow up that statement like Christ did 'Never the less not my will be done but thine' More often we want to point the finger of blame at someone. Family, Friend, The Church, etc. However it is totally unreasonable to expect anyone to be able to thwart the will of God when he has a purpose for us. The only one with any reasonable control over the duration is us and that is dependent on how quickly we accomplish the purposes of God and become proven. The best we can hope for from any Family Members, Friends, The Church, etc is the general ideas found in the expectations for baptism (Aka be willing to mourn with those that mourn, comfort those in need of comfort etc). And none of that can remove the trial. And even that can fail. After all how many of us when we feel our trials to be overwhelming and more then we can bear... when in that deepest and darkest moment feel that we can and are willing to reach out and help someone else? Not many generally. And if are unwilling to do so we have no grounds to really complain when others do not do so either. Given President Eyring's guesstimate of half that is a lot of people already struggling. For those that can or those that are currently between trials they still have there own choices to make, and if they choose to try to help, sometimes what they end up doing is the wrong thing, or its not what we want for us... or many other possibilities. None of these issue are fixable at the group or institutional level. No matter how much someone seeking to blame others might try to point their finger at them. It has to be fixed at the individual level of becoming Christ-like. The best a group or institution can do is encourage such 'becoming' while allowing all to move at whatever pace they can.

When I was a youth - it was difficult to attend at the tabernacle - which was the only way to watch conference. Often we would listen to October Saturday conference sessions via portable radio somewhere in the mountains while deer hunting. We would hurry home to attend the priesthood session at the local tabernacle - there were times we would be late and come still dressed in our hunting attire as many others that were late and also so dressed. BYU was the first to offer a broadcast (in black and white) of the priesthood session when I was a student. Then when raising my own family we would have to go to a stake center (while I was living outside of Utah) to enjoy live conference sessions. When we moved to Washington state I installed a side band into my stereo system and we were able to listen to conference at home. (I could also get BYU sports on the side band). Thanks for the reminder of how things have changed - for the better. The Traveler

I have psych challenges. It has the capacity to really hurt not only a marriage but children as well. The reason I'm still married with healthy kids of driving age is because I was able to identify and accept that I have a mental health challenge and develop coping mechanisms to alleviate its effects. I ran away from the psychologist who tried to get me on a treatment with drugs - not that I didn't think the drugs will help but I am like John Nash - I'd rather deal with something I know and understand than deal with the side-effects of drugs that I don't know nor understand and addles my willpower. I was able to tell my husband about it so he had a choice to either marry me and be my partner in dealing with it or walk away from it. And my kids were born into that knowledge. Just because she found a solution in the occult for her symptoms doesn't mean that's where she needs to stay. The first step is identifying the problem correctly. The second step is figuring out good and lasting ways to cope with the existing problem. Training your brain to solve its own problems can only happen if the brain knows what the problem is.

If the genders here were flipped, Junior, this would be a classic domestic violence perp/victim relationship. Do what you will with that bit of information.

The ones my wife and I have seen are about $75-85 for an hour session. Still a lot, but we saw one once a week for a month to get ourselves a good basis of what to work on, then did it once a month. Now it’s just as needed. I would also talk to your bishop and see if he can help financially with it.

In this day and age of atheism and unbelief, people of all faiths need to back each other up. I'm glad you were able to stick up for your beliefs with the help of your fellow student!

I think we are all familiar with Pres Nelson's statement from his first GC as the prophet: "In coming days, it will not be possible to survive spiritually without the guiding, directing, comforting, and constant influence of the Holy Ghost." If we combine that with the whole idea of a home centered and church supported approach I think we are being told that gone are the days (if those days ever existed) where parents can delegate part of their responsibilities to the Church in raising their kids. The world is simply becoming too dark to expect a couple hours on Sunday and a couple more during the week to keep our youth safe. If parents and families don't raise the bar and start creating a Proclamation on the Family home their children will be in grave danger notwithstanding the Church's efforts. Remember, half the virgins were foolish and not ready for the Bridegroom's coming. Imagine how many youth will be raised in those homes. Its a sad thought but we live in a sad world. Of course we do what we can to save as many as possible but we fool ourselves if we believe this new youth program needs to be some all encompassing venture to be successful. The whole point of the program is to help youth and families learn to become more spiritually self-sufficient.

basically I work 8-22 Monday-Wed Fri--Sat and Thursday I finish 19. On Thursday I still get home at 22:30 because it's time for me to spend with my mom and siblings. Yeah I have a plan, I'm working so many hours at the moment because I'm an apprentice and I need to get my USPTA Professional certificate so I can become a tennis coach. I have my junior one so I assist in teaching kids and I do sooo much club admin and I run the evening social sessions, but basically until I have the certificate I can't give private lessons so it's almost impossible for me to make enough money now. But soon I am going to get the certificate and then I will be able to choose my hours more. Yeah the thing is she doesn't like it if I go to bed early like before 00:30 because she wants to spend time with me, and then the baby wakes up at 5AM and then I have to care for her because my wife says I haven't seen her since yesterday morning. I can't get any me time 😥I do find caring for my daughter quite relaxing most mornings but it doesn't help with the exhaustion I feel . I have 14 hour work days and I know it's not good that I leave my wife and baby for so long but I can't afford to work less hours. and I think my wife should understand that I have to work all these hours and give me a break to be on my own and relax . Before the baby was born she always let me have time on my own, because she understood that's how I relax and it's not an insult to her I just like being on my own, but now she doesn't let me have time to myself

read the post and look at the lines which end with a question mark 😂